Help!

KarliB84

I feel like an absolute failure as a mom right about now.. It seems like my girls are absolutely miserable almost the whole time they are awake and I have no clue how to make them happy, we have tried everything. They hate the swing, bouncer, and play mat. They are absolutely great sleepers, only up once and take about an ounce of formula and then are right back to sleep but during the day is absolute torture for me. 

 The girls are six weeks old and both of them were diagnosed with reflux and have started taking zantac three times a day, which I am sure the reflux is a huge reason why they are so unhappy, right? How long does it take for the zantac to start showing some results?

  My husband has taken some time off so he only has to go in two days a week and those two days my mom is here so I am pretty much never on my own but it is still such a challenge. I can't imagine doing this alone... and it makes me feel like such a failure. We have two other kids although they are 9 and 11 and I honestly can't remember it being like this. I hate sounding like such a complainer but I am really losing it and I don't know how I am going to survive this. I thought 6 weeks was the turning point but they just seem to cry more than ever. 

You ladies have been wonderful support so I thank you in advance!! And sorry for being such a HUGE complainer once again!  

Ruby_Tuesday

It took a little under a week for the medicine to help my DS with his reflux.  He was usually only extremely fussy from reflux when he was lying flat on his back. 

Sometimes when mine were fussy and I couldn't seem to get them to calm down I would put them on tummy time.  They tended to work hard when they were angry, lol. 

I found that walking around the house and looking out the windows with them tended to calm them.  Walks in the stroller helped too. 

They are so little.  It will get better, I promise.  You are not a failure.  Sometimes babies just cry.

iluvadam

Oh no!  I am so sorry for you!  Twins are hard enough but having more kids on top of that is even harder.  You are not a failure...In fact, it sounds to me like you are perfectly normal.  I don't know of one person on this board that can sit back and say that they got through the newborn phase (or any other phase for that matter) without losing it at least once or twice.  You will survive.  You will make it through.  And everyone is here to help you.  (((hugs)))

KarliB84

Thank you ladies, you guys are the best! Are there any tricks to keeping them both happy when it's just me with them? How do you know which one to comfort first when they are both flipping out? Which seems to happen very often lately!! : )

tmbuchmann

My neice had reflux really bad, like seriously, she was a screamer when she was awake (came out screaming and never stopped) my SIL had this manuever where she would hold her upright (one hand under the bum and one behind the head) and in a vertical position she went up and down. I saw her walking for an hour like that at a family function and then her husband switched up with her. I can tell you it was hard for her. But she did get through it and my neice is so sweet and wonderful now.

GL and remember, this too shall pass.