to find out OR to keep it a surprise..? (re:gender)

becketts

We found out with DD and we'll find out again.  The first reason is that DH feels like he would tend to develop a preference and would like to know what we're expecting so he can make that his preference.  The second reason is that I would like to get DD prepared for a baby brother or baby sister.  Third, figuring out a name is really tricky so we'd like to narrow our selection by 50%.  Finally, I have quite a few totes of clothes and stuff that DD's outgrown.  I would rather go through them to see what's usable when I only have one "helper." 

balibaby

We found out at 19 weeks for dd who was our first. With my second pregnancy, I really wanted to wait, so we did. I have to say I was so upset about waiting to find out. I felt so much more disconnected in mysecond pregnancy with ds. For months and months after the birth I was really, really upset about having been team green. I really almost felt deeply guilty towards the baby that I didn't refer to him by his name/gender throughout the pregnancy:( it was really sad for me and to this day it still upsets me. Also, at his delivery, he came so fast, my OB missed the delivery. I'm not even sure who delivered him since it was less than 20 minutes after we got to the hospital and things were very intense. So, the dr. Who delivered him, nurses etc didn't know we didn't know the sex, so I had to ask them to tell me which felt somewhat anticlimatic. Also, we had about two outfits for him when we got home and by day two he was in some of his sister's old purple pants, not a big deal, but don't kid yourself and think you will have time or energy to shop for super cute outfits as you woul have while you were pregnant. For me, I 110% regretted being team green, just my 2 cents.