A show of hands please....

rileycait

How many of you out there feel as though EVERYONE around you is pregnant?? Honestly, two of my co-workers are pregnant and as excited as I am for them, I am truly jealous. Not to mention, everyone jokes around that I need to get on the "baby train" when little do they know that I've been stuck in line at the station and everyone keeps cutting in front of me...the train's pulling away yet again and I'm stuck on the platform, waving my ticket around like a madwoman, wishing I was onboard. *Mental Head Smack*

jlmbaby

I completely feel the same way... I was just thinking about that yesterday that everyone is getting pregnant or having a baby but me! I wish is was me getting that BFP but I know my time will come though and yours will too

LLS1215

I feel the same way sometimes. I was always happy to hear someone was pregnant. Now that I'm trying to get KU I get a little jealous. Just think when you finally get pregnant there may be someone feeling just like you do now.

bridekimmie

riley- i know exactly how you're feeling.  It is amazing to me how insensitive people can be about the whole ttc thing.  Some days just want to scream it's none of your freaking business.  I sometimes feel jealous of those who are close to me that do have children.  I know at one point the holidays and birthdays were so hard for me.  I didn't want to be around anyone.  I would just want to cry.  I love my nieces and nephew to death, but sometimes it is really hard.  At least here you know you are not stuck in line at the station alone.  Anytime you need to vent or whatever we are all in the same boat.  Some are at different stages than others, but the advice is great and the ladies truly care about what you're going through.  Best of luck to you. Welcome!!

ms51030

I had never really noticed it before, but today at the State Fair, there were a lot of pregnant ladies. Granted, that isn't the people close to me, but it was still kind of startling.

rileycait

You girls are sweet and also very right-when I do finally get pregnant there may be someone who feels exactly like I do. I know there are a lot of women who can never get pregnant, so I should be thankful that is not the case (hopefully) for us and just know that my time will come! This board has been so great and welcoming and it's comforting to know that there are people here who feel the same way and who I can talk with about these things! Thanks ladies, for helping me stay strong! We'll get there!

narabug

I've known at least one pregnant woman, sometimes two or three at once, since DH's best friends wife got pregnant with their son who will be 2 next month. So I totally know where you're coming from.

narabug

bridekimmie:

riley- i know exactly how you're feeling.  It is amazing to me how insensitive people can be about the whole ttc thing.  Some days just want to scream it's none of your freaking business.  I sometimes feel jealous of those who are close to me that do have children.  I know at one point the holidays and birthdays were so hard for me.  I didn't want to be around anyone.  I would just want to cry.  I love my nieces and nephew to death, but sometimes it is really hard.  At least here you know you are not stuck in line at the station alone.  Anytime you need to vent or whatever we are all in the same boat.  Some are at different stages than others, but the advice is great and the ladies truly care about what you're going through.  Best of luck to you. Welcome!!

I know this isn't what you meant, but it made me picture a bunch of women standing in a boat in the middle of a train station. 

IDFarmer'sWife

I know exactly how you feel.  I swear that about 95% of the females I know are pregnant or recently had a baby.  And in the past few months at least 1 or 2 people a week have announced that they are pregnant.  It is so frustrating!  DH & I have been trying for about 6 months and get a little jealous when I see someone else announcing that they are pregnant.  Our time will come, I keep reminding myself that everything happens for a reason!  Good luck!

Teludriel

Two of the ladies I work with just had babies last month, as did my sister, my sister-in-law, and a dear friend. A couple of other good friends are pregnant.  I've actually found I enjoy being around them and talking about pregnancy and babies, as long as they don't keep bringing up my plans and asking when I'm going to be a mama. It helps me learn about what to expect and how to prepare. The annoying jokes and reminders mostly seem to come from other coworkers, friends, family, etc who probably see how interested in babies I am and feel the need to remind me I can make one too if I try hard enough. They think they're helping, because obviously I would never have thought of it on my own. It's so hard to have to respond tactfully when all you want to do is smack someone upside the head.

rileycait

bridekimmie:

riley- i know exactly how you're feeling. It is amazing to me how insensitive people can be about the whole ttc thing. Some days just want to scream it's none of your freaking business. I sometimes feel jealous of those who are close to me that do have children. I know at one point the holidays and birthdays were so hard for me. I didn't want to be around anyone. I would just want to cry. I love my nieces and nephew to death, but sometimes it is really hard. At least here you know you are not stuck in line at the station alone. Anytime you need to vent or whatever we are all in the same boat. Some are at different stages than others, but the advice is great and the ladies truly care about what you're going through. Best of luck to you. Welcome!!

 

I know this isn't what you meant, but it made me picture a bunch of women standing in a boat in the middle of a train station.

BAHAHAHAHA-love this!

brookelynpaisley

I'm 30 years old, my friends range from 24-37 and most are married. Of course a lot of people are pregnant or have small children. That's life.

brookelynpaisley

GhostMonkey:

bridekimmie:

riley- i know exactly how you're feeling.  It is amazing to me how insensitive people can be about the whole ttc thing.  Some days just want to scream it's none of your freaking business.  I sometimes feel jealous of those who are close to me that do have children.  I know at one point the holidays and birthdays were so hard for me.  I didn't want to be around anyone.  I would just want to cry.  I love my nieces and nephew to death, but sometimes it is really hard.  At least here you know you are not stuck in line at the station alone.  Anytime you need to vent or whatever we are all in the same boat.  Some are at different stages than others, but the advice is great and the ladies truly care about what you're going through.  Best of luck to you. Welcome!!

Not boats again.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R7yfISlGLNU

And for good measure.

 

Gahhhhh! Good one

reidme01

I know exactly how you feel.  It feels like everyone around me is either pregnant or just had a baby.  And the comments make it so much worse sometimes.  Just the other day I was talking with a co-worker and she joked 'Oh by this time my husband and I were already pregnant, better get on that.'  Little does she know that we are trying and I wish I were already pregnant.  Ugh... frustration train all aboard....

dotty188

Right here!  My sisters best friend is pregnant, 2 of my friends are pregnant, and I had a neighbor just share with me yesterday that she is expecting.  It doesn't help that they all ask when #2 is on the way.... hahaha

brookelynpaisley

dotty188:

Right here!  My sisters best friend is pregnant, 2 of my friends are pregnant, and I had a neighbor just share with me yesterday that she is expecting.  It doesn't help that they all ask when #2 is on the way.... hahaha

As a side note, I think this is odd considering your daughter's age. 15 months is still a baby, and while I realize that some people want their kids close in age, I don't think it would occur to me that the mother of a 15-month-old would be TTC again. Maybe it's because my sister and I are over 3.5 years apart and DH would want ours to be about 2.5-3 years apart. But then, I know the annoyance of being asked when babies are coming and don't ask anyway

brookelynpaisley

GhostMonkey:

brookelynpaisley:

dotty188:

Right here!  My sisters best friend is pregnant, 2 of my friends are pregnant, and I had a neighbor just share with me yesterday that she is expecting.  It doesn't help that they all ask when #2 is on the way.... hahaha

As a side note, I think this is odd considering your daughter's age. 15 months is still a baby, and while I realize that some people want their kids close in age, I don't think it would occur to me that the mother of a 15-month-old would be TTC again. Maybe it's because my sister and I are over 3.5 years apart and DH would want ours to be about 2.5-3 years apart. But then, I know the annoyance of being asked when babies are coming and don't ask anyway

Are you shitting me? People have been asking me that for months.

 

That just seems so crazy to me. I haven't had one, obviously, but I would think I would want to enjoy the first one's babyhood and getting to a point where they're at least STTN before I even thought about going through it again. My cousin has Irish twins and I just remember her saying she wished she'd gotten to enjoy #1 longer before the M/S of #2 wiped her out again.

I'm not at all meaning to say that you shouldn't try for #2 before #1 is a certain age, just that I wouldn't assume the mother of any child of any age should be.

brookelynpaisley

GhostMonkey:

LOL. He STTN at 5 weeks. I'm not using that as a measuring stick! Though that is part of why we didn't start earlier and are considering pushing back our "trying".

The funny thing is the people that have asked that know damn well what it took to get DS. Idiots.

 

Ha, see! Obviously, my little list of milestones to be achieved before #2 are highly uninformed

I'd imagine that it would take some time adjusting as a new mom to work yourself up to potentially doing it all over again, between the financial and emotional aspects of it. Maybe they're thinking if it took a while with #1, you'd better get on it yesterday for #2.

No matter what, people are just rude and ignorant if they think it's any of their business when you're adding to your family again.

Penguin81

GhostMonkey:

brookelynpaisley:

dotty188:

Right here!  My sisters best friend is pregnant, 2 of my friends are pregnant, and I had a neighbor just share with me yesterday that she is expecting.  It doesn't help that they all ask when #2 is on the way.... hahaha

As a side note, I think this is odd considering your daughter's age. 15 months is still a baby, and while I realize that some people want their kids close in age, I don't think it would occur to me that the mother of a 15-month-old would be TTC again. Maybe it's because my sister and I are over 3.5 years apart and DH would want ours to be about 2.5-3 years apart. But then, I know the annoyance of being asked when babies are coming and don't ask anyway

Are you shitting me? People have been asking me that for months.

 

My students were asking me when number two was coming before the first one friggin came and this is why I bump... I also bump because of girls like Brooke! 

MrsParker44

*raises hand*

 

And not only that, I get really rude comments as well. AF came this morning (along with some sobs and tears), after being 6 days late. I had someone tell me "This is God's way of telling you that you're not ready to have a baby. Maybe you should spend this time with your husband and get to know eachother first. Wait a few years."

 I almost knocked her teeth through the back of her head.

Then there was the girl at work, who saw me get upset while talking about my BFFN that I got that morning...she poked at my belly and said "Ooooh I see your baby moving!! Ha ha ha!!" I could have killed her!

I just want a baby like everyone else. It's like the universe is taunting us! 

brookelynpaisley

Penguin81:

My students were asking me when number two was coming before the first one friggin came and this is why I bump... I also bump because of girls like Brooke! 

Thanks

rileycait

*raises hand* And not only that, I get really rude comments as well. AF came this morning (along with some sobs and tears), after being 6 days late. I had someone tell me "This is God's way of telling you that you're not ready to have a baby. Maybe you should spend this time with your husband and get to know eachother first. Wait a few years." I almost knocked her teeth through the back of her head. Then there was the girl at work, who saw me get upset while talking about my BFFN that I got that morning...she poked at my belly and said "Ooooh I see your baby moving!! Ha ha ha!!" I could have killed her! I just want a baby like everyone else. It's like the universe is taunting us!

 Geez, no one has been quite that rude to me!! I am so sorry those things have been said to you. I am a firm believer in things happening for a reason, but that's not necessarily what we need to hear in certain situations. As Thumper would say, "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all" Keep trying and I hope you get some exciting news soon!

In the meantime, try not to knock anyone's teeth through the back of their head

Sweets11

GhostMonkey:

bridekimmie:

riley- i know exactly how you're feeling.  It is amazing to me how insensitive people can be about the whole ttc thing.  Some days just want to scream it's none of your freaking business.  I sometimes feel jealous of those who are close to me that do have children.  I know at one point the holidays and birthdays were so hard for me.  I didn't want to be around anyone.  I would just want to cry.  I love my nieces and nephew to death, but sometimes it is really hard.  At least here you know you are not stuck in line at the station alone.  Anytime you need to vent or whatever we are all in the same boat.  Some are at different stages than others, but the advice is great and the ladies truly care about what you're going through.  Best of luck to you. Welcome!!

Not boats again.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R7yfISlGLNU

And for good measure.

 

Bahaha!  Points to siggy... I'm on a boat!!

dotty188

brookelynpaisley:

dotty188:

Right here!  My sisters best friend is pregnant, 2 of my friends are pregnant, and I had a neighbor just share with me yesterday that she is expecting.  It doesn't help that they all ask when #2 is on the way.... hahaha

As a side note, I think this is odd considering your daughter's age. 15 months is still a baby, and while I realize that some people want their kids close in age, I don't think it would occur to me that the mother of a 15-month-old would be TTC again. Maybe it's because my sister and I are over 3.5 years apart and DH would want ours to be about 2.5-3 years apart. But then, I know the annoyance of being asked when babies are coming and don't ask anyway

Oh yeah, you would be suprised!  I think when she was about 6 months that's when people started asking about us having baby #2, and we were not even trying then!

venussapphire

i definately do

Gorillakisses15

I have been very blessed with children but have been trying again.  I never realized how annoying and maddening it would be to have people ask when the next one was coming while we are trying.  It always seems to feel like a jab.  It did not bother me when I wasn't trying but sure does now.

Emily&Chad

Let me just say that 10 people where I work are pregnant right now. 10... out of a company with 55 people.. 

CharityNichole

::Hand Raised::

 I would venture to say that 50% of the girls I went to school with have a newborn/ are pregnant. & My 2 best friends are too. I am happy for them, but jealousy does creep in.

My favorite is when I bump into someone I haven't seen in 10 years, they proceed to tell me they have 4 kids & then ask me WHY I don't have any. RUDE!

CharityNichole

::Hand Raised::

 I would venture to say that 50% of the girls I went to school with have a newborn/ are pregnant. & My 2 best friends are too. I am happy for them, but jealousy does creep in.

My favorite is when I bump into someone I haven't seen in 10 years; they proceed to tell me they have 4 kids & then ask me WHY I don't have any. RUDE!

CharityNichole

Sorry about that. Computer / Internet acting crazy!

nursemama2be

**Raises hand**

Of the 120 people I work with 17 are pregnant. Some of those women have started trying after we did and are expecting their baby any day. I have a hard time not being jealous of women who are due around the time I was and are having their baby showers and going off on maternity leave. I am ready for our take home baby.