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Cholzmei

Flame Free Friday Confession time.  Put em up!

Cholzmei

I have two.  One silly, one serious.

 

The silly one is that I'm addicted to putting lots of ~ and * on the weekly posts so they are easier to find.  I feel like every week I add more of them....

 

The serious one is definitely flameworthy, and I feel very guilty about this. We are going to downsize our pet family.  I never EVER thought I would be "that person" but, as people tend to annoyingly predict, you'll never know how you feel until you are expecting a baby.  We have a dog and 4 cats.  The cats happened because my husband is a cat person, not a dog person, so I was able to get him to cave on getting "one more cat" several times.  When we were first married, we had just one cat.  I have no qualms about admitting that my cats were my baby substitutes.  I really wanted to start trying for a baby 3 years ago, but my husband was still in grad school and it wasn't good timing at all for us financially.  So, instead, I kept getting cats.  Well, first one cat, then one kitten... and then last year, a teammate's cat had kittens, and I pressured and pressured until MH finally caved.  I feel most guilty about that one.  Number 4 was definitely a mistake.  The thing is... my cats are not babies.  I love them, but they are a lot of work and it is expensive to have so many.  Now that MH is on litter duty, I think he fully appreciates how much work it is to clean out litter pans for 4 cats.  I just feel guilty.... I have never given up a pet for convenience before and it makes me feel like an irresponsible person.  If we can't find good homes for the two we are trying to get rid of, it's not like I'm going to dump them at the shelter... but I am definitely trying hard to get them out of here.

WillsBride52309

I can totally relate to the wanting to downsize the pet population.  My husband as his dog were a package deal - and I hate this dog.  Like really, truly hate.  I work from home and I am here with the nitwit dog every day, cleaning up the hair and the messes, etc.  DH never really cleans up after him and babies him so he is a terrible dog.  We can't even have friends over bc the dog constantly barks in their faces.  I asked DH if the dog can stay with his parents when the baby comes so I can have my mom stay with me for a while to help me when he goes back to work.  I got a big fat no.  So...I'll be here by myself taking care of a newborn and a dog I hate.  Yay....

LilyPotter218

I am SICK of getting an u/s every week. #7 scheduled for Tuesday morning. I am tired of taking off and making up work. I don't have enough sick/personal time so I am forced to make up the time getting in early. I am really hoping LO and my ute cooperate and my next scan is not until the AS!

 

heatheroo

I have had fast food three times this week. now that's how I feel.

vcukoko82

I think its kind of crazy that people drink alcohol while being pregnant.  I definitely miss my wine, but not that much. 

Myblondasianbabies

Of all the thousands of people to know I'm pregnant, including my work and complete randoms, I told my mom nearly last.

McGibbon51311

@Cholzmei - MH and I are in the same boat as you right now. We have a cat, two chinchillas and we have one ferret. Even if we had the money to continue taking care of them on top of paying for the babies, they deserve more attention. We won't have the time that they need once the babies come, so we have also started looking for homes for a couple of the pets. But, like you, I refuse to put them in a shelter so we're only giving them up if we can find them good homes. I hate being "that person" but I'd rather suck it up and be that person and do the right thing for the pets, then not do the right thing for them and keep them just because. 

My FFFC (which I'm still honestly trying to figure out exactly what it is... so I may be wrong).... is that I hate seeing/reading/hearing pregnant women talk about drinking alcohol. It makes me so angry and I don't even know why. It's their decision but for some reason it just irritates me a lot. 

lulling

I think we are going to tell people about the pregnancy on Monday.  I DON'T want to.  I am totally against it.  Totally.  I just don't ever want anyone else to know.  I still think it is a good idea to just show up at a family function in March with the baby and say, "Surprise!  It's a baby!  No...it's ours.  Really, it is."  I know I sound like a crazy moron, but that is how I feel.

I don't want to start showing, buy maternity clothes, tell people about the pregnancy, stay at home instead or work, breastfeed, or do anything that a mom should want to do.  I am looking forward to doing a nursery...that's about it. 

JINGSI

Myblondasianbabies:

Of all the thousands of people to know I'm pregnant, including my work and complete randoms, I told my mom nearly last.

I laughed out loud after reading this--so much so that it warrants more than a "lol" or even a "lmao."  

Cholzmei

McGibbon51311:

@Cholzmei - MH and I are in the same boat as you right now. We have a cat, two chinchillas and we have one ferret. Even if we had the money to continue taking care of them on top of paying for the babies, they deserve more attention. We won't have the time that they need once the babies come, so we have also started looking for homes for a couple of the pets. But, like you, I refuse to put them in a shelter so we're only giving them up if we can find them good homes. I hate being "that person" but I'd rather suck it up and be that person and do the right thing for the pets, then not do the right thing for them and keep them just because.

Yeah, that is a big part of it too... I don't feel like I am giving the cats enough attention already since I got pregnant.  I can only imagine how it will be with a baby in the house (and in your case, two!).  We are just trying to give away two of the cats.  I think two cats and a dog will be a much more manageable load.  The cats have really been on my nerves too since I've gotten pregnant.  They are always underfoot and getting into little fights with each other and grating on my nerves in other ways .  I think they feel neglected already...

McGibbon51311:

My FFFC (which I'm still honestly trying to figure out exactly what it is... so I may be wrong)

Flame Free Friday Confession.  Things that you think but do not say on other days because you fear that you might get flamed for saying them.  Of course, this thread isn't a flame free zone.... people are going to get into tiffs over stuff that is said here....

ashleybt

Here's mine:  I'm SOOO tired of people telling me I "have" to find out what we're having. I don't HAVE to do anything, and if we change our mind and decide to find out the sex, I have a list of people I will make sure to NOT tell!

mishpug

I don't want to tell people we are having twins. I am sick of the dumbass comments. People do not think before they speak and it grates. If I have one more person tell me 'it's going to be so much work, you'll be miserable' OR how their third cousin lost twins when they were 6.5 months pregnant, I am going to punch someone.

JINGSI

My belly has begun to sprout a luxurious fur coat for the winter. Unfortunately I have not found it to provide any extra warmth, as yet. 

jgal84

I ate half a bag of tostitos this morning. And, I will be having pizza for lunch.......not looking forward to getting weighed at my Dr's appointment next week

salt78

I am likely going to have two lunches today because I was so starving by the time noon rolled around that I ate a can of Bernie O's that I had on my desk. (Normally I eat at around 2.)

Mrs_MBed

JINGSI:

Myblondasianbabies:

Of all the thousands of people to know I'm pregnant, including my work and complete randoms, I told my mom nearly last.

I laughed out loud after reading this--so much so that it warrants more than a "lol" or even a "lmao."  

Ha! So did I!  And then I got a little sad b/c I did nearly the same thing.  When I told her, her response was "Oh no Meg!"

My FFFC is that I can't stand my mom right now.  I don't want to talk to her or even hear about her latest crap.  As much as I miss the rest of family and friends I am so glad that I live out of state.  Otherwise I'd be stuck in the "Sheryl Show" like my sister is. 

Also, sometimes I wish I wasn't having twins.  I have moved past the shock, butI am freaked out by all the complications associated with multiples pg and worry about how thats going to  affect the girls.  even making it through the pg, I have no idea how I'm going to handle two newborns, the girls and moving (DH starts residency in July, so we move in June).  DH finishes rotations at the beginning of April, so I'll be somewhat on my own when they're first born.  We will have friends/family flying in to help (God help me when my mom comes ), so it shouldnt be too bad, but still. 

Can I just stay in my bed with the blanket over my head?

jajsundevil

The watermelon at the end of the fruit ticker scares me.  I knew that's what I was getting into and I knew the common comparison is pooping out a watermelon, nevertheless seeing that watermelon looming at the end is daunting.

kmt1986

I'm going on my lunch break to the movie theatre by our house (20 minutes away) to buy tickets for tonight's showing of Lion King in 3D because I'm scared they'll sell out.  Ridiculous?  I don't care.  Hakuna Matata!

salt78

jajsundevil:

The watermelon at the end of the fruit ticker scares me.  I knew that's what I was getting into and I knew the common comparison is pooping out a watermelon, nevertheless seeing that watermelon looming at the end is daunting.

Ditto all this. Every time I pass the watermelon bin at the grocery store, I get a little lightheaded. 

books4brooke

I freaked out last night because I hadn't felt the baby jump around.  I usually feel it everyday after I eat, so I was really concerned even though it's still so early.

Sometimes I wish I could flag certain posts to point people back to once they've had children.  Rigid beliefs about parenting tend to be disproven, though I do think when people have easy babies/pregnancy/births and everything turns out exactly how they planned, they become more rigid and think everyone's baby/pregnancy/birth must be like that.   

Sometimes I can't believe how much my beliefs about parenting have changed.  If I could see the things I write now when I was pregnant with my son... 

lulling

jajsundevil:

The watermelon at the end of the fruit ticker scares me.  I knew that's what I was getting into and I knew the common comparison is pooping out a watermelon, nevertheless seeing that watermelon looming at the end is daunting.

Ha!  I love that!  My husband asked me a few weeks ago what fruit the baby was that week.  I told him.  (I don't remember what it was.)  He asked me, "So when is the baby the size of...a baby?"   

McGibbon51311

salt78:

jajsundevil:

The watermelon at the end of the fruit ticker scares me.  I knew that's what I was getting into and I knew the common comparison is pooping out a watermelon, nevertheless seeing that watermelon looming at the end is daunting.

Ditto all this. Every time I pass the watermelon bin at the grocery store, I get a little lightheaded. 

Haha you guys are great, that definitely made me smile. What's that supposed to mean if you're carrying two? Do I get two watermelons, or can I just say that I get a big 'ol pumpkin? 

mishpug

books4brooke:

I freaked out last night because I hadn't felt the baby jump around.  I usually feel it everyday after I eat, so I was really concerned even though it's still so early.

Sometimes I wish I could flag certain posts to point people back to once they've had children.  Rigid beliefs about parenting tend to be disproven, though I do think when people have easy babies/pregnancy/births and everything turns out exactly how they planned, they become more rigid and think everyone's baby/pregnancy/birth must be like that.   

Sometimes I can't believe how much my beliefs about parenting have changed.  If I could see the things I write now when I was pregnant with my son... 

I just have to tell you the picture of your son in your signature is so adorable! Also, DH and I laugh all the time about having to eat our pre-baby words.

SheenaNash1

I had my first crying meltdown in public this week. We were eating in a teryiaki place and we started talking about how much time DH will take off when the baby is here and it just hit me that in a few months we are going to be taking a real, live baby home and we are going to have to raise it. I totally freaked out and we had to leave because I couldn't stop from cryng. I just spent the whole car ride home saying things like "but its actually going to happen!" and "we can't go back now!' DH was amazing and just calmly told me all the right things about how we are going to be great parents and all that. But it's terrifying! A REAL BABY...

amor_eterno

I'll play today!

Board-related: I find it SO annoying when people are like, "I drank a beer" or "I ate sushi" or whatever other "risky" thing they did. What, do you want a cookie?! I find it incredibly immature that they need/want validation for whatever it is they did.

Real life: School has only been on for 2 weeks and I already called in today. I've had a pretty easy pregnancy and haven't been sick or anything but once I got around 30 kids, that all went to hell. I wish these parents would teach their kids to cover their mouths when they sneeze and cough but they're little so they'd forget either way. All I know is that I'm not going to push through and make myself go to work when I'm sick like I used to when I wasn't pregnant.

MTAtlanta

Oh no - that is so hard! It sounds like you're responsible and are doing it for their benefit, and you're trying to find them great homes and are aware of how many are in shelters needing homes. Still hard though - I'm so sorry!

We have one dog and one cat and I've started taking the dog to 'doggie daycamp' twice a week. I never thought I'd be one of those people, but jeez! Commuting 2 hours a day plus working full time - I'm happy to 'outsource' that since it's not that expensive. He sleeps so great after being there all day and I don't have to walk him in the heat after work. He's happy and I'm happy and we're sticking with it! I even take him some weekends because it's half price. AWESOME.

My confession is that I get very jealous when I see so many on the boards who are enjoying fast food - I have not had fast food at all, am eating healthy food, doing a PG DVD every day after work, and I still seem to be gaining more weight than most! I gained almost 7 pounds in the first tri and I get anxious just thinking about getting on the scale at my next appt. I started out at 120 before getting PG, and I often wish I had weighed myself down at the first appointment somehow with heavy clothes or something so that I could get away with looking less 'bad' at the next weigh in.

I am obviously insane.

Alliebooberz

I am not looking forward to election season... 4 years ago when that came around... I left the bump for ... um... until I got pregnant with this one haha.  I HATE the constant discussion of politics.  I am TOTALLY Passionate about how I feel about things and I stand firmly on what I believe... but I do not feel the need to talk about it constantly.  I'm afraid that I'm going to have to bow out of the boards and facebook too again this time around.  And God please don't let this start a politics debate lol.

retallica

I really bothers me when I see people on here giving out really stupid and completely wrong advice.