FB comments..ugh!

jbeck78

I think they will always bother me..someone wrote this

"Having a baby is the easiest thing to obtain, but the hardest job to do..."

I responded, I was nice but just said that it has a been alot of years, tears, money and heartache to get to where I am now and I am ready for the hard but rewarding part of the job.

Wonder is our bitter feelings will ever go away?

sweetky_06

I don't think those feeling will ever go away for me. Mostly though, it's not that I fell bitter towards fertile people - I feel bitter towards their ignorance.

jbeck78

Yes, I think that is exactly it...I also realize that people don't understand if they haven't been through it, but because some people get pregnant easy do not make babies the easiest thing to obtain.

And I am very lucky to have the outcome I did, while IF sucks no matter how you look at it, I know that first iui success is not always the case, my heart goes out to everyone who has been through more than me, I know its not easy and I am sure makes comments a litle more hard to handle.

leecrystalwed08

1- I LOVE YOUR DOGS!

2- No, it does not go away (for me anyway) however...it will get easier and you will appreciate all you have been through

faydre

sweetky_06:

I don't think those feeling will ever go away for me. Mostly though, it's not that I fell bitter towards fertile people - I feel bitter towards their ignorance.

exactly this.

diego299

We must have simliar FB "friends" bc I saw almost the exact same post yesterday. I think ignorance causes insensitivity.

steveandkim2

and this is why I try to educate folks whenever I can that getting pregnant isn't always "easy"....I've had a number of people PM me after some of my fb statuses to let me know that they've learned something (and then I saw those same people push back on folks with the fake pg announcements saying how insensitive they were being to the IF community).

JennPierog

I;m not sure it ever goes away just gets a little easier.

WhiteGarden

I just had someone tell me today that phrase that I hate SOOO much... 

 I had told someone I hadn't seen in a long while that I was pregnant and it was pretty clear we'd been trying a while.  I indicated that it was a surprise, because we were at the point where we didn't think it would be possible without a lot more treatment. Then I heard it: "Well, when you relax, that's when it happens..."   UGH.  But he is a nice guy so I let it go this time.  I agree with the bitterness toward the ignorance, not the people.