Adoption

Introducing myself....

I have been a regular Nestie since The Nesties were still on The Knot, and I was a regular on TTTC for a long time. Fertility treatments did not help me as my FSH was sky high. I ran out of insurance in December, and my DH and I hit a major bump in the road and I fell off the Nest....Happily, we did counceling and are on the right path now and in April, we made the decision to do a Donor Egg cycle. After much research and heart searching, we ultimately decided against further treatment at this time as we NEED closure to our IF struggle and are in the Homestudy process of adoption!

For reasons of privacy, I have changed my Nest name to Tiffanyblue927, but I was known as something close to "girl from new jersey ..." if you get what I mean. Sadly, people IRL have seriously tried to break up my marriage and I am afraid that some will see my adoption posts and see more fuel for the fire, so let it suffice to say my old Nest name will not surface here, but I have been on the boards forever!! 

I may even DD this post later! I will post some more stuff later and ask some question of fellow adoptive parents, but for now, I just wanted to say "hi!" 

 

WHAT'S IN MY CAMERA BAG: Canon 40D, 50 mm 1.8 prime and not much else yet! Learning to edit with PSE 8 AND LR 3. My real name isn't Tiffany, and I'm a photography newbie! Lilypie Second Birthday tickers Image and video hosting by TinyPic

Re: Introducing myself....

  • Hey there and welcome to the board.  I just recently started posting here as well.

    So sorry about all your T-TTC, but so far this board has been great!

    I am also from NJ and will be adopting through the foster care system.  If all goes well, I will start PRIDE training on Nov 3rd.

    Are you adopting domestic, internationally, or through the state?

    Good Luck on your journey

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  • Welcome!

    I am sorry that your life has been filled with drama.  Dealing with infertility and adoption can be stressful on it's own.  You don't need additional stress.

     Please stick around and share your journey with us! 

    image Best friends and sisters... 24 months and 16 months
  • imagesilliestbunny:

    Welcome!

    I am sorry that your life has been filled with drama.  Dealing with infertility and adoption can be stressful on it's own.  You don't need additional stress.

     Please stick around and share your journey with us! 

     

    I couldn't have said it better myself. 

     

    As another who has dealt with some "other" board issues and changed my name too - THIS board is a safe board.  Everyone here is so kind, sweet and supportive.  I can sympathize in that we have run into some similar "problems" (with them trying to screw with our adoption/finalization rather than our marriage) - and the thing to remember, KARMA will get them.  (I've seen it happen already).

    Good luck, and I hope the rest of your journey to parenthood is a short one.

  • Hi again
    I'm sorry for everything you've been put through IRL and I hope that we'll be a source of support to you.  Feel free to DD this post if you need to because your privacy is important in order for you to feel safe to get the support you need here.
    hugs

  • Welcome!

    My DH and I are in the process of fostering/adopting.  I just jumped on the board about a week ago, as we just finished our foster paperwork, and were matched with kids last week!  Yes, I said KIDS!  We are taking on a sibling group that we hope to adopt later.  They are 2, 4, & 6!

    Anyway, I just posted my blog in a newer post, so you can see the journey we are on.  We went to orientation for Foster/Adopt in January, and we were matched almost 2 weeks ago, and are transitioning.  This weekend is our first over-night visit, and we will have the kids full time starting Halloween!

    GL to you and your DH!

  • Thanks for the warm welcome, ladies and good luck to all in this incredible journey!I will keep all of you in my prayers!

    Lorita, you are a BRAVE woman taking on 3 kids at one time! God Bless you! I am scared to adopt one!!!! ( I am in my 40's with no kids at all, so I do sometimes question my energy level etc.....)

    But, as I told one co-worker, I wasn't 40 something when I started this journey, I was in my late 30's and it's taken 5 long years to get here. 

    We are doing a private, domestic adoption with an attorney, since we are in NJ, we need an agency to finalize everything but as soon as we are homestudy approved, we begin our "marketing" campaign. 

    We anticipate our final homestudy report any day now, we are using an agency in Teaneck, NJ that so far, we are happy with. We began with them in mid September, and had to have 2 meetings with them at their office before our SW came to our house. They met with each of us individually and alone and asked a lot of questions about our jobs, family, belief system, how we plan to discipline our child, etc....

    The home visit itself was not as scary as I anticipated....My home is large and we have a lot of stuff( I love to decorate.....) and my MIL and FIL came up a week before to help us majorly clean and organize the entire place. We have almost an acre of land, which during the fall turns into a leaf factory, so the men did the outside and Carol ( my MIL ) and I did inside. We pulled apart ceiling fans, waxed floors and polished everything....in fact, it may have been overkill, because I have read that some SW will see that as a sign that when baby arrives, you will freak if the house gets messy! However, I could never let anyone into my home unless it sparkled and I have always been like that! FWIW, my mom's house was always perfect and she raised 2 kids without freaking, so I am not too worried!!!

    We had breakfast in our kitchen with our SW and relaxed over coffee. She toured the house, met our pets and asked some more questions....and that was it! 

    One more thing about our homestudy....we did add a few more CO detectors, fire extinguishers and bought some baby locks and outlet covers. I have not yet begun to make purchases for baby, but my MIL is So excited, she filled a huge shopping bag with essentials and surprised us, so we did show the SW our huge pile of "baby treasure! " She's now on shopping bag # 2!

    So once we get the "all clear" from our attorney ( who is WONDERFUL) we are planning to start on Parent Profiles and in fact, we already have our 800 # ready to go, and I recently got a BlackBerry so I can have real time e mail communication with our attorney, since I do not have internet access at work. 

    So that's my little story.... I hope to be able to learn and share more with you ladies here in the future! ( BTW: MYcolony....I "know" you from T TTC. I was going to be at the NJ GTG at Gretchen's house last year, but had to cancel. I do wear the Angie Bracelet still, and have begun to make some jewelry of my own, in hopes that I can cut down some of the adoption costs.... I am not doing fertility or adoption jewelry, just a few pretty things friends have asked me to do for them!)

    WHAT'S IN MY CAMERA BAG: Canon 40D, 50 mm 1.8 prime and not much else yet! Learning to edit with PSE 8 AND LR 3. My real name isn't Tiffany, and I'm a photography newbie! Lilypie Second Birthday tickers Image and video hosting by TinyPic
  • HI Tiffany and welcome! This is a great board with alot of support and good information. Sorry for what you've been through on both the IF front and Nest front. Sadly, not everyone is here to support and help. Good luck on your adoption journey!

    BB&J 

     

  • im from nj too as you can see from my siggy we have compeleted our journey fow now. (we might do one more adoption in a few yrs) let me know if i can answer any questions for you.
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