Middle name dilemma

josie402

My 2.5 year old niece has my name as her middle name.  I was surprised and honored when I learned her name when she was born.  I would like to do the same and use my sister's name as the middle name for our baby, but DH isn't completely on board with it.  Her name is definitely more of a first name than a middle name.  He's ok with using Anne, which is the last part of her first name, but would prefer to not use the whole thing.  I think he also doesn't want to offend his sister (which I don't either).  Right now the options are to either use Anne (second part of both my sister and my mom's first names) or Lea (my sister's middle name, pronounced Lee).

My main problem is that I don't want to hurt my sister's feelings if we don't use her first name.  I really don't think it will and I'm probably just overanalyzing all of this.  We're really close and she means the world to me and I just don't want to hurt her.  I know the bottom line is that it's our baby and we can choose whatever name we want, but I'd like to honor her like she did me.  We haven't even decided for sure on a first name yet, so that'll probably help determine which name we pick.

So, would you be offended if someone used your name and then you didn't use theirs (or only used part of it)? 

angelynn8411

its your kid, i wouldnt worry about what other people think or their feelings. my neice was named after me (i don't like my name or hers so i dont care - i didnt ask them to) but our DC will not be named after people. My mom is offended that we are not naming our DS after my dad or my DD after her. I told them to get over it. I don't like either of their names!

megs042107

if you decide to use Lea, you are still using part of her name. ?i don't think she'd be offended or get her feelings hurt. ?i think she'd still be touched. so, yes, i think you are overanalyzing. ?

Sunny1inTucson

I think you're overanalyzing. For one person you pick, automatically everyone else won't be picked. It happens!

I have two sisters and DH has one, but ultimately we are using one of their names as the middle name for various reasons. My other sister understands that it simply sounds better for one, and that we have other reasons too. It doesn't mean we love her any less because we didn't use her name.