Is there a board

TheMutleys

for those with, or wanting, larger families? 

I see that there a couple posters on here with more than 3 kids.  We are hoping to be blessed with 4, maybe more.  

The SUV thread made me think of questions that I have for people with more than 2.5 kids.  

MammaBear81

No, there isn't a board big families.  I think it would be nice, but I think most of us just hang out here, since most of us also have 2 under 2 all the time.  Fee free to PM me if you have any particular questions

lkf041

No separate board, although I agree it would be nice to have one!  

TheMutleys

Thanks, Ladies.  I thought that this might be the main place for people with larger families because of the likelihood of having them closer together. 

We are already starting to get the comments.  Well, we started getting them when people would ask how many children we planned on having.  Now that we are going to have 2u2, people have upped their comments.  

I think one of my favorites was from my older brother.  We don't have the best relationship anyways.  When I last saw him, he asked me how many kids we were planning on having.  I responded that we hope we are able to have 4, maybe more.  He immediately attacked me saying that I should be grateful for the child we do have and that I could never know what the future might hold.  Then, he went on a tirade about how he and his wife wanted lots of kids but they are only going to have one.  I couldn't help but tell him that the big difference is that he is 13 years older than me and that he didn't even get married until he was 38 and his wife was 39.  Not my finest moment, but it just ticked me off.  I specifically said that I HOPED we were able to have 4 and it wasn't like I was the one to bring up the subject.    

I am thisclose to responding to all the criticizers/snide commenters with "Why did you ask me if you just wanted to criticize my response?"  I usually respond with "Yes, we know we are crazy and I wouldn't have it any other way." or "We know it isn't for everyone."  I also love the comments about how it is going to be very expensive.  I usually respond by saying that we'd rather be kid poor than any other kind of poor because at least we will be surrounded with love and not material things.  I really want to say "I don't see how it is any of your business because I am not asking you to support them."

Please share any good lines that have worked for you when people start in with the insane comments. 

 

Oh, and what vehicle do you have?  We are planning on getting a Sequoia this spring because we think that it will work well for 4 kids (and 4 carseats) in the future.  We are actually crazy and plan to borrow the 2 car seats from my MIL's car, plus bring our 2 carseats, when we go for test drives.   

MAMAxB

I agree that there totally should be one!

DH and I are like you, we've always dreamed of 5. And we are in the mentality to "take whatever God blesses us with" whether it be 2.. 3.. or 10

bootsnbananas

My mother has made some snide comments the last few weeks.

I have two boys from my previous marriage (13 & 6, I started young LOL) and now my boyfriend and I have Jules and version 2 due in March.

I am no spring chicken anymore (I am only 34 but not that 20 year old I was LOL) and if Joe and I want to have a large family (of our own) then we need to keep going and I don't see what business it is of my mom or anyone.

Sorry to threadjack I have just gotten so many comments these last few days that I am getting fed up.

re: car - we are getting a used minivan either before or right after the baby is born. My 13 year old doesn't live with me full time so we can go without it until then. 

sfshawna

I wish there was a large family board, too! I feel kind of freakish with my five (new baby is another girl!) and love talking to other moms with lots of kids . The best comeback for snide remarks or other people's bad attitudes about large families: make it look easy and show them what they're missing . Life is definitely harder and more expensive having lots of kids close together, but so very rewarding! I love it!

sfshawna

mummyofsix:

sfshawna, are you going to have any more? I bet you get a lot of comments about having 5 girls, I only have four (and 2 boys) and the comments are insane..... 

In a word, yes! We get comments all the time, everywhere we go, about the number of kids we have and how they're all girls. People really have gone so far to say they're "so sorry" we don't have a boy. Ugh!!! Anyway, I'd love to have maybe one more baby, but NOT to have a boy . I just love having babies in my house. I'd want to have even more if i was younger and we lived in a cheaper area. Are you done?

CaitlinJ22

There should be a larger family board. We have 2 who are 18 months apart, and we are TTC #3, second cycle. I am 28 and and Dh is 31, we know we want 3, but we would love 4 or 5 depending on what we are blessed with and how we can handle things, DH works offshore, so he leaves it more up to me since I am the sole caregiver for 1/2 the year mainly. He's an only child and wants however many i want. I think 4 is a nice number, but we'll see. At this point I dont see how I could ever know I am done....maybe thats because Im not. 

If I get pregnant this cycle DD and #3 would be almost exactly 2 years apart, and I feel SO ready for #3. I kinda wished we had started to TTC when she was 11-12 months instead of 14-15 months. But these things happen when the are supposed to. I know my family already thinks Im nuts for having 2 u 2, but 3 under 3.5? they will flip out. My family thinks 3 years is close in age....SO it'll be interesting to see what they think when we have #3 and more.....

I think what saddens me the most is that the first pregnancy always gets the most excitement , and the subsequent ones aren't as exciting to family in my experience. 

SuperThat1006

TheMutleys:

Thanks, Ladies.  I thought that this might be the main place for people with larger families because of the likelihood of having them closer together. 

We are already starting to get the comments.  Well, we started getting them when people would ask how many children we planned on having.  Now that we are going to have 2u2, people have upped their comments.  

I think one of my favorites was from my older brother.  We don't have the best relationship anyways.  When I last saw him, he asked me how many kids we were planning on having.  I responded that we hope we are able to have 4, maybe more.  He immediately attacked me saying that I should be grateful for the child we do have and that I could never know what the future might hold.  Then, he went on a tirade about how he and his wife wanted lots of kids but they are only going to have one.  I couldn't help but tell him that the big difference is that he is 13 years older than me and that he didn't even get married until he was 38 and his wife was 39.  Not my finest moment, but it just ticked me off.  I specifically said that I HOPED we were able to have 4 and it wasn't like I was the one to bring up the subject.    

I am thisclose to responding to all the criticizers/snide commenters with "Why did you ask me if you just wanted to criticize my response?"  I usually respond with "Yes, we know we are crazy and I wouldn't have it any other way." or "We know it isn't for everyone."  I also love the comments about how it is going to be very expensive.  I usually respond by saying that we'd rather be kid poor than any other kind of poor because at least we will be surrounded with love and not material things.  I really want to say "I don't see how it is any of your business because I am not asking you to support them."

Please share any good lines that have worked for you when people start in with the insane comments. 

 

Oh, and what vehicle do you have?  We are planning on getting a Sequoia this spring because we think that it will work well for 4 kids (and 4 carseats) in the future.  We are actually crazy and plan to borrow the 2 car seats from my MIL's car, plus bring our 2 carseats, when we go for test drives.   

That doesn't even make sense.

Is he alluding to the fact that you may not be physically able to have kids or that you shouldn't want that many?

Doesn't even seem relevant.

People need to mind their own damn business. Or at least judge in the privacy of their own homes.

TheMutleys

ChrissieW3:

That doesn't even make sense.

Is he alluding to the fact that you may not be physically able to have kids or that you shouldn't want that many?

Doesn't even seem relevant.

People need to mind their own damn business. Or at least judge in the privacy of their own homes.

He was alluding to the fact that he and his wife have been unable to have more children and so we shouldn't count on being able to have more.  She gave birth to their first when she was 41 (I think) and is almost 45 now.  I think there is a huge difference in fertility because I am significantly younger than she is.  Ironically enough, I got pregnant a couple weeks after his comment.  LMAO.  (I do feel blessed that TTC has been easy for us.) 

I also thought it was ridiculous to insinuate that we don't love and appreciate our DS because we want more children.  For me, having him just reinforced that I want more children. 

He is also an arse, so there is that.  Haha.