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Two Under 2
Feeling Depressed
As my due date for baby # 2 draws near, I'm feeling kind of down lately. This baby came as a complete surprise and was not planned at all. I feel bad because there isn't the same excitement around this babe as there was with DD. I also feel like this baby is getting cheated because (s)he's getting all used items and I haven't really bought anything for this baby with the exception of a few sleepers. On top of all that, I was really starting to enjoy the fact that DD is becoming more independent. Yes I still have to change her diapers, clothe, bathe, etc. But I can leave the room to put in a load of laundry and not have to worry. Plus, it's so easy if I need to run an errand to just take her with me. Lastly, I feel like I got cheated out of a pregnancy. This is most likely our last baby. And I feel like I didn't get to enjoy the pregnancy at all because it came as such a surprise.
End of feeling sorry for myself.
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Re: Feeling Depressed
#2 was a surprise for us too. I didn't spend much time focusing on my pregnancy and had to remind myself to talk to the baby and whatnot. I was worried that I couldn't possibly love anyone, as much as I loved DD1. The adjustment from 1-2, was definitely easier than 0-1. You'll develop a new definition of what's easy. I went shopping on Sunday with just the baby and it was wonderful to have a sweet shopping buddy (the toddler hates shopping). You'll go through so many emotions with 2u2.
What an adorable post!
This was me too! I was very apprehensive about it throughout my whole pregnancy even in the OR (C/S). Then I heard DD2 cry....all of that went away. I am happier than I ever could have dreamt and I wouldn't change a thing. Everything is as it was meant to be and I have embraced that. The crazy thing....I have wanted another since before we even left the hospital. I am so in love!
OP, you will be too. All the "new" things won't matter once you have that sweet LO in your arms. That sweet child won't even know the difference. All my best to you and yours! I hope you take a few moments before the birth to just breathe and feel the movement from within. You will feel much better later knowing you did.
I understand. My sister once said that around 18 months you get really used to things and happy your LO is sleeping well. It was true for me. I felt like he JUST was more independant and then BAM I had a newborn again. I can say that the independance helped me look at DS as a toddler and not a baby anymore, making the adjustment for me easier when I had DD.
try and tell yourself you arent in the right frame of mind to try and rationalize all of this. You are pregnant, and almost DONE. You are tired and emotional, anxiety ridden etc. Trust us as we all say, all those feelings will subside. Once you hear your baby's cry you will fall in love again, and your heart will grow to fit that love. You will look at your older LO differently and fall in love again with the way she acts towards her little sibling.
hang in there