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May 2011 Moms
gbaby26
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For those SAHM's...
gbaby26
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how does your day typically go? sometimes i feel so lazy being a SAHM even though it is the toughest job..when i mean lazy i mean not showering or even getting dresses, eating like crapolaaa (drinking a coke and eating doritos as i type this- LOL)....and i have NO motivation for exercise...i feel like because i am not going to work or anything that i am not that concerned with my appearance but at the same time i feel like i am letting myself go and it makes me feel yucky!
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Re: For those SAHM's...
Technically I'm not a SAHM, I'm just still on mat leave (a year). I shower every morning, and do my makeup. (It wakes me up to shower, and if I didn't make-up I would feel off). Although I wear my yoga pants about half the time, I dress in jeans and a shirt most other days.
I try to go out at least once with LO every day (the mall, costco, walk with a friend, etc) It makes me feel more productive. I find I'm cranky at the end of the day if we haven't done anything.
As for eating - I wasn't eating well and then wondering why my baby weight wasn't going anywhere. Now I'm being much more careful and have lost 10.5 pounds.
So, although I feel like I could do more around the house, I don't feel like I'm lazy or letting myself go.
If you're feeling like you're letting yourself go, why don't you make more effort for a week and see how you feel?
Typically I don't do too much until LO goes down for a nap around 10-10:30. I try to shower and clean up during that time b/c it's the only reliable nap he'll take.
Usually by noon I try to get out of the house. Usually it's just a walk around town or a walk to the grocery store. This the usually the extent of my exercise. It's been cool a few mornings though and we've gone for a longer walk, around an hour or so.
I try to force myself to get some stuff cleaned and get out of the house everyday. I have days, like yesterday, where I felt like LO was attached to my boob all day and I didn't shower and was lucky I got dressed.
Pretty much this, except it's more like 2 before we actually get out of the house. Unfortunately, I'm with you on the crap eating and not exercising. I tried to do crunches a few days ago, and got discouraged. Sad.
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I have a few rules for myself...first of all I HAVE to take a shower every single day, even if I don't wash my hair. It takes 5 minutes and it's kind of gross not to, you know? I try to wash my hair and actually fix it every other day but sometimes that just doesn't happen.
I also get dressed every day and try to put on some makeup, even if it's just mascara and lip gloss. I don't want LO to think it's normal to wear PJs or yoga pants all day long and I DON'T want DH to come home to a slobby wife. I'd be pissy if I worked all day and came home to him just sitting around looking gross. Again, it takes 5 minutes to put on regular clothes.
I eat healthy (for the most part) and I try to exercise 4-5x a week during LO's morning nap (try these short workouts, I do 2-3 a day). That's more for me...in 5 months I don't want to have gained all the baby weight back! Plus we are going on a trip in less than a month, I want to look hot again in some little lingerie!
I try to make LO and I leave the house once a day, even if it's just to the grocery store or dr. appointment. If we truly don't have anything to do, I've been known to go to Target and just walk around, not even buying anything. So I make myselft get dressed and decent looking to go out and about.
We could start a daily check in to make sure nobody's in their PJs at 2 p.m..
I try (emphasis on try) to wake up around 7am to do yoga, shower and get myself pulled together for the day before she gets up at 8:30 (and if she wakes up earlier, DH is in charge).
Some days I do not shower, put on makeup, get dressed or brush my hair. I would say that happens once every 2 weeks. I have an errand to run almost everyday, and that alone forces me to pull myself together.
As far as eating - its tough. The only way for me to be successful in not drinking coke and eating doritos is to not buy coke or doritos. So I meal plan like crazy, don't shop hungry, and stick to the plan. Helps with the budget, too.
I also have pretty ambitious to-do lists everyday and I am in the thick of studying for the CPA exam, so I don't laze around too much (but when I do, I feel guilty, and soemtimes I do).
LO is a total night owl these days (WTS happened?) so we're up until 11 or midnight every night which is miserable for getting up early, plus lately he's up at 2, 3, 5 and 7, too. I could go cross eyed thinking about it.
I have to get up in the mornings to put our other three on the bus. The girls need help getting ready and I like to make sure they don't eat cold cereal every morning...at least once a week I make a big breakfast.
After they leave at 7:15, honestly, I go back to bed with Ari because sometimes he'll sleep from 7-10 and I need the rest. Sometimes we go shopping, it's too hot to go to the park or out for a walk...and my treadmill is holed up in the garage for now so that's a no-go. I don't exercise much.
I eat pretty OK (hard boiled eggs and fruit for breakfast, soups and sandwiches for lunch, reasonable dinners) but snacks are a different story. Klondike bars, Diet Dr. Pepper, and peanut M&Ms are my weakness.
I regularly have visitors to the house which keeps me in check as far as cleaning goes. Best way to keep a clean house? Invite people over! Even if it's just my mom stopping by on her way home from work for a cupcake and a coffee...it helps. My husband works late so he's hardly ever home before we go to bed, but if he's going to be home, at the very least I wash my face and throw on some concealer so I don't look like the walking dead. How can I be up his ass about image if I'm walking around the house imitating Elvira?
We are a one car family, and SO takes that car to work all day. The stores and parks are about a 30 minuet walk away, but it's too hot lately to walk that far with a baby.
So, I am pretty much inside all day everyday. It sucks.
I shower everyday. I either take a shower with the baby, or when SO get's home at 6:30pm. I try to fix my hair and put on mascara everyday so I am not super frumpy.
I wear leggings and tank tops almost everyday though, there is no way I am wearing jeans if I am going to be home all day. Too uncomfy.
One thing I learned from previously working at home is that I need to get dressed/showered everyday otherwise I just start feeling lazy and unmotivated.
Normally I wake up whenever LO does (around 6:30/7:00), nurse him, change diaper and go make coffee and breakfast. If DH is home in the mornings, we have breakfast together. I play with LO for a bit and then shower and get dressed while he is napping. Then I'm ready to leave the house whenever he wakes up.
I usually try to go out at least once during the day. Today I went to the movies with DS (they have a special showing at our theater for moms & babies), yesterday we went to the library for story time. The day before that we sat out in the park for a couple of hours (found a shady spot under a tree, DS napped while I read a book).
We just moved to a new city and DH works a lot, lately he has been working 12 hours shifts (9am to 9pm). I'm home alone a lot so it's important that I make an effort to get out of the house to meet people otherwise I could go all day without talking to anyone. I'm planning on signing up for a few baby things starting this fall.
Baby #2 on the way!
I'm guilty of this too!
We're debating joining a gym... we were members of the YMCA before we moved but it's way more expensive here, almost 3x as much, and the YMCA that is walking distance from the house doesn't have childcare.
My days are normally pretty busy, but I have moments where I feel like I am not doing anything.
DD goes to be around 11:30 pm and DS is up by 7 am at the latest, so I am up when he gets up. I make us breakfast and DS is allowed to watch a short tv show until it's ready. DD gets up around 7:30 and goes back to sleep until 10.I take about 30 mins to work out, then I will normally throw DS in the shower with my while DD chills in her swing and then we clean house. By the time everything is picked up it's close to lunch so we play outside for a while, then both kids eat and if everything goes well they both sleep for 1-3 hours. During this time I will nap, clean some more, play on the computer, do my hair/make up, or do something crafty around the house. Once the are both up again we play some more, watch another kid show while I start dinner, and we will often try to run to the store just to get out. DH gets home anywhere from 5:30-8:30, we eat, watch an adult show and then go to bed.
I try to always have on normal clothes when DH gets home from work, and I always make sure I shower at some point during the day, but I admit that I have taken off one pair of sweat pants only to put on a clean pair!
DS1 Born Apr 29 2011
DS2 Born Nov 5 2013
Pregnant with #3 Dec 24 2014, MMC found at 10w, D&C Feb 10th 2015
Cautious BFP May 25th 2015 EDD Feb 6 2016
umm even before i was a mom i couldn't care less about makeup and what i got dressed in. good thing i met my husband with no make up on and at the beach. everything hanging out all at once. i change from one lounge outfit to another. and i sometimes *gasp* go out in public in lounge wear. or i will occasionally throw a tshirt and jeans on or something. but i dont wear it at home. i dont need her drooling all over my clothes and my idea of 'doing' my hair is throwing it in a ponytail.
good thing my husband loves me and not what i wear. cuz if he cared that much id probably not be married to him.
i met my husband wearing absolutley no makeup as well. i don't know if he cares or even notices, but i don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to look nice for him when he comes home from a long day at work. or if I don't look nice, at least I've brushed my hair, showered, and I'm not wearing pajamas.
Now for me, things might be a bit different with just a baby, but I also have an 18 month old.
With that said, I usually don't shower until about 4 or so in the afternoon, and most days I go from pjs to new pjs. I do have to shower everyday, I feel all greasy and gross if I don't. But frankly, I don't care what I wear if I don't leave the house. DH knows being home with the kids all day is a lot harder then his job and could care less what I look like when he gets home. Plus, if he did care, I'm not sure I would care too much to be with him. On days we go out, which I try to do once or twice a week at least I do at least do my makeup. I rarely do my hair b/c it takes me like 30 mintes, and I don't have the time, plus with the heat it is pretty pointless anyways.
As for what I eat, I just have a quick lunch everday, and I don't worry too much about it being healthy. Although I am hoping to start some sort of diet after Labor Day.
Sometimes being in PJs all day makes me feel lazy too (even though I don't lay around all day), and on those days, I usually will put on a pair of jeans and a bra! LOL
Hahah, I wear lounge wear everyday too. I have to change shirts 1-2 times a day, I don't want to mess up my nice clothes with baby puke and poop.
Honest question...do y'all really get pooped on all that often? I did the first week (on my jeans at her pedi appt) and another time in the middle of the night when I should have moved her up to a bigger size of diapers. Lesson learned on that one!
I might be cursing myself in saying this, but I've never been pooped on. DD has never even peed while I'm changing her diaper. Now that she rarely spits up after eating, I don't have much of an excuse not to get dressed.
I'm basically a SAHM. I'm in my last year a B.S. degree program in Child Development, but I only go to a couple of classes each morning and one afternoon class on DH's day off work. Before classes started back, I was guilty of lounging around the house in chemises all day. I feel much better about myself now that I have to get up and shower, put on make-up, and get dressed to go on campus. We also got a second car this week, so I'm able to get out of the house with DD when DH is at work. It's amaaazing.
BFP #1 9/7/10, EDD 5/14/11, Violet born 5/27/11.
BFP #2 4/9/12, EDD 12/16/12, M/C Rory 4/24/12.
BFP #3 10/6/12, EDD 6/16/12., Matilda born 6/17/13.
Myself or my husband get pooped on at least every other day. Now that she isn't going like 243544 times a day, the times she does go seem to go flying everywhere, and especially if I'm nursing her it tends to come out the side occasionally, that's fun. She rarely spits up but the drool is all over and when I look in the mirror you can definitely see drool 'stains' on my shoulders.
And my husband comes home and immediately puts on a cut off shirt and gym shorts. Sometimes just boxers. We are a lounge wearing match made in heaven haha.
Caitlin 4.17.11 Madeline 10.20.13
I wake up around 6:30 and feed DS for about 35 minutes, then change his diaper and dress him, then try to put him in his swing so I can at least have coffee and sometimes have breakfast.
By 7:30 he wants to eat AGAIN this time for about 20 minutes. Around 8:45 I change him again and put him in his carseat while I get dressed and ready to go for the day. We run errands and go to the early years centres (Ontario government sponsored mom group- we either do Tummy-time and play with toys or a structured singing and dancing group, in September we're doing infant massage). I feed him at the centre. We get home around 11-12 and I feed him again, then try to put him in his swing or bouncer so I can eat lunch hopefully.
Then I feed him for 20 minutes every 90 minutes or so and try to make supper, do laundry, clean kitchen etc between. Around 4:00 DH gets home and we talk/relax. Then around 4:30 we eat supper (he likes to eat early). I feed him before/after/during supper as he wants and every hour until 8:00 then I feed him, give him his bath, feed him again and put him to bed around 9:00. His diaper gets changed about every 2 hours while we are home.
I was going to the gym at about 4-6 weeks for an hour a day 3-4 days a week (they have child minding part of the day) but with him eating so often I have stopped doing it. I EBF and even with a single electric SUCK at pumping (think 1oz in 30minutes during the day). My makeup consists of foundation and my hair usually means I part it and smooth it down- it takes me about 3 minutes to go to the bathroom, get dressed and do my makeup/hair each morning and DS is crying in his carseat the entire time
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After he goes to bed, I take a bath, relax and try to get to bed by 11 or 12.
Yeah, I feel like I get nothing done except feeding him (just realized we're probably up to about 12 times most days right now). But I just keep telling myself this is temporary.
The first thing DH does when he walks in the door is strip off his clothing. Haha. He argues that it's way too hot in Alabama to wear anything but boxers around the house. Sometimes I think he's on to something.
BFP #1 9/7/10, EDD 5/14/11, Violet born 5/27/11.
BFP #2 4/9/12, EDD 12/16/12, M/C Rory 4/24/12.
BFP #3 10/6/12, EDD 6/16/12., Matilda born 6/17/13.
My typical day:
get up with the baby, sometime between 7 and 9. Shower immediately - LO lies on the floor happily. Get dressed, brush hair, look good enough to be seen in public.
I've got a mom's group every second monday, a breastfeeding group on tuesday (if I feel like it), and volunteer on Wednesday (usually in the evening). So if we're going out, I pack up and go. Other days I do the grocery shopping or run errands.
I usually just have leftovers for lunch, but try to cook real food for dinner. Tonight was pizza from scratch.
I'm running 3 days a week. So far, DH has been off and I can just leave LO with him whenever. Now that DH is back at work, I'll either go when he's home in the evening or talk to MIL about her coming over sometimes in the afternoon after she's done work. I've got one week left of the 9 week couch-to-5K program, and I'm pretty proud to have made it this far.
I tend to get more done on the days I have somewhere to go than on days I just chill at home.
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For me, it's helped to follow a weekly schedule so it keeps me productive and motivated. If I get in the habit of getting out of the house, exercising, socializing, etc. - then I'm more likely to feel accomplished. Also, I really like my To Do Lists because that also helps me organize my days/week, otherwise I probably would stay in my PJs, watch TV all day, and not do any chores.
During the week we typically do the same thing:
MON- storytime / library
TUES- errands
WED- storytime / lunch out of the house
THURS- grocery store / playdate
FRI- usually I shop for either a DIY project for me or craft for DS over the weekend; sometimes we do stay home though except for the gym
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And even though we do the same things each week, I follow DS & DD's lead for the order throughout the day. For instance, if we're having a slow morning then I usually push back going to the gym until after our daily outting.
As a side note, I caught myself reading blogs / boards / Facebook / Pinterest way too much and had to really force myself to limit those things. It's still a struggle because the Internet is addictive!
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Ugh. Yes. I can lose a whole day without trying if I'm not careful.
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We try to go out once a day, usually in the afternoon. Today we went to the toy library. I have 2 LOs and I find my days really busy.
I brush my hair as soon as I get up, but I usually wait to get dressed until after K's first nap. Mornings are for lounging in my house. I shower every 2-3 evenings, I prefer showering in the morning, but I'd rather sleep that extra few minutes. I love showering and could have one every day, but I have very sensitive skin and showering daily even without soap/shampoo irritates me.
I should add that if we have a morning appointment we have no problems getting dressed and out the door early.
I wait for DH to get home at around 4:30 before starting dinner. We share most of the cooking. If we're having something like lasagna I'll prep it in the morning while K is sleeping and it'll be ready to go in the oven when DH gets home.
I'd probably eat like crap, but I have a preschooler to feed as well so it makes me make good snacks and lunches for us both.