All of the nap talk got me thinking. Our little guy used to be a good napper, but it's been a struggle lately. He rarely sleeps longer than 45 minutes (I'm going to read about the 45 minute intruder, thanks to Lisa mentioning it in another post - no clue what it is right now) and since the 3 month growth spurt (approx 2 weeks ago it started), he wants to eat at least every hour.
So I'm wondering if now he is actually still eating every hour, or if it's a comfort thing (he won't take a pacifier). He used to nap every 1-1.5 hours, but now he is napping maybe 2 or 3 times a day and he has started this SCREAMING until he gets mommy/the boob. He doesn't scream all day or constantly or anything. But it does happen anywhere from 1-3 times per day, I'd guess.
So our days used to be pretty predictable - needs a nap every 1-1.5 hours, eats approximately every 2-3 hours. Our days now... geez. Eats every 45 minutes or so and naps... well, no telling when a nap might happen, despite efforts to get him to nap. All of this since the 3 month growth spurt. Just a couple weeks before that I went back to work and the nanny started being "in charge" of naps and play. I work in our home, so I still BF.
I always wanted to let him decide when he eats, because I don't want my supply affected. Until about a month old, he also decided when to nap... once he hit about 5 weeks, though, he was too aware and would fight his naps, so they started being dictated, I guess. But now I'm wondering if I need to start outlining a schedule for our days. I guess I could still let him decide when he eats and just force the nap issue with him. My mind is so muddled right now, I guess, because I don't know if he's nursing because he's actually hungry (my mind is going through possible supply issue thoughts now) or if he just wants to get away from the nanny and just wants mom or if he's tired and cranky and wants to nurse to sleep. It's the screaming that really confuses me - he has never screamed like this before and he'll settle once he's handed off to me and knows I'm getting ready to nurse him. But I guess I just can't tell WHY he wants to nurse. Most times, only 45 minutes will have passed since his last session and sometimes he woke from a nap less than an hour beforehand too. So hunger and being overtired don't seem like obvious options...
Anyway - I'm confused and just don't know what to think. If you BF and schedule your day, would you mind giving an example of your schedule? We need to be flexible - I can't be tied to his crib for nap times. How is your supply? What do you do if your baby is SCREAMING and nursing seems to be the only thing to soothe him? It's the intensity of the scream that has me confused and worried... it even worries our dog. She learned to ignore his noises VERY early on, but any time he screams like this, she comes flying over to lick him and try to soothe him. The first time he did it, I flew into the other room to see if the nanny was hurting him. No joke.
Advice? Anything? I'm confused, like I think I said a few times, so I hope this whole post makes sense...
Boy #1, born 6/5/2011
Boy #2, born 8/27/2014
Currently... Pregnant with mo/di BOY TWINS! Due September 15. Latest induction will be 37w.