Wording for diaper raffle

GirlyGirl319

My best friend is having her shower next weekend and I noticed on her invitation that she just put "please bring a box of wipes or diapers" with no mention to a raffle or game.  Is this rude?  I thought it was a bit odd.

 My mom and best friend are throwing me my baby shower and wanted to do something similar about the diapers (not wipes) but was unsure how to not make the wording sound tacky?  Do people have raffles for this-- how does it work?

I have not been to many showers -- any input from others who have been or suggestions is greatly appreciated!

TIA!

EvenAngelsFall

Yes, it is most definitely rude!

I'd consider it optional and skip it. And FWIW, I wouldn't want that on my shower invitation.... A shower is not a charity drive.

RoxyLynn

Yes, the wording on your friend's invitation was definitely inappropriate.

As for how to word a diaper raffle in a way that isn't tacky, I just don't think there is one.  Register for diapers if you wish, but raffles are for charities.

Liz4444

Dear guest:

In addition to the generous gift you plan on bringing, please open your wallet again and get me diapers so I don't have to spend my own money taking care of my child.  You might just get whatever crappy bar of soap was on sale at Bath and Body Works if you do.

Selfishly yours,

MTB

 

Ivana_Stolichnaya

I would cancel my plans to attend simply from her stupid request right there on the invite.  How tacky!  You don't put rules on gifts and what people are allowed to bring and what they aren't...who do these people think they are?  A gift is a gift, you are lucky to receive anything.

GranolaGirl06

Yes your friend is rude and if you do a diaper raffle, you will be too.  Sorry but there just is no "polite" way to request extra gifts.  It's tacky and greedy.  If you want diapers, put some on the registry and most likely people will buy you some anyways.  To ask all your guests to buy them in addition to a gift is just gift grabby.  If you weren't a close friend, I'd just decline because of it or get you a cheaper gift to compensate for what I spent on the diapers.  Please don't do it. 

BallSox

Liz4444:

Dear guest:

In addition to the generous gift you plan on bringing, please open your wallet again and get me diapers so I don't have to spend my own money taking care of my child.  You might just get whatever crappy bar of soap was on sale at Bath and Body Works if you do.

Selfishly yours,

MTB

 

Hey hey hey, writing helpful wordings is MY shtick!  :-)  However, being as I was on vacation, I'll let it slide.  :-P 

Liz4444

BallSox:

Liz4444:

Dear guest:

In addition to the generous gift you plan on bringing, please open your wallet again and get me diapers so I don't have to spend my own money taking care of my child.  You might just get whatever crappy bar of soap was on sale at Bath and Body Works if you do.

Selfishly yours,

MTB

 

Hey hey hey, writing helpful wordings is MY shtick!  :-)  However, being as I was on vacation, I'll let it slide.  :-P 

We haven't had a poem in a while, I could never top a Ballsox poem!  You've been missed!

BallSox

Liz4444:

BallSox:

Liz4444:

Dear guest:

In addition to the generous gift you plan on bringing, please open your wallet again and get me diapers so I don't have to spend my own money taking care of my child.  You might just get whatever crappy bar of soap was on sale at Bath and Body Works if you do.

Selfishly yours,

MTB

 

Hey hey hey, writing helpful wordings is MY shtick!  :-)  However, being as I was on vacation, I'll let it slide.  :-P 

We haven't had a poem in a while, I could never top a Ballsox poem!  You've been missed!

It's been really odd not being around, but it's ok, I found other things to fill my time :-) 

 

Liz4444

Jealous!  where is that lovely location? 

BallSox

Liz4444:

Jealous!  where is that lovely location? 

Outerbanks, NC (the northern, less damaged from Irene section).  

I just realized your ticker!  It jumped like 3 months, I swear.  How are you feeling?  

rhubarb123

The way your friend did it was rude and tacky plus confusing.  It almost sounds like all she wants is diapers and wipes and no other gifts - especially since she didn't mention raffle.

If diaper raffles are customary in your location then I'm sure you can find a poem or whatever using Google.  I've only been to one or two showers that added something about a diaper raffle on the invite.  I did participate but have to admit I deducted the amount I spent on diapers from the amount I spent on the gift.

GirlyGirl319

Thanks ladies!! Appreciate the advice-- I will be telling my mom and friend to leave that off my invite and put 2 boxes of diapers on my registry. Does sound tacky when you think of it-- and asking guests to bring a gift + diapers=gift greedy!

Thanks for putting it into perspective for me!!

 

Liz4444

GirlyGirl319:

Thanks ladies!! Appreciate the advice-- I will be telling my mom and friend to leave that off my invite and put 2 boxes of diapers on my registry. Does sound tacky when you think of it-- and asking guests to bring a gift + diapers=gift greedy!

Thanks for putting it into perspective for me!!

 

Girlygirl, I am officially a fan of yours.  It's really refreshing to have someone not get offended when we don't tell them what they are thinking is the most wonderful idea ever and actually think and be rational.  Gotta love a Jersey girl (I'm one too!).

Liz4444

BallSox:

Liz4444:

Jealous!  where is that lovely location? 

Outerbanks, NC (the northern, less damaged from Irene section).  

I just realized your ticker!  It jumped like 3 months, I swear.  How are you feeling?  

I hope you had good weather.  We were in east hampton for 5 days, but it was really windy. 

I feel like a moose with acid reflux, and I'm starting to get that unsettled, I have nothing done feeling... It's going to be a long 3 1/2 weeks!

NewFamily09

Wow, that's rude.  Do they have any idea how much a box of diapers cost?  If they are asking for a box of diapers or wipes, I hope they are prepared to ONLY get diapers and wipes, because for me at least, that would take up my whole budget.  Actually, I don't think I'd even go to a shower that asked for diapers or wipes, even for a raffle.  Too greedy.

unverfkm

If I saw this on an invite I would bring diapers or wipes in lieu of a gift.  I would assume this what what they were "registering" for.

alber2am

I know a lot of people say this is rude but I don't agree and I know my family will not think it is rude either.  My mother is putting in the invitation "Bring a pack of diapers to be entered into a raffle"  if people want they can if not then they are not being forced to do this.  I have seen this on shower invites and never thought it was rude, a lot of people include diapers with their gifts anyway.  My mom is planning to have a nice gift card for the winner. 

JacksonTyler11

I don't usually post but I see this on here so often.  I know some may disagree but in our area these are very common and it really is not thought of as tacky.  However, I do think how it is worded makes a difference.  My mother added this to my shower but was very very careful how it was worded and made sure it was very clear that it was not demanded but an option.  The gift we gave away for the raffle was over $300 worth of goodies.  I have been to showers where this was on the invite and thought nothing of it but I have to say just this past weekend was at a shower where it was worded as bring in a pack of diapers with your gift.  I found that somewhat rude and did not bring any because it was more of a demand than an option to participate or not.  So I think how it is worded makes a huge difference (I know that most do not agree but its just my opinion)

gen2009

JacksonTyler11:

I don't usually post but I see this on here so often.  I know some may disagree but in our area these are very common and it really is not thought of as tacky.  However, I do think how it is worded makes a difference.  My mother added this to my shower but was very very careful how it was worded and made sure it was very clear that it was not demanded but an option.  The gift we gave away for the raffle was over $300 worth of goodies.  I have been to showers where this was on the invite and thought nothing of it but I have to say just this past weekend was at a shower where it was worded as bring in a pack of diapers with your gift.  I found that somewhat rude and did not bring any because it was more of a demand than an option to participate or not.  So I think how it is worded makes a huge difference (I know that most do not agree but its just my opinion)

 I completely agree.  I also think that others who agree shy away from posting comments, as to not disagree with the majority.

oceantj77

This site is so depressing! There are so many bitter betty's on here. You seriously take all the fun out of it! Is your life really that miserable that you have to bully and be mean to other mothers that are just asking a simple question. Why is it so rude to ask for people to bring diapers for a raffle? Every baby shower I've ever been to I've been asked to do the same. Clearly I knew it was optional and I didn't have to bring diapers but do you because these people are your friends (not enemies which a lot of you women seem to think your friends are) and you want to help them out because YOU know how expensive babies are. Clearly you can word it better than "hey bring me some diapers" but you simply asking I don't think is HORRIBLE like some of these other women think.