Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
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Tell me truthfully: am I a bad mom?
MamatoA2010
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Hi everyone. I am the proud mom of 19 month old DD. I am also a SAHM and found it was very difficult and so about a month ago we put DD in daycare a couple days a week to give me a break. I feel very guilty about this but she is doing well there and loves it! Does this make me a bad mom? Tell me truthfully, especially all you SAHM's. I am however proud to say that for 17 1/2 months I stayed home full time with her 
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Re: Tell me truthfully: am I a bad mom?
She is happy in daycare, so no that in itself does not qualify you as a bad Mom.
Do you sit at the bar and drink while she is there? Do you sit at home and catch up on movies? Does having her in daycare strain your budget so that you cannot afford to feed her healthy food?
Truthfully, I think it is fantastic if you can afford it and use the time DD is in daycare to workout, run errands, clean the house or other items are are impossible with a toddler.
Yes, terrible.
Why would you think this makes you a bad mom? Bad moms neglect and hurt their children.
simple answer: No don't feel guilty. We as parents need breaks from our children every now and then....regardless if we SAH or work outside the home.
ETA: I am a working mom and there are times where I have some flex time and I still send DD to daycare while I sit at home and do nothing. I don't feel guilty at all. I know our daycare provider loves her very much and DD is getting a lot of interaction.
Goodbye little angel(7/22/2011)....see you in heaven
Goodbye my second angel (9/18/2011)
This. Seriously.
Moms have so many titles these days so no I think that whatever you choose to do while the kids are in daycare isn't shameful one bit!
We're moms, doctors, firemen, chefs, maids, rockstars when we sing o them, and then we work to bring home bread.... the list goes on. There's no shame in your game! There are millions of hardworking moms that have to leave their children in daycare just so they can keep their sanity!
I still take DD to daycare when I days off during the week. It gives me a nice good day off to myself. I typically on these days do things like laundry, clean, or go run errands. I need some me time. I don't think it makes anyone a bad mom for doing this.
Personally I like the fact that DD is getting social interaction at this young of an age. She doesn't have any cousins or anyone that I know close to her age. So it's the only time she gets to play with other kids.
Your child needs the socialization and you need the time to yourself. You are definitely not a bad mom
I really am excited about him starting preschool!
Why would that make you a bad mom?
If she's not getting interaction with other kids regularly, I think it's a great idea. Even if she was, I still think every mom needs a break. We have a nanny/child care provider come once a week for 4 hours and I spend that time doing everything other than errands, running and cooking.
No way!
DH and I have talked about doing it like 2 days a week, even half days, just so he gets some time with other kids. So far he just gets an hour a week at church!
Why are you proud that you stayed home for 17 months? Because you're a master budgeter and could afford it? Or because you were able to stand your child for that long?
Putting your child in daycare doesn't make you a bad mom. Many of us are not able to stay at home and he have to work. Does this make us bad moms because we have to work to support our families, No. I think it's great that your little one is being able to socialize around other kids. You need to take a little time for yourself and you aren't "harming" your child by taking them to daycare.