Coping — The Bump
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So, had a terrible to end to my work day, and I think between that and all of the medication I am on, it is taking a toll on me emotionally.  So, what do you girls do to cope when all you want to do it crawl up in a ball and cry until you can not cry anymore?  I feel as though I am loosing control of myself and I HATE that I have not control over any of this.  I just want to have a baby and I do not understand why that is so much to ask for :(
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  • ((hugs)), I'm sorry you're feeling this way.  If possible, having that good cry can help.  I have also been writing in a journal when I'm feeling like that and it really helps me to get out my emotions.  

    I think that not having control over IF is the hardest part. 

    After more than a year, 1 IUI, 1 m/c, then acupuncture/TCM = natural cycle BFP on 12/5/11!

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  • Hide in the bathroom and have a long soak.
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  • What helps me cope when I'm on the verge is to visualize what our family is going to look like in the future. I take a deep breath, close my eyes, and think about eating dinner as a family of four. DD in her booster, baby in the highchair, DH helping the kids get seated and me serving dinner. It helps me to remember that all of this heart ache will be worth it in the end. Good luck staying positive. It can be SO hard sometimes.
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  • I'm so sorry, hugs.  IF sucks and it makes our lives crazy.  Hang in there!  I take long walks with DS he helps me relax when he starts pointing out all the little things.

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  • This is all just so unfair.  I know exactly how you feel Crying

    I get through it by letting myself have a bad day.  If I want to lose my sh*t, I lose it.  We need to allow ourselves to feel what we feel.  Bottling it all up just makes it that much worse. 

    That being said, I don't let myself wallow for days.  If I have a bad day, I let myself have it if, and only if, I promise to pick myself up the next day.  I will do something fun with DD, force myself to go to the gym, whatever it takes to get my a** back in the game.  Fake it until you make it, right?

    Hang in there lovey!  {{{HUGS}}}

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