Getting Over Changes to Body, Anyone Else Have Issues

traceydmarx

I am so excited about this baby. My DH and I were blessed enough to conceive on our honeymoon. Right before I lost a bunch of weight. Now I'm having a really hard time adjusting to this new body. DH is loving on it every second and I just feel like a whiskey barrel. Nothing fits and I feel like since I don't have a round plump belly I can't wear maternity clothes. Does anyone else feel this way? I feel like its all I think about. Ugh!

McGibbon51311

I feel really similar. MH and I got pregnant right after we got married, and since then I've lost a bunch of weight but am still feeling the aches of bloating. My husband is so sweet when he tells me that he loves my pregnant body, bloating and all but at the same time, I feel so nasty between the bloating/constipation, sore boobs and breakouts. I think the whole pregnancy is going to be a learning experience, and my body will constantly be changing even after the babies are born. I just try to focus on why the body does certain things and how it benefits the babies and it makes me feel better. I'll gladly be constipated and nauseous for a few months if it means I can have some healthy babies next year. 

And even if you don't have a well defined bump, go get some maternity pants! They're so much more comfortable and well worth the money. Even if you don't think it looks right, you won't last in this stage forever and it's important you be comfortable.  

digwriter

I've spent my entire life trying to lose weight, so facing the very real prospect of gaining between 15-30 pounds absolutely terrifies me.

MelbaCat

I was like that the first time around. I was freaking out by my body changes and weight gain. I'm a thin girl and I've always had body issues. 

This time around, I'm currently 8lbs under what I was when I STARTED my pregnancy with DS. I cannot for the life of me gain weight and I'm scared.  I'm skinny and feel like I throw everything up. Dr.'s weren't worried at first, but if I don't start gaining there will be concern.

 Enjoy the changes, it's for the best possible reasons. It's ok to feel ick at times, but there's nothing wrong with breaking out the mat clothes  love your body, it's doing awesome things!

 

gdizzle

I'm still in that phase where I look like I've eaten one too many donuts, so I am not feeling attractive at all lately.  I am still wearing my regular flowy tops, but no maternity clothes just yet!

Lanatir

McGibbon51311:

I feel really similar. MH and I got pregnant right after we got married, and since then I've lost a bunch of weight but am still feeling the aches of bloating. My husband is so sweet when he tells me that he loves my pregnant body, bloating and all but at the same time, I feel so nasty between the bloating/constipation, sore boobs and breakouts. I think the whole pregnancy is going to be a learning experience, and my body will constantly be changing even after the babies are born. I just try to focus on why the body does certain things and how it benefits the babies and it makes me feel better. I'll gladly be constipated and nauseous for a few months if it means I can have some healthy babies next year.

 

This.  But if only I could focus on this part!

 

I've been super skinny all my life (blessed by it without having to watch much of anything) and gaining 2lbs in a week makes me feel like something has to be wrong, because I've not gained weight like that since I was still growing taller in like middle school.

laurenbowman

gdizzle:

I'm still in that phase where I look like I've eaten one too many donuts, so I am not feeling attractive at all lately.  I am still wearing my regular flowy tops, but no maternity clothes just yet!

This!

I have always been fairly thin, and I don't like looking chubby. I have caved to maternity pants because they are just so much more comfortable than my normal clothes. 

LizzyBlueEyes

laurenbowman:

gdizzle:

I'm still in that phase where I look like I've eaten one too many donuts, so I am not feeling attractive at all lately.  I am still wearing my regular flowy tops, but no maternity clothes just yet!

This!

I have always been fairly thin, and I don't like looking chubby. I have caved to maternity pants because they are just so much more comfortable than my normal clothes. 

 

This is me too! I am, or was?, pretty thin and I know gaining the weight is good and its for the baby etc, but it is still hard every time I step on the scale.  I feel huge, and can still wear my normal clothes they are just a little snugger.  Happy you posted this because I almost felt guilty about feeling this way. 

Ivana_Stolichnaya

Better get used to it.  Your body will never look the same after baby is born.  Your boobs will look different, your hips might be slightly wider.  It's part of being a mom.

lulling

I know how you feel.  I feel disgusting.  I was just thinking today that the waist of my regular pants still feels just fine...it is my thighs that are driving me nuts!  My husband knows better than to touch me, or even try to come near me.  It is going to be a long six months for both of us.

LilyPotter218

I'm having issues and I am still fitting into my normal clothes! I am not allowed to work out like I had hoped, so that is fvcking with me mentally I feel like a giant cow.

aquababy320

I had a sad moment last week when I was trying on my pants for school. I lost weight a couple of years ago, and I saved all of my pants. I tried on ALL of my pants last week, including all of the ones from last year, and I got upset when those didn't fit. I was mostly upset because it wasn't just around the waist area...they were tight around my butt and legs too. This week, the pants from my "fat days" are getting tight around the waist. I'm slowly coming to terms with it, but I understand how you feel. It's tough feeling like you've accomplished, and now the weight is just coming back on. I'm just hoping to stay pretty active during the pregnancy and try to lose it once the baby comes. Otherwise, we just have to do what our bodies tell us and eat when we're hungry!

jajsundevil

I'll jump on this bandwagon.

Historically I have always been thin.  Then I ran into some hormone problems that caused me to gain weight that wouldn't come back off, then you add in the stress and side effects of the fertility treatments and suffice it to say I haven't been really happy with my body for a while.  It's been a hard couple years for the self esteem.

I am glad that the reason my body is changing now is because I'm pregnant and it's a signe that my body is finally doing what it should but that doesn't mean it's always easy to embrace these additional changes. 

kmt1986

I am having a hard time dealing with the thought of weight gain also.  Because of my thyroid issues, I went from 130 lbs to 190 lbs in a year.  After getting my medicine regulated, it took me two years to get down to 145 lbs, where I feel comfortable.  Then, BFP.  OB says he wants me to gain 25 lbs.  Knowing my history of gaining weight and it taking forever to come off (thyroid basically halts metabolism), I am terrified!  I've already gained 5 lbs!

Joie80

I went to bed Friday and woke up Saturday looking obviously pregnant. It's like something weird happened in the night. I've gained 5lbs so far, and it really feels like 15-20. I have had weight issues in the past, but have been able to maintain a healthy weight for the past 4 years. Gaining weight does freak me out, but I keep reminding myself that I my body has to change to support the baby. My plan is just to be as healthy as I can and at least that way i won't be gaining weight just for the sake of gaining weight. I'll know that it's what my body needs to support my body in a healthy manner. Most of my pants don't fit any more, but I did buy a button extender today and it's pretty comfortable. I have shirts that are flowy and I wear lots of dresses and tights.  If I can, I'm going to wait until next month to actually start buying maternity clothes.

kcanuck

LilyPotter218:

 I am not allowed to work out like I had hoped, so that is fvcking with me mentally I feel like a giant cow.

 

I totally feel this.  The past three summers I've done 3-5 triathlons per summer.  This summer we were doing our last ditch TTC before IVF this winter.  I was on progesterone each luteal phase, which just wiped me out.  Not that I was supposed to work out hard anyway....

With this pregnancy I was not to exercise for the first trimester and was on lots of progesterone and estrogen.  Despite all the drugs, I really didn't have much sickness--just nausea, which salty foods seemed to help.  Hello bloat!!

After all of our losses we are over the moon to be in the second tri.  I'm now allowed to exercise and starting to get a little belly.  But I feel so unfit and gross.  So I go back and forth mentally.  I'm now really trying to work on healthy eating and getting a bit back in shape.  

raspberry_bride

I feel this way too.  I have had body image issues since I was a teenager, so it was very hard for me to see myself gaining weight throughout my twenties.  I have been pretty stagnant with my weight in the past few years, and I have come to accept the way my body is now.  I went to the doctor for my appointment recently and I am up 3lbs since my last appointment.  I know it is not a lot, but it was hard to see that at first.  I know it is all for a good reason, but it is still hard to accept.  I really want to be one of those cute pregnant ladies that is all belly, but I know with my body type and height that it is very unlikely.  I also really hope that my hips don't get wider like pp said - they really are wide enough as it is.

BigIsland07

aquababy320:

I had a sad moment last week when I was trying on my pants for school. I lost weight a couple of years ago, and I saved all of my pants. I tried on ALL of my pants last week, including all of the ones from last year, and I got upset when those didn't fit. I was mostly upset because it wasn't just around the waist area...they were tight around my butt and legs too. This week, the pants from my "fat days" are getting tight around the waist. I'm slowly coming to terms with it, but I understand how you feel. It's tough feeling like you've accomplished, and now the weight is just coming back on. I'm just hoping to stay pretty active during the pregnancy and try to lose it once the baby comes. Otherwise, we just have to do what our bodies tell us and eat when we're hungry!

This. Exactly. I feel exactly like this. My "fat" pants are tight right now -- in the waist AND hips and butt. Sigh. 

kris2131

I spent 3 1/2 years losing 80 pounds and I got down to 140. After losing all that weight, there was always this knowledge in the back of my mind that when I got pregnant, I would be gaining weight. And I wasn't sure how I felt about that. Now that I'm pregnant, I'm gaining weight and I'm actually terrified to go to my doctor appt tomorrow to get weighed. I'm afraid of seeing just how much I gained since my 6 week appt. But I just have to tell myself gaining weight is a good thing and it's okay. But depending how tomorrow goes, I might really have to watch what I eat.

Divallyn

digwriter:

I've spent my entire life trying to lose weight, so facing the very real prospect of gaining between 15-30 pounds absolutely terrifies me.

 

This ... exactly. 

lilmisssunshine84

McGibbon51311:

I feel really similar. MH and I got pregnant right after we got married, and since then I've lost a bunch of weight but am still feeling the aches of bloating. My husband is so sweet when he tells me that he loves my pregnant body, bloating and all but at the same time, I feel so nasty between the bloating/constipation, sore boobs and breakouts. I think the whole pregnancy is going to be a learning experience, and my body will constantly be changing even after the babies are born. I just try to focus on why the body does certain things and how it benefits the babies and it makes me feel better. I'll gladly be constipated and nauseous for a few months if it means I can have some healthy babies next year. 

And even if you don't have a well defined bump, go get some maternity pants! They're so much more comfortable and well worth the money. Even if you don't think it looks right, you won't last in this stage forever and it's important you be comfortable.  

 

This exactly and.... 

"I am, or was?, pretty thin and I know gaining the weight is good and its for the baby etc, but it is still hard every time I step on the scale.  I feel huge, and can still wear my normal clothes they are just a little snugger.  Happy you posted this because I almost felt guilty about feeling this way."