Ugh, naps. My mortal enemy.
DD will only nap on me/at the breast. They are usually 45 mins-an hour and a half, three times a day. I don't have a real problem with it, except it is hard for me to get anything done (like dishes and housework and homework since grad school is back in session). She does not like the swing (we have the Fisher Price take along precious planet) and she does not like the carrier (we have a Moby). If she is overtired, which seems to happen a lot since she is a shiitty napper, she will literally only sleep while using me as a pacifier. As in, if I unlatch her, she will wake up. She will not take an actual pacifier and usually won't take her thumb, either.
Today at our 4 month well-baby our pedi suggested we CIO for naps. I think that is a bit ridiculous. I'm NOT saying CIO is ridiculous, though I admit I am against it, but it seemed strange to be having a CIO discussion for naps interspersed with a discussion on how well DD is thriving. We were being told that she is very healthy and happy ohbytheway CIO for naps please. Pedi also said that she is manipulating me for naps, which I don't agree that a 4-month-old is capable of doing.
I have tried letting her fall asleep on me and moving her elsewhere but her eyes pop open as soon as I let go and she is awake. I have tried letting her fuss, but it ends up in an all out cry 100% of the time (literally). I have tried some CIO, like letting her go for 5 mins (since it is usually 2 mins of fuss then a minute of real cry then more fuss then real cry, etc). Even that doesn't seem to be working... I will hear her get her thumb and start to soothe and then cry again. When she doesn't nap well on me, she is just awful to be around by about 5pm. And it is a given that I am trying these things when she is full, dry, comfortable, and tired. She is teething but is on acetaminophen, so that is not the issue, and she is in a quiet, dark room. I've tried pick up put down during fussing, and I've tried check ins (like back rubs or smoothing her hair but not talking or giving eye contact) and that doesn't seem to work either.
She is a perfect night sleeper, which is the frustrating thing. We give her a bath, a nurse her in the glider and we put her in the PNP, out like a light for 12 hours. So why is it so damn hard for her to nap?! I'd understand if we just got a "bad sleeper", but we didn't! At this point, I'm tempted to start following the bedtime routine to a tee during the day (bath, nurse, sleep) and just giving a short bath with no soap or anything just so she gets the hint, but that also seems ridiculous.
So please, successful nappers, teach me about naps and how you got there! Has anyone tried the No Cry Nap Solution? That is my next resort because I don't know wtf to do... I worry about "bad habits", as well as getting my school work done in a timely way.
ETA: We have also tried white noise and napping in a sleep sack like night time. And if the answer is "look, you are a SAHM. suck it up and let her nap on you so you will both be happy" then so be it. I would be happy to do that if there was some confirmation that I am doing the right thing, I can find a balance with getting stuff done.