Naptime- does anyone else feel guilty?

12bailey18

I should start off by saying that DD is an "easy" baby and DS hasn't had any issues adjusting. We're all doing great....which I think is why I'm feeling guilty.

It seems like everyday I look forward to the afternoon when both kids are napping. I feel guilty for being so happy that I get an hour or two to myself. LOL. It's not like things are miserable when they're awake so I feel like I shouldn't be so happy when they're both asleep. Can anyone relate? If not, please tell me I'm being ridiculous. TIA!

HelloWaldorf

We have the same situation going on here- Both little guys take a nice long nap after lunch time. I love that I get a little bit of mommy time each day, take advantage, and enjoy!

I don't think you're being ridiculous at all! 

LJR 84

I don't think you're being ridiculous at all either! DS is still too young to be on a real schedule...but if he for some reason naps when DD does in the afternoon, I REALLY enjoy it! I think we all need a little bit of "me" time during the day.

I don't think you should feel guilty about that one bit.

kcisthebombdotcom

I've had a similar experience with 2 easy babies, and I still yearn for naptime where they both sleep at the same time.

Even if it's not hard in the sense that you're avoided dealing with colicky newborn/a jealous older child who throws lots of tantrums, it's a lot of work. Someone always needs something. Wanting a bit of a break is totally normal, and I'd think you were ridiculous if you DIDNT ever feel like this honestly.

Sarahbear621

I only think you are crazy if you DIDN'T look forward to that time alone!!!  Our DD comes in the next 6 weeks and I'm hoping we can get her afternoon nap at the same time as DS so on the weekends DH and I will get some alone time together.  If not I feel the drepression already kick in.

earthboundmisfit

Lol Bedtime is my favorite part of the day sometimes! My older DD doesn't nap anymore so it's the only time that I get to myself. I love my kids, I'd do ANYTHING for them..but I still need a break and I still need me time. Easier said than done..but don't feel guilty. You have to take care of you [mentally/physically] to be the best mommy that you can be. And if that means you look forward to naptime..so what!? It's not like you prefer them to be asleep..just that you enjoy it when they are. Nothing wrong with that.

juliane2004

I am so so incredibly happy when they are asleep at the same time. I make it my sole goal every day to have that happen. You are not alone and you should not feel guiilty.

AmandaP678

My older one doesnt nap, but I enjoy my time at night when they finally fall asleep.

But I can relate. I used to feel (and still do) feel guilty about leaving my older one at the gym so I can work out for an hour. I haven't left my younger one yet, I'm sure I'll feel even more guilty then.

CaitlinJ22

I enjoy every second of my alone time!!! i know the napping together wont last...enjoy it!

kfriscia

Are you crazy! Dont feel guilty. I love love my boys but naps and bedtime are what keeps me sane! And they were EASY babies too.

DeniseNike

You are a bad mother!!!!!!!!! LOL no, I think its so normal to be able to catch your breath! I love when my lil one naps, it gives me a change to relax and enjoy a few things or catch up with chores around the house. I am expecting a baby boy, well 11 days ago, and when he gets here I will probably be on cloud 9 when they are both sleep. I love my babes but sometimes it can be overwhelming and it does not mean we are not strong loving mommas. Take comfort in knowing that even those who claim its bad, secretly wish they can join the elite group of moms who are human!

sweetpea2003

Nope. No guilt for enjoying nap time.

We all need a "break".  And I put break in quotes because I am typically cleaning, gardening, doing laundry, or preparing to do lists during their nap.  I rarely actually rest or nap myself.  But when I do let myself doze for 30 minutes or just vegge in front of the TV I feel absolutely no guilt.

I guess I feel like I work my butt off.  Also, I am a major believer that sleep is incredibly important for kids.  It is good for them.  Why feel guilty about something they need and that helps you get something done?!

ftr, I don't feel guilty about early bedtimes either.   

lizziebee106

The only thing I feel guilty about during naptime is not using the time to do things around the house (laundry/cleaning, etc).  We just moved a month ago and I still have about 15 boxes that need to be unpacked, as well as pictures that need to be hung.  Instead, I hold DD2 so that she naps at the same time as DD1 (I know I will have to break this habit soon) so that I can sit in front of the TV and veg out during naptime.  It's prob one of my favorite times of the day!

 

roundtheworldgirl

Yes, I completely relate.  Naptime is almost always my favorite time of day.  Right now I have an almost-2-year-old (she turns 2 tomorrow) who is in the throes of the terrible 2s.  I am beyond frustrated with her most of the time lately.  And the baby is teething.  And someone is always crying.  If I can get some naptime overlap, it's amazing. 

I feel guilty because this time is so fleeting and it's slipping away, and honestly, I am not enjoying it as much as I feel like I should.