Neighbor to us this morning after meeting DD for the 1st time....

anangelbug

....IS THAT A BLACK BABY?

(black neighbor, DH & are are white)

me: why yes, she is bi-racial

neighbor: whatda all do, adopt her or something?

The neighbor is a bit odd, ok very odd, always has been.  We went over to tell her her AC was about to blow up and we had the baby with us and she had never met her so we introduced her and she just kept looking at her shaking her head and then blurts out all loud and crazy: IS THAT A BLACK BABY. 

Not sure how to feel about it. She was so bold and crass the way she phrased it.  Guess it won't be the last time something odd or rude is said.   

nursesrh

Know that some people are not living in 2011:( Unfortunately, she won't be the last.

karleegirl

I'm just a lurker so I hope you don't mind me replying.

I'm white, dh is black. His grandmother and aunt (who like me) have made comments that I don't know how to take care of a black baby. Number one our child is biracial and number 2 besides his hair being a little curlier than my my other ds (who is white) I'm pretty sure it's the same.  It's very frustrating.

 I have also had a women in grocery store look at my child and say "what is he anyway?" I'm very pale with blonde hair, green eyes. My ds looks like he could identify with about 4 different ethnicities, none of those being white.

I know my situatoin is completly different, but it's frustrating that race is such a big issue. (Again I hope I didn't offend you buy replying)

frasey

thats horrible.

you should looked at your neighbour with a shocked look and said something like "WHAT? She's black!?!?!" Ill bet that would have gotten a good reaction.

cogbot

frasey:

thats horrible.

you should looked at your neighbour with a shocked look and said something like "WHAT? She's black!?!?!" Ill bet that would have gotten a good reaction.

I love this 

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Cissi64

fredalina:

Some people in the black community have very strong feelings about white people raising black and biracial babies.  Of the 3 people I've known like that, none of them have actually adopted a child of any color.  Just an observation...

Yep!  This has been our experience,too....and like Fred said, the ones who complain the most usually haven't adopted at all.  I sometimes want to scream at them, "Where do you think all the orphaned black children go?  What about the ones in foster care?" , because in our area there is always a shortage of Af.Am & Biracial foster homes so some of them end up living with Caucasian FPs and if they become available for adoption, the FPs usually adopt them.

taparham

You are going to get this not only from the black community but the white community as well.  Just be prepared.  If you get that comment again just say shes my daughter and walk away.  For some reason people believe they have a right to know about your life.  As long as you love your baby that's all that matters.

militarywife2b

Im changing my reply after thinking about it. Bottom line it doesn't matter what race you are as long as you are the VERY best parent to that child. Congrats on your new addition sounds like she has a wonderful momma :0)

 

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