Vent: "When Are You Having Another Baby?"

pixieprincss

Apparently now that LO is all of (almost) 8 months old, it is time to TTC #2 (ha, ha). We have been asked many times recently about when baby #2 is coming, including by people who know about our IF. I even had one person tell me how since I had DS, my IF is over and I should be able to get PG (and stay PG) with no problem since my body has been "reset". She was genuinely shocked when I told her that there are only a few IF issues that can resolve through pregnancy. Another of the people was my FIL who dealt with IF before DH was born (of course, they had IF before baby #1, but then TTC 2,3, and 4 were not problematic) and another was a neighbor who knows about our loss, IF, and the intense physical therapy I required to heal from my PG with DS. Have people lost their minds?

DavezWife

I've used the phrase ''trying hard, failing miserably'' many times. It usually shuts them up, or at least gains a lil' sympathy.

pandabearlover

I have anxiety about new people asking me this.

Dr.Loretta

I have had several people (including my ob/gyn) state with certainty that I'll get pg now that we adopted DD. And people started asking when we were going to adopt another when DD was about 10 months old. I told them we will when we win the lottery. MIL actually thought we had a "buy one get one free" deal with our agency. Yeah, teachable moment on more than one level.

sasa625

I hate that people ask this (IF or not!) I don't think my reproductive decisions are anyone's business! In the past 6 months I have been asked this more times than I can count, and a group of women I had just met actually came right out and asked if I was pregnant (um, do I look pregnant? didn't help the self esteem there ladies!)

Even before dealing with our issues, I made it a point never to ask a couple what their plans for children were... I figured when there's one on the way, they will tell me when they are ready. My BIL and SIL have been talking about TTC, and my DH is anxiously awaiting an announcement from them. I have made him swear up and down that until they make one, he won't ask!!