1st Cycle TTC = Fail

KMac570

AF hasn't actually shown up yet - but I know she is coming from my CM.    This is only our first cycle TTC, and I KNOW that it can take a VERY long time to work.  IThe odds of it working the first time are very low, I know. So I was trying very hard to not get my hopes up.  It happened anyway though.  I guess all I can do now is focus on the next cycle, and perhaps indulge in some wine when AF shows up (so that I know FOR SURE that I can have a drink without causing harm).  It still sucks though

P.S. - I know that I really have no right to complain when some of you ladies have tried for so much longer, without success.  I am not trying to imply that I understand how you feel or that my first cycle fail is equivalent to what some of you have experienced.

Jlr07

No one likes CD1. Sorry AF is on the way!

The positive? Wine!  Good luck next month.

staycee

KMac570:

P.S. - I know that I really have no right to complain when some of you ladies have tried for so much longer, without success.  I am not trying to imply that I understand how you feel or that my first cycle fail is equivalent to what some of you have experienced.

I had many many cycles that failed.   However, my Cycle #1 also failed.   I also had my hopes up at that time.  I truly thought we had for sure made a HM baby - long before I was charting... when I look back we were on our HM about a week to 10 days before I even O'd.    

No matter how many cycles fail for people, everyone of those people will have cycle 1 that failed (not sure if every gets their hopes up on cycle1, but I know I did)

Karrotelle

I agree with Staycee. No matter how long you've been trying, the first cycle fail is rough. I know in my case I thought if we had sex when we were "supposed" to then why wouldn't we have a baby? Oh how things change after a few cycle fails (or in my case, 7 cycle fails). It's never easy and every cycle gets harder but the FIRST fail, in my opinion, really makes you stumble because then you start to realize, maybe well planned sex DOESN'T always result in a baby and that thought alone, sucks balls.

MissButters

Last month was out first cycle of actually trying and it was a fail.  Like you, I tried to tell myself not to get too upset, but it's hard.  Hopefully your next cycle will have a different outcome!

Mackerel1984

As someone else said, drink up! It's the best part of CD1.

KMac570

Thanks ladies!  You have actually made me feel better - it is so nice to be able to "talk" to people who understand and who are (or have at some point been) i the same situation.  I will definitely take your advice and drink up , and prepare for next cycle.  GL to you all!! 

rrdiva1

Awww I understand. Last month was our 1st try with no luck.

Feel Better, and just enjoy it. That is what I am trying to do. Hoping next time for ya

Emily&Chad

I'm with you... Cycle 1 Fail as of last night.. here goes round 2!

HrH33RN

Right there with you. Last month was also 1st cycle TTC and a fail. No matter how much I tried to prepare myself, it still stung a bit.

mdjdf

Right there with you. I had cycle #1 fail last Friday. Thinking positive about the next cycle helps! Good luck!

lanejam

We still have about a week until we know for sure whether cycle #1 is a success or not.  I think it's hard not to get your hopes up when you want something so badly.  I know I'm going to be super disappointed if/when AF shows up.  Worst part is, DH is going to be out of town when she's scheduled to arrive!  Maybe I should go ahead and buy that wine!  GL next cycle!

behapy2day

Last month was our first cycle trying and I got a BFN. It definitely sucked... a lot. I wallowed for a day or two. I think it's impossible not to be down after the first try.

eatdrinkstretch

I agree wholeheartedly with what all the PPs have said - no matter how long each of us has been trying, we all had a Cycle 1 "fail" at some point.  And it sucks.  We are taught that you have to be so, so careful not to get pregnant that it seems like it should be so easy when you want to be KU, especially when you do everything "right."

I know it is different for everyone, so I don't propose to speak for anyone else, but my experience has actually been that it is easier and *less* stressful the longer we have been trying.  I am sure that it will get hard again once I get closer to a year of TTC, but the first couple of cycles I put so much pressure on myself to just make it happen!  Now that I am a few cycles in, I am much more relaxed and it is much easier for me to tell myself that it'll happen when it happens, and that we are still well within the range of "normal."

As you face CD1 of cycle 2, enjoy that big glass of wine and take some time for yourself.  I find TTC to be extremely stressful, so I think it is very useful to allow yourself to rest, rejuvenate, and cry if you need to.  It's a marathon, not a sprint.

Manalyzer

This was our 1st cycle ttc#2, and it sucked when AF showed up. All you can do is just keep going. 

closure17

Last month was our 1st cycle and I'm still here so obviously AF showed up. It was hard at first, but on to a new cycle.

jess9802

Last month was also our first cycle, and I was pretty bummed toward the end of it, when I kept getting BFNs and yet my period still hadn't arrived. By the time it finally did, I was so glad not to have to call my doctor that I wasn't too upset But now Cycle #2 is winding down - I'm 11 DPO, have gotten two BFNs so far, and I have no symptoms of pregnancy. I'm starting to think we'll be out this month, and it's not fun. But, it is what it is, and we'll just keep going.

Good luck to you for Cycle #2!