DH still going to appointments?

mrs.bridgettkay

Is your DH going to your doctor's appointments with you?  The last few have been brief and there has really been no need for him to be there.  I'm trying to decide if it really pays for him to take off work and come to my next appointment.

Mrs.Trask

DH rarely comes with me.  They are so quick there is no need for it.  He came to all but one ultrasound, and he did come to a couple appts when he didn't have to be at work until later in the day.  I wouldn't ask him to schedule work around my appts though.  I just tell them when they are and he knows he can come if he wants to or can.

rt022104

Only if we're having an ultrasound or something; otherwise I'd rather he save his time off for after the baby comes (rather than watching me get my blood pressure taken and my belly measured!)

tigerlillie101

mine comes with me most of the time, but it is totally his choice and he likes to come. I have told him multiple times that I can go alone but he loves hearing the baby's heart beat every week. I think it's sweet.

MrsL.inMarch

Just u/s appts here. I just 5th one, he's been to all the scheduled u/s appts. The rest are just a waste of time IMO, so no need to come and sit with me.

Miss.Modular

not my 5 minute monthly ones that are just dopplar/weight/bp check.

 

 

betsnup

The only appts. he has ever been to have been my first appt. and the big u/s.  Otherwise, it's a complete waste of his time to come and sit there for the whole 10 minute appt.

Sarahgracesc

My DH comes to mine.  I go to a mw though, so my appointments are an hour long and very personalized.

BrideNamedMeg

He still comes to my appointments with me, but if he didn't work from home I don't know if I'd have him bother.  The appointments are weekly now, so we go all the time.  It's nice though because after we see the midwives we always go out for lunch together, which is fun for us.  Getting some extra time in together before the baby is born has been great.

alicatt79

Not unless there's an u/s. 

MrsP321

My DH has only missed one so far.  But my doctor only sees her OB patients on Wednesdays, and my DH has Wednesday mornings off, so he doesn't have to take off work to come.  If he had to take time off, he probably would've only come to the u/s.

jklincoln

Once I started weekly appointments he has been going to every other one. Mainly on the ones that we have ultra sounds scheduled to check the growth. But it was nice having him there last week. My doctor gave a bunch of information about Labor so it was nice to have a second set of ears.

soccerwife

DH hasn't been to a single doctor's appointment - just my NT scan and my level 2, which were at the hospital.

SFEHLBERG

Just Ultrasounds for me also.  I will probably have him come with me at least once towards the end just to meet my doctor but other than that I am ususally only there for a few minutes so it would be a waste of his vacation time to leave work early and come.

~CoCo~

I'm bummed because today, the 39w appt, is the first doctor's appt, u/s, blood test, etc, that DH will miss. His schedule alternates each week, so we've been able to make our appts for times he can attend.

There was a mix-up with his schedule this week, and he'll be working when I have to go in. It's too bad too, b/c the middle appts are quick and boring- but today is the first "progress check", so it stinks he won't be able to hear if we're getting anywhere.... Oh well.

 

Echowysp

He only came to the important ones- first heartbeat, u/s and first internal.  All others would've been a waste of his time.

exhausted_bride

He comes to all of mine because HE wants to. I always tell him it's not neccesary. Plus, he doesn't have to take any time off for this. His job is very flexible and allows this time.

HollyLuv

Yes, he comes to them all. He missed the last one and felt horrible because there are 5 docs in the practice and you meet them all over the course of your pregnany so he missed meeting one of them unless we see her again at a later date. He wants to know and feel comfortable with all 5 doctors just as much as I do so he comes along.

jebs_girl

Only for u/s, not regular check-ups. There's no need.

gbtc01

now that they are more involoved yes. Part of me is worried I will go the doc will do an internal and tell me to head to the hospital. I don't want to have to go all the way back home (across town) to get gim and then go all the way back out that way to the hospital...

MrsCole

He comes to all my appointments if he can.  At this point he has only had to miss 2, one because he was out of town for work, and another because he had a work emergancy happening he had to deal with.

But, we both work about a mile from the doctors office and our appointments are almost always first thing in the morning.  Plus he is in sales so he can be flexible with his schedule, so it might be a little different for us.

But I would let your DH decide - I know mine has been disappointed when he had to miss because he likes to hear the baby's heartbeat. 

EastCoastBride

He only goes for the u/s at this point.

Sunny1inTucson

The only one he's ever been to was the one with the 20 wk ultrasound. None of the others would be worth his time in my opinion (just routine visits).

EcoBaby

He stopped going around my 16 or 20 week appt. I made him go to my 28 week because of the glucose test and I had to get a shot and I hate shots. I will probably make him go again for my weekly appts. if they are doing anything interesting.

The dr. is a block away from me, but about 20 mins. for him, and most of the time is spent in the waiting room, so completely pointless. If we get an u/s or something though, he'd go.

AJBMD915

DH has come to all my appointments, he wants to though.  We're lucky that he works from home and his hours are very flexible so he can come and it doesn't cause any problems.

laneysmom

exhausted_bride:

He comes to all of mine because HE wants to. I always tell him it's not neccesary. Plus, he doesn't have to take any time off for this. His job is very flexible and allows this time.

 

Same with me- DH likes to come and hear the baby's heartbeat. He likes to see the Dr. and we ask any questions together. He's never missed one.

swimming47

He came to my apts in the 1st tri, just in case anything happened.  He has also been to all of the u/s.  He was bummed he couldn't make it to hear the heartbeat the first time.  I think he wants to come to some more but can't because he is traveling for work.

laura-n-brian

DH has only missed one appointment so far, but he owns his own real estate company and can pretty much do whatever he wants to.

TimingisEverything

He only comes when I am having an u/s.

lilliebear

mine only went to the ultrasounds there is no need for him to be at the others... in my opinion

whitehead15

My hubby's still going. ?I keep telling him it's ok for him not to come bc it's soooo short and nothing exciting's happening. ?I think he feels bad and is afraid he might miss something. ?Although the whole time we're in the office, his nose is?buried?in a magazine.....

bstngrl578

Yes he does....his choice! He is self employed so he can work his schedule around the appt's. He says that I won't tell him everything if he doesn't go! Also, since I usually have to wait awhile for the DR to come in, it is nice to have him there. I would not be mad/upset if he didn't come though!

Mariposa24

DH didn't go to the earlier appointments unless we were having an u/s.  Now he goes to all of them because our doc lets him find the baby's heartbeat (and his heartbeat, and let's him play with all the other gadgets).  I honestly think that he just goes to play with the toys at the office.

pixiedustie

I think it is silly for my DH to come watch me get weighed, pee in a cup, and have my belly measured.  He goes to the important ones where we will see Little Miss, but other than that I would rather he take the time off after she arrives.

Tipton10

Only the first heartbeat and u/s appointments.  IMO, for a 10-15 minute appointment, there is no need for him to miss an hour or more of his day depending on how on time my doctor is.  If I was having a concern about something he would go to that problem, but none of the routine appointments.

BearsMrs

DH has only been to a few of my appts.  He missed the u/s last week too.  I don't think it's that big of a deal.

jwt6

He only goes if there is an ultrasound. It is hard enough scheduling an appointment that fits my schedule, let alone his too.

Mrs.Anders

DH has only missed 1 appointment, luckily that one was uneventful.  He likes to go to my appointments with me.  With this pregnancy he uses words like 'we' and 'our' so this isn't just my appointment it is our appointment.  He likes to go and see how much I weigh in at to make sure I'm gaining enough, make sure my bp is good, and hear the baby's hb.  He pretty much likes to hear from the dr that the baby and I are ok.  At his job he isn't the only one with a pregnant wife and he was told anytime he needs to take off to go to an appoinment is just fine.  2-3 nights a week he has to pretty much work from home for 2 hours, so he earns comp time, and thats what he uses when he takes off from work.  Its nice to have him there with me.

Quiksilver620

my DH doesn't work on Mondays so I scheduled all my appointment around that so he didn't have to miss work. I also had a scare a couple of appointments ago and I was all by myself. I don't want to go thru that again so I bring him. He likes hearing the h/b anyway