Facebook ruins lives...

aldanag

Lately I get really annoyed at these facebook updates from house wives and this is what I wrote :

To the women of Facebook: What is the obsession with writing on your status everything you did around the house? I am not sure who you are trying to impress or if you are just trying to feel accomplished.

This was especially for my very annoying sister-in-law who ALL she writes about EVERY day is how she got all these things done around the house, made dinner, played with her perfectly behaved baby and is just SUPER MOM.

People thought my post was funny and some ladies said "LOL I do that!" I had some siblings-in-law even exaggerate and be sarcastic about it and tag me on their "everything I did today" post. I thought it was hilarious! Then the very annoying sister-in-law decided to do the same thing, yet once AGAIN, and tag me on it. Except her post was actually about what she DID get done today. Anyway, I don't know why I am so angry at her about this (it might be because all she talks about is how her family is perfect and her baby is an angel and NEVER cries or fusses and blah blah blah) can I blame it on the hormones ??

Thank you for letting me vent, you ladies are awesome! I enjoy reading all your posts!!

IteachPK

I'm a SAHW and 99% of my friends on FB are SAHM/W's. Its usually more like "I'm making steaks, loaded baked potatoes and asparagus....What are ya'll making for dinner?" 

My friends will chime in with "Take out, today was a cleaning day not a cooking day." or "BBQ and home grown corn."

 

All I do is clean my house, walk my dog, cook, bake, pinterest. If I waited till I had something "interesting" I would never have anything to post on FB.

I personally am more fulfilled being a "housewife" I personally enjoy it. and heck yes if I make an amazing cake, great dinner and have sex with my husband on the counter afterwards. You bet your a$$ I'm posting it on facebook 

sweet_nitenale

ITeachPK, I totally support your status update!!! That crap drives me INSANE! I have no problem with the random postings of a housewife. But I have a friend who, just like you said, posts aaalll the time about her perfect life, her perfect and amazingly healthy meals she made from scratch, her amazing husband who brings home flowers aaaallll the time for no reason at all blah blah frickin blah! Being excited about an awesome dish you made from scratch is one thing but posting everyday about how much cleaning u got done because u have such a well behaved baby and a husband who comes home and is more than happy to finish up for you, (again- blah blah) just starts to sound braggy after a while. And at first I thought I was just being cranky and jealous or something. BUT I am not the only one who has made comments about how annoying it is to see those updates every single day!
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And just to be clear I have no problem with posts from SAHMs about their day. This will be my first baby but I am currently laid off and will be a SAHM mom myself. I just think some ladies need to just get off FB until they can come up with something else to talk about!

countrygrl5533

I have a friend who is a SAHM with a 3 yo and a baby on the way and posts about her day all the time. I think it is cute. Sometimes she starts the day with a "today we need to...." then as things happen she will post that it is accomplished. She'll even mention what she is going to attempt for dinner that night.

I think that if she was bragging about it, it might be annoying. But she isn't.

I personally don't ever post any status updates but I will be a SAHM. If someone who works outside the home can post about their day, why is it unacceptable someone who stays home to post about theirs?

 

Not aimed at anyone so don't get all upset. Just a quick rant. There seem to be a lot of people on TB(and life) who look down on SAHM/Ws. It really hurts me. I thought we were finally past that whole "to be worth something, you must work outside the home or else you are just simple and boring."  I thought we had finally moved into a "women can do whatever, even if that means staying home" phase. We have a friend that is really anti-SAHM and it really hurts me, the things she says.

mhollidayesq

On FB everyone is a legend. LOL. You can't take too much of what is said too serious. Im going to step out on a limb and say her life is far from perfect, her baby is far from perfect and that her cooking and cleaning skills are far from perfect ( bcs well whose is perfect???) I find that most folks whose FB posts are always happy happy joy joy look at how great my life is....are really not that happy af all and it's their way of felling better abt their situations. you should just respond, if so inclined, "glad everything is great, I'm still striving." I got tired of the I ran or biked x miles today and feel great posts....so I posted " nope, i havent run or biked or walked for that matter, but I just ate to bowls of ice cream and I feel great." I got my fair shares of LOLs...Esp from the runners and walkers. LOL.

kmt1986

Ugh.  Agreed.  There's a woman I know who posts this every day:

"Dishes are in the dishwasher, vacuumed the house, took so-n-so to cheerleading, and then so-n-so to soccer, then I cooked dinner that nobody ate. I'm so tired. I have a headache.  I think I have fibromyalgia."

Every. Friggin. Day.  I get it.  Being a SAHM mom is not easy, and I give absolute credit to those who are, but neither is my job outside of the home.  I don't write:

"I filed some papers today, then took a billion phone calls, and then updated our website.  I'm so tired."

 

NewzieMom

If you don't like it hide her post. Not that hard.

AilishT

I love the hide button!

diana.filipi

IteachPK:

I'm a SAHW and 99% of my friends on FB are SAHM/W's. Its usually more like "I'm making steaks, loaded baked potatoes and asparagus....What are ya'll making for dinner?" 

My friends will chime in with "Take out, today was a cleaning day not a cooking day." or "BBQ and home grown corn."

 

All I do is clean my house, walk my dog, cook, bake, pinterest. If I waited till I had something "interesting" I would never have anything to post on FB.

I personally am more fulfilled being a "housewife" I personally enjoy it. and heck yes if I make an amazing cake, great dinner and have sex with my husband on the counter afterwards. You bet your a$$ I'm posting it on facebook 

haha, I love you dearie.  This is me too.  Most of my friends are SAHM and to be honest I like having gotten lots done and posting about it.  I also love to post about the cool things DD and I get into in a day.  If I host a bunch of toddlers for finger painting you bet I'll post about!   I feel connected to my friends to know what they are up to whether they are a bumpie in TX or a girlfriend having us over for dinner the next evening. 

Alliebooberz

IteachPK:

I'm a SAHW and 99% of my friends on FB are SAHM/W's. Its usually more like "I'm making steaks, loaded baked potatoes and asparagus....What are ya'll making for dinner?" 

My friends will chime in with "Take out, today was a cleaning day not a cooking day." or "BBQ and home grown corn."

 

All I do is clean my house, walk my dog, cook, bake, pinterest. If I waited till I had something "interesting" I would never have anything to post on FB.

I personally am more fulfilled being a "housewife" I personally enjoy it. and heck yes if I make an amazing cake, great dinner and have sex with my husband on the counter afterwards. You bet your a$$ I'm posting it on facebook 

I just fell deeper in love with you.

sweet_nitenale

There's a hide button?! Wow I feel so un-hip right now! I'm gonna go find it and hide a bunch of people! Lol I have a few friends that post like 5 times a day clogging up my news feed and it drives me insane! And its always those people who are only friends in the sense that they friend requested u because we happened to go to middle school together or something like that!

countrygrl5533

sweet_nitenale:

There's a hide button?! Wow I feel so un-hip right now! I'm gonna go find it and hide a bunch of people! Lol I have a few friends that post like 5 times a day clogging up my news feed and it drives me insane! And its always those people who are only friends in the sense that they friend requested u because we happened to go to middle school together or something like that!

Only 5? One DH female friends from high school church youth group added me back when we were getting married. She changes her status at least 8 times a day. A few times a week there is a post about "another perk for when she is married" or something similar. She isn't even dating anyone. She's never going to find a man that lives up to her crazy standards. Very romanticized view of marriage.

Myblondasianbabies

Awesome! I'm a working mom and wouldn't dare bore everyone with the details of my day.

Some of you may appreciate my favorite site: https://www.stfuparentsblog.com/

Maybe you'll see your friends already there!

RaeJ004

This doesn't usually bother me, except for one of my cousins. 

Yesterday she posted this:  "16 loads of laundry - done.  Dinner ready to go in oven - done.  Girl Scout meetings for the next month planned - done.  Trim hair - done.  Now it's off to pick flowers from my garden, visit church for my daily prayer, clean a good friend's house free of charge, and spend time with my perfect hubby."  She posted this at 10am.  I'm sorry you cannot do 16 loads of laundry by 10am.

And I don't hide her because (this is TERRIBLE) my siblings all get together at my parents every Sunday for a big family dinner and they always want to hear the best one from that week so I have to keep track.  Everyone in the family feels the same way about her, she is the best at everything, why can't everyone raise 4 perfect kids while working and keeping a perfect house??

The best part is, her kids are crazy and not well adjusted, her house is a disaster, her "demanding job" is cleaning 3 friends houses once a week, and her perfect hubby is suuuper creepy and I'm pretty sure he has a record.  I look at it as entertainment.

jgal84

NewzieMom:

If you don't like it hide her post. Not that hard.

Agreed! I usually just skip over those anyway.

farfanoogen

sweet_nitenale:

...they friend requested u because we happened to go to middle school together or something like that!

Over time I have deleted every single one of those types of people off my friends list. I can't stand the negativity, complaining every day, trashy bs. I only have family and a couple friends that I can stand having a dose of everyday. I sound like I hate everyone right now lol 

bingham101

I hate the people that argue and start drama on FB like seriously deal with that stuff face to face. This girl I know is engaged, she got a text from her FI that was him talking to this chick he works with. I have no idea what it said but she went OFF on him. I guess in the end it was a joke (prank on her and she fell for it) but still I would never put MH down on facebook or in public at all thats just wrong.

yurmom

I completely agree.  SAHMs drive me nuts some times, and yes part of it is jealousy.  Posting on occasion on anything is fine, but I do not need to know EVERYDAY what you cleaned, what you and your kiddos did and how funny it was, what you're cooking for dinner, and what crafts you made (complete with link to instructions on how you can make it too!).  I agree that if I posted everything I did at work everyday people would be annoyed as well.  I may be being bitchy, but I'm being honest.  Everything in moderation...even your Facebook posts.

Alliebooberz

dlsexton:

it is jealousy.

yep.  That's exactly what it looks like when working moms b!tch about SAHM/SAHW.  Just being honest too. 

diana.filipi

dlsexton:

I completely agree.  SAHMs drive me nuts some times, and yes part of it is jealousy.  Posting on occasion on anything is fine, but I do not need to know EVERYDAY what you cleaned, what you and your kiddos did and how funny it was, what you're cooking for dinner, and what crafts you made (complete with link to instructions on how you can make it too!).  I agree that if I posted everything I did at work everyday people would be annoyed as well.  I may be being bitchy, but I'm being honest.  Everything in moderation...even your Facebook posts.

Folks like you should just hide posts from us SAHMs or maybe don't friend us at all! 

aldanag

I think SAHMs are amazing! I plan to be one myself as soon as the baby comes. But honestly, thanks to this post, I just realized I could "hide" those very annoying everyday updates. I think it's great to get all those things done around the house, but I don't see why we need to mention every little thing on Facebook. Anyway have a great weekend y'all!

yurmom

Alliebooberz:

dlsexton:

it is jealousy.

yep.  That's exactly what it looks like when working moms b!tch about SAHM/SAHW.  Just being honest too. 

 Of course I'm jealous!  Who wouldn't want to stay home, hang out with their kids, have time to make dinner and dessert and not be too tired to have sex with their husband!  That's great for you, I just don't need to hear about it everyday on Facebook.  Once in awhile...fine...everyday=overboard.  I don't think that's unreasonable.