Considering 2u2!

Addismom10

I am really ready for  another baby, but am scared to death of how hard it might be. My husband is a pilot and therefore gone for long periods of time all the time. I'm pretty much a single mom half the time... should I let my older child get a little bit older before having another one? She is 17 months now...

mrsseguin

It's definitely hectic. Mine are 25 months apart.  If we were to have another we'd wait till DD was 3 years old. Each age has it's advantages/disadvantages.  Also with your husband gone a lot...it's definitely something to think about!

CaitlinJ22

MIne are 18 months apart and my hubby is gone 3 weeks and then home 3 weeks. It was scary, but I wasnt gonna let his schedule decide our family planning. THe kids have eachother now and DS even comforts DD when she is sad when Daddy leaves. Its hard a times, but great. You get into a groove. I love having them this close and we are TTC #3 now. Poeple think I am insane, but my hubby is home 3 wks at a time with no work so it helps a ton when he is home. 

You do what works for you. The hardest thing is the kids missing Daddy....but we make it through. GL in your decision.  

sweetpea2003

It is a challenge but definitely doable.  I have been doing it alone for 4 months now (DH is also an aviator, but military so he is deployed) and am still smiling most of the time. 

To be honest, unless you want to spread your kids out so that one is in school full time before the other is born I don't think that it makes a whole heck of a lot of difference.  There are so many pros and cons to having them 2 years apart and 3 years apart...

Overall, at this point if you got pregnant tomorrow they would be over 2 years apart.  FOR ME, I wanted my kids within 3 years apart just so that they could have more in common as kids.  My sister and I were almost 5 years apart growing up (we had that gap where I was basically in full time Kindergarten when she was a newborn) and that was great for my mom, but my sister and I didn't really bond and become friends until our 20s.  I was always jealous of friends who had siblings at the same school and who could share friends.   

ctbride08

sweetpea2003:

To be honest, unless you want to spread your kids out so that one is in school full time before the other is born I don't think that it makes a whole heck of a lot of difference.  There are so many pros and cons to having them 2 years apart and 3 years apart...

I agree w/ this completely.  My first two children are 3 1/2 years apart and my second 2 are 12 months apart.  There are pros and cons to both but I wouldnt say one is any harder than the other.  Its just hard to add an extra child period.

Anna.Marie

I am only 15 weeks along with our first but I decided long before I was married that I wanted my children no more than 3 apart. My parents seperated when I was very young and I was almost 8 before my mom had another kid. This meant I was automatic babysitter most of the time I was living at home. Also, I don't want the first to be completely out of diapers before the other is born. I feel like it would be "Yes, they can pretty much take care of there self!" and then I'd have to start all over again with number two.

mjcleve

I'll say it's pretty chaotic the first year (my husband worked and was also finishing school so he was at school more than at home).  But so very worth it!  It's amazing now having them so close together - they entertain eachother all day long.  And I honestly don't think it would have been any easier if they were 3 or 4 years apart...it was just difficult adjusting to splitting my time between two kids plus all of the other household and work responsibilities.

rgtsmom01

Mine are 10 months apart and I think its great.  My husband travels a lot so I do most of it myself and it works out fine. You just do things that are kid friendly and stick to a tight routine.  I love it and your oldest will be way older when your second one comes than mine was.