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aslagle2

Ok I'm have a little problem with my mother and sister and I don't know how to just say it to them.  The problem is that they post pictures of my daughter on their Facebook page for everyone to see.  I don't let all of my Facebook friends see pictures of my daughter because it makes me uncomfortable. And it also really gets under my skin when they don't tag myself or my husband in them.  I've been going through and tagging us in them whenever they post a new one, hoping that they would get the hint with no prevail.  If I just say it to my mother, she'll start a bickering match with me no matter how I try to explain it to her.  I know the tagging part shouldn't bother me, but it's MY daughter.  The reason I feel so upset about it is because my mother was trying to get pregnant with her boyfriend and they weren't able to.  I feel like she's trying to have dibs and get the attention from her friends with my daughter.  She's even gone as far as to tell me that the baby I a currently pregnant with, she won't love as much as my first daughter because she was first.  Like really!?  Don't say that to my face!  Anyway, I digress.  I wasn't sure if anyone else had had issues similar to this and if so, how did you solve them.  Thanks ladies!

indiana101

You're just going to have to be upfront with them. They wont know or stop otherwise. Just say something along the lines of 'DH and I do not let everyone see pics of DD for a reason, and we would really appreciate if you didn't post pics of her for everyone to see'. There is a good chance they don't realise that it is making you uncomfortable.

If that doesn't work, a simple MY CHILD MY WAY convo might be in order. GL

Ann429

If the Facebook thing makes you uncomfortable, definitely say something. I'm the same way, I post pics of my daughter, but only select people can see them. I know my mom doesn't have the FB skills to do that, so I monitor pics she posts. It still makes me uncomfortable though, but I let it slide because she has about 40 friends But she thinks she "knows" them all, when really she doesn't.

However, the comment your mom made to you about your second child is just WRONG! I have my suspicions that my mom feels the same way, but it's just a terrible thing to say. I've seen too many second children be treated unfairly by grandparents! I wouldn't put up with that at all!

mrr15

You need to be up front to her.  I was the second daughter and my grandmother was very opened about loving my older sister more than me because she was the first.  It hurt a lot and I don't have any good memories with that old hag.  Ex: bought my sister treats, clothes, and toys in front of me and would tell her how much she loved her and never to me.  It was awful!  Not saying (nor trying to scare you) that this will happen in your family, but you really should talk to her.  Sorry, but what you wrote really hit close to home with me.