Please tell me I'm not alone..

MSquires100

So granted, yes with dealing with stupid hand foot & mouth, it's been the most horrendous time in our house since last week, so I know that has had a lot to do with MJD's temperament lately, but I swear at times it feels as though there is nothing I can do but make this child cry.  But then when DH comes into the room, it's like his savior has walked in and everything is golden. We have definitely noticed MJD has such a Dad preference right now, which I'm sure has A LOT to do with how I'm feeling right now.

But here's an example.  This morning, while I was getting MJD dressed, he's happy drinking his milk, all is kosher, DH walks in, MJD see him, then DH walks out and HELLO total and complete freaking melt down, and it's not even 8 am.  So I pick him up thinking he will calm down with me carrying him to our bedroom, oh no could he give a rip about being held, until he sees his Dad and is about jumps out of my arms toward him.  So off to Dad he goes, tears and screaming gone.  Mom feels like a failure. 

I have to think some of this also has to do with DH traveling and his clear preference for his Daddy, so the minute he sees him, bye bye Mama.  When he's well and it's just him and I, he can be such a sweet boy.  But lately it's just wearing on me and making me feel like such a crappy Mom and I can't do anything to make him happy.

Please tell me I'm not alone in feeling like this

slwprincess

We have gone through this phase multiple times- both DH and myself being the object of infatuation.  Sometimes Gavin only wants me, other times its only Daddy.  It just has to do with whatever developmental stage they are in, I think.  Right now, Sophie is a mega-Mama's girl.  She loves DH and her whole face lights up when she sees him, but if I move out of her sight, she immediately starts screaming.  It is really draining. 

hthomas02

this is my life every single day.  my two older boys LOVE daddy, they will be having a complete meltdown when he walks in the door and it stops in an instant.  they scream and jump for joy when he comes home.  if I leave and walk back in the door they don't even say hi to me most of the time.  in the morning when they wake up they come running into our room, if DH is there they say "yayayayayay good morning daddy!!" and smother him in hugs and kisses.  if he isn't there they start crying "where is daddyyyyyyy??????  I want daddyyyyyyy!!!!".  it seriously tears me apart but I *try* to tell myself that it is because they spend all day with me and only get FUN time with him.  But it doesn't make it hurt my feelings any less.  I spend my entire days playing with them, taking them to do cool things, feeding them, kissing their booboo's and I feel like I get the shaft when compared to dad.  so anyway, I just wanted to say, no, you are not alone and I feel your pain!  big hugs!

amanda_holbird@hotmail.com

Nope, definitely not alone.  Both my boys were momma's boys during their first year of life, but then during their second year, they both became daddy's boys.  My oldest will be 5 in January and he's 100% momma's boy while Jack, who'll be 3 in November, is mostly a daddy's boy.  Sometimes it makes me feel bad, but I do realize that it is a phase.  A lot of it has to do with the fact that dh travels a lot.  I think that's why Ethan feels much closer to me because I'm always here, and I think that's why Jack feels closer to dh because he misses him when he's gone.  I will say, though, that my boys seems to be crazier over each other than dh or me.  Whenever one is without the other, they cry or mope because they want to be with their big/little brother. 

MSquires100

Thanks so much ladies!  I'm sure as a Mom we all feel like we can do anything, have it all together and can go a mile a minute. Then the next nothing is right.  Just makes me feel so much better to know I'm not totally alone.  I try to explain what I'm feeling to DH, but bless him, he just doesn't get it at all! 

As you all said, it is a phase like anything else and it will pass. 

yellowtulips80

Nope not at all.  I think L prefers who ever is not around!