If your 2U2 are here, I need a pep talk

ludicrous · September 2011

DS will be here by the end of next week and as it gets closer I find myself getting sad about DD not being the only child any more and I worry about how she will react, if she will be angry with us, feel left out or neglected etc. I realize feeling this way is probably normal but I thought for some reason it wouldn't affect me. Any words of wisdom or advice?

kcisthebombdotcom · September 2011

Of course, your feelings are normal.

I wouldnt spend too much time worrying how she will react. She is still very young, so she may have no reaction at all. Even if she does have a reaction, it will be short lived.

Instead of dwelling on what you're taking away, focus on what you will be giving her. She will have a sibling close in age to share her life/play with. The benefits outweigh the downfalls for sure.

HelloWaldorf · September 2011

You're feelings are totally normal. I felt the same way at the end of my pregnancy.

I found that setting aside a little bit of undivided "mommy time" each day helped DS1 transition easier. I hope everything goes well for you. I'm sure DD will be a wonderful big sister!

AmandaP678 · September 2011

I remember feeling the same way because I knew I wouldn't be able to give 1:1 anymore. So the closer my due date got the more time I really tried to spend with him.

CaitlinJ22 · September 2011

I agree with KC, you have to focus on the positive. I did expect a few weeks of adjustment and that was only 2 weeks long and my son was 18 months when DD was born, so he was older. I do think if I had a baby now (DD is 15 months) she would barely notice.

DS and DD are in love, they sing to each other and kiss randomly, they hate being without the other one. You are giving her a life long friend. focus on that

randa0880 · September 2011

My older dd honestly has not paid dd2 much attention. When dd2 is napping, which is quite a bit, we are playing. DD1 lets me know when she wants mommy time. The morning is the worst if I don't get up before the older one does because both girls want fed at the same time. Otherwise, it has not been that bad, I was expecting worse. This past week was kind of rough due to dd1 cutting 4 teeth at the same time, but we survived. I will say this-if dd1 did not put herself to sleep, it would be so much harder!