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Officially Joining

STLamySTLamy
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I have posted a few things on here in the past but as of last night I am actively pursuing a divorce from my husband of almost 7 years.  We have a 17 month old son and we have both agreed to try and keep things as amicable as possible.  

 My main issue right now is that he refuses to move out of the house.  He says it is his house and it is where his son is so he will not go.  He thinks that we need to stay there together until I finish school (in May).  He even thinks that we can sleep in the same bed.  (Yeah right)  The problem is that I don't have any family here.  His parents have a large house with plenty of room.  It is about 15 minutes away but I know they would let him stay there.  

I don't know what to do to convince him that we can't start to move on until we no longer live together. 

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  • DaringMissDaringMiss member
    You need to talk to a lawyer.  A lawyer will be able to advise you about your rights to the marital home.
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  • rt4lifert4life member
    I dont know your situation...but it sounds to me like hes still holding onto hope that things will still work out between the two of you....just my opinion though..
    If you knew better, you'd do better.
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  • DarthNBJenniDarthNBJenni
    He is right, it is his marital home. Without a court order from a judge granting one of you the right to the home, you really can't force him out. Retain a lawyer and have them get you a temporary hearing. 

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  • rah6191rah6191 member
    DO NOT DO THIS!!! this was my exact situation. we were waiting until he finished school last may. it just made for resentment and more fighting and anger. it did not work out at all. we slept in the same bed because i refused to sleep on the couch. sometimes he slept there but this was the worst idea ever. plus it will be harder on your child he is still young and unaware it will be easier if you did it now so he thinks thats the way it always was. best of luck
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  • STLamySTLamy
    Thanks for the feedback ladies.  We discussed this option with the therapist today and he agreed that if after a month I feel it is still not good he will move in with his parents.  I don't really have any other options so I'm going agree for now.  If I feel like it is not working I will exercise my option to have him move out.
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