Ugh. I hate the looks!

Whitney DD

I am 25, but look like I'm in my early 20s. I have a 6 month old, and I will be growing a belly soon. I already get a million looks and comments from older ladies at the store thinking my baby was an accident or something. It doesn't help that I don't always wear my wedding ring. But I am just DREADING the looks and comments I will get when my belly gets big and I have a baby on my hip. And there's nothing I can do about it. Ugh.

kcisthebombdotcom

Honestly, if you were 18, 28, or 38, you'd hear comments when you're carrying an infant and you have a pregnant belly.

With time, you just get used to it.

CaitlinJ22

I agree, you'd get looks either way--if you were 25 or 35. BUt it doesnt make it fun to have people stare at you. I felt I got it the worst when I was huge and had a baby on my hip. You deal, its annoying but who cares. I had just as many people stare as I did people tell me they had kids close in age too. 

JaGirl

I just don't understand why people feel the need to pass judgement. You should develop your own look to counteract the ones you get from those older ladies. A sort of "mind-your-own-business-look-lady" look. I've been doing that and it seems to work wonders. Beat them at their own game.

meredith anastasia

I hear you.
I'm 24, and when I'm at the park with DS (almost 19 months) and pick him up or anything, I get stares because of my 37 week belly.  In general, people will stare, but yes I do think it's worse when you look younger.  Anyway, I brush it off, good to do this while we're young and have the energy, right?!

howleyshell

KC_13:

Honestly, if you were 18, 28, or 38, you'd hear comments when you're carrying an infant and you have a pregnant belly.

With time, you just get used to it.

This.

But if it bothers you a lot maybe take some time to prepare your rebuttal?

We struggled with IF.

When people would say to me:  "Wow you're gonna have your hands full" or "You've got your hands full"  I'd say something like:  "Full hands and a full heart" or "It beats the alternative - I've tried that too."

 

kagl04

meredith anastasia:

I hear you.
I'm 24, and when I'm at the park with DS (almost 19 months) and pick him up or anything, I get stares because of my 37 week belly.  In general, people will stare, but yes I do think it's worse when you look younger.  Anyway, I brush it off, good to do this while we're young and have the energy, right?!

I'm the same age. My DD is almost 13 months and I'm 32 weeks pregnant. I get looks all the time and constantly feel judged because I don't look my age. I've gotten used to it over the past few weeks but it's still hard to ignore sometimes. I just always make sure my wedding rings are on and I tend to walk with tunnel vision so I don't notice the staring... It is tough sometimes though. And those comments of "wow, you're ambitious or you'll be busy" annoy me! Yes we will but it's what we want and we aren't the 1st people to have 2u2!!

jennyenny323

I'm pregnant with #3, my oldest is 27 months and youngest is 11 months. I'm definitely showing and we get a lot of looks. I don't mind though - I feel so blessed and think others should see me as blessed too

jgoo

KC_13:

Honestly, if you were 18, 28, or 38, you'd hear comments when you're carrying an infant and you have a pregnant belly.

With time, you just get used to it.

This exactly. 

Depending on my mood, I either smiles & went on my way. Or had a quick comeback telling them our loving family is growing & we couldn't be more excited [even though she was a surprise, lol]

ShannonSky

howleyshell:

KC_13:

Honestly, if you were 18, 28, or 38, you'd hear comments when you're carrying an infant and you have a pregnant belly.

With time, you just get used to it.

This.

But if it bothers you a lot maybe take some time to prepare your rebuttal?

We struggled with IF.

When people would say to me:  "Wow you're gonna have your hands full" or "You've got your hands full"  I'd say something like:  "Full hands and a full heart" or "It beats the alternative - I've tried that too."

 

Most of the comments I've gotten have actually been positive, which surprised me, especially since the area I live in has one of the highest average ages at first marriage/childbirth. Usually the comments are from older women (like my grandparents' generation) who had their kids younger and spaced closer together than is the norm today, and they're generally supportive. My neighbor's mom did say to me the other day that she thinks we'll stop having kids after this one b/c it's so tough and that I'll really have my hands full, and I used basically the above - "Better full than empty!" Because it is so true.

etude de la vie

I get a comment or a stare every time I leave the house. I look about 21 and I am very short and petite. I am normally wearing one child with the older toddler on my hip.I often tell people all the "perks" of having them so close and it makes people realize that maybe we planned it this way.  

What bothers me the most is I often get asked or people assume I am on some kind of assistance program when they see the two small kids. I have gotten many "Are these WIC items" or "We can't take American Express with WIC" as I approach the register!

I know it is because of the kids because I am dressed fairly nice, I have a nice ring and often have a very recognizable designer diaper bag (Gucci, Kate Spade, or Coach).   I live in a high cost of living area and people can't afford having more than one or they space it out 5 years because day care is astronomical and 90% of people need two incomes. I am lucky that DH makes enough and I can SAH but as a result people make their assumptions about me and the children. 

pocoabeja

I'm 26, and I have a 4 1/2 year old, 3 year old, and 16 month old. And, I'm newly pg with #4. I have to laugh when I go out and about and people say, "MY...you must be really busy!!" I can't wait until I'm at the grocery store with all 3 and a big pregnant belly.  

I am somewhat dreading sharing the news of this pregnancy because of all the naysayers and negative people out there. "Just because YOU don't think you could handle it...doesn't mean I can't!" 

bride2bsoon

I wish I still looked young enough to get the looks!  Now I look old enough to have a gaggle of kids...  Just a bit of jealousy coming out.

BrittKav

Maybe they're just looking at your cute baby? I'm 21 with two babies and I don't get any "looks"...or maybe I'm just oblivious to them

TheOriginalSP

KC_13:

Honestly, if you were 18, 28, or 38, you'd hear comments when you're carrying an infant and you have a pregnant belly.

With time, you just get used to it.

This.  I'm sure I'll get more than a few looks and comments since I'll have aa little toddler, a big toddler and a big belly. 

MammaBear81

I'm 29 and just had my 5th, and I never get used to those "looks"... I feel like I have to explain myself or something!  I've been getting better at dealing with the comments, but the worst one (for me) is "are they all yours?" "um, no, I just like going around collecting red headed kids to bring with me when I shop!"  I know 5 kids isn't that common, but do you have to make me feel like a freak show?!