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jillychris

My IF wish for today is that the OBGYN's office had a back door for women struggling with IF to enter. Had to go in today for my annual (had kind of forgotten I needed a pap, considering how many other instruments have been in that area in the last 6 months!), and it was so hard to sit in the waiting room listening to newborns cry and watch women with baby bumps walking in and out.

On a good side, I LOVE my OBGYN. She is so sympathetic and caring. Today she told me she appreciated my courage for coming in because she's knows it's hard to see all of the pg women. Just nice to have a dr acknowledge the emotional side of things, since most are so clinical about everything.

What's your IF wish (other than getting KU, of course!!!)?

Delta04

I agree with your wish, Jilly.  My IF wish is that all of these treatments would be treated like the medical condition it is by insurance companies - and thus be covered for everyone.  That way, people like me wouldn't be 100% and the question of whether you can have (or attempt to have) a baby would not depend on $$.  It is so very unfair.

Ruthie04

Oh, I feel you on this one!!! But, how wonderful that you have such a compassionate OB/GYN! I'm jealous!!

Here's my "IF" wish: I wish that Mark Zuckerberg would create a new FB terms of service that made everyone stop posting pg/new mom complaints, baby bump pics, ultrasounds, or any of those stupid "all he has to do is be in the same room with me to get me ku!" status updates.

Mrs.McIrish

Ugh, you just reminded me that I have to see the gyn on 9/20. That will be torturous...

stinkerbell6879

Ditto everyone's wish! My wish would be that people would think first before saying some of the stupid "encouraging"  comments that they think help. Just listen and give a hug.

BeeBee08

I like all of your wishes!  If all of your wishes came true, it would be wonderful. 

I have another one to add.  I wish that IF had an expiry date.  Okay,we can't get pregnant right now, but if there was a known time limit for each of us on how long we had to wait, we could actually get on with our lives and enjoy these child-free days!  Let's face it, no matter how badly we want children, there are definite advantages to not having them, but it seems impossible to really and truly enjoy these days because we're always so focused on when it will be our turn.

jillychris

Mrs.McIrish:

Ugh, you just reminded me that I have to see the gyn on 9/20. That will be torturous...

 

Sorry!!! GL. It does absolutely suck. Crossing my fingers yours isn't running behind. Mine was incredibly compassionate, which was great, but she was also 45minutes late, which meant that much longer sitting in the darn waiting room!

mtlaurel

Ugh. My RE made me have a consult with an MFM prior to IVF - all pregnant with twins in the waiting room. Thankfully, the MFM and his wife had been through IVF and he was very considerate.

My wish would be that every city or town had an equally fantastic RE so that I and others wouldn't blow so much sick/vacation time just driving to and from appointments.

eponine7682

bfarrell:

 Let's face it, no matter how badly we want children, there are definite advantages to not having them, but it seems impossible to really and truly enjoy these days because we're always so focused on when it will be our turn.

I think about this often. Especially when I am on break. I try to think "hey, this could be fun, lets do things we normally wouldn't be able to if we had kids/were KU/on fert. meds. But then, all I can think of is how much I want a baby that I forget to have fun. UGH, that is indeed my wish. Also the insurance company wish too! They need to understand that these are real medical conditions!!!!

rockpaperlove

OP: You hit the nail on the head!  The waiting room is torture for IF'ers!

KGS2003

I wish that all insurance companies in all states were required to have IF coverage. no one should be denied the chance to have a child if they want one.

stinkerbell6879

KGS2003:

I wish that all insurance companies in all states were required to have IF coverage. no one should be denied the chance to have a child if they want one.

This. SO THIS. We have good insurance BUT of course IF is not covered. 

Ginger71

How nice of your Dr. I that she understands. I had an annual rescheduled on my EDD for my m/c and my Dr. didn't even acknowledge it....it was surely in the chart.

 

AmCheri

Oh, I like your post :-)

I'm behind on my annual pap, too.  Haven't wanted to make the appointment.  The other thing I'm dreading is my six month dentist appointment.  They've been trying to take X-rays for the last several visits, and I keep declining in the vain hope that I've been pregnant.  Going in again and facing the X-ray discussion just isn't something I want to to do.

Other than the obvious wish that one cycle would do the trick, I wish that IF treatments weren't so emotionally draining.  I can deal with the shots.  I can deal with my body going whacko.  It's painful dealing with the thoughts in your head though -- what if this fails again, what if I can't ever get pregnant, what if we don't have a family, why did we wait so long to see an RE, why is everyone else getting pregnant but me ... .  It's worse when I'm alone -- especially when I'm driving in the car, I feel overwhelmed by these "what ifs'."  It's just a lot to deal with on a daily basis.  And work full time.  And keep the house in order.  And keep the extended family happy.  Ughh.  Exhausting.

 

leolyns

jillychris:

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What's your IF wish (other than getting KU, of course!!!)?

Like other PP's have said, I wish health insurance covered all of IF.

I also wish that some people wouldn't say "everything happens for a reason" when it relates to TTGP; I know some mean well when they say this but it's kind of annoying to hear it when IF isn't any fault of your own. Granted, I am not totally open with my IF issues with others but I think you get what I'm saying.