Second Shower

SeaSoul

I know some feel strongly that 2nd showers are uncouthe, so this is directed at those who approve or are on the fence. 

My aunt wants to throw me a second shower.  She, my mom, & best friend collaborated on my first and it was held at my aunt's house. I think it's sweet that she wants to do it again.  I used to be anti-second-shower but have relaxed over the years (yes, before this pregnancy .  So, I am cool with this...and one important factor is that my sister and her wife just moved home after 15 years on the West Coast - and they were not able to come to my first shower.  So, it's special that they will be here for this one.

I feel like this should be a less formal occasion than the last...I'd say smaller, but there were only 15 people at my last one.  I might eliminate a few friends from the guest list this time, but the rest were family and my closest friends, whom I'd want to invite anyway.

I was registered before but we didn't publicize it and I only got a few gifts from the registry (I won't register this time).  The hostesses actually did a theme where everyone was given a letter of the alphabet and asked to bring a gift that began with that letter.  Very cute & creative.

Anyway, I'm not really sure how I want this to be different, or how to convey it to my aunt - I'd say smaller, but it was small to begin with; I'd say no registry but most didn't know about the registry last time anyway; I'd say no gifts, but I know my family better than that - they'll want to bring gifts and I won't want to discourage them, because I know I would do the same.

Any thoughts?  Also, she hasn't asked for my input, so I'm not sure how I feel about bringing anything up.  She just told me she'd like to do this for me, and asked about dates.

t.bird

there is nothing wrong with going with a shower that is thrown for you. you didn't ask, they offered. stay out of the planning & enjoy it for whatever it is.

OscarQ

t.bird:

there is nothing wrong with going with a shower that is thrown for you. you didn't ask, they offered. stay out of the planning & enjoy it for whatever it is.

This.  I was very anti second shower but now I'm over it (unless the parent-to-be-again asks for it, then I'm still anti).  I say accept and stay out of it.  Since you're not going to register just look at it as a celebration for this baby and how lucky you are to have such wonderful people in your life!

superned

Maybe suggest to the hostesses that for gifts people could bring a copy of their favorite children's book?

I think for a second shower when you're team green is difficult for a gift-buying guest...clothing choices are limited and you probably don't need any gear.  I personally feel like you can never have too many books!

CBL

What about doing something after the baby arrives?

sasa625

superned:

Maybe suggest to the hostesses that for gifts people could bring a copy of their favorite children's book?

I think for a second shower when you're team green is difficult for a gift-buying guest...clothing choices are limited and you probably don't need any gear.  I personally feel like you can never have too many books!

This is what I was going to suggest. Maybe guests could bring a favorite children's book with a special message for baby written inside. Several of my friends gave us a copy of Brown Bear instead of a card and it's really special when we read it to DD and see their names in the book.

WhiteysWifey

Go for it!

My massage therapist said I should get another shower this time around, but I'm kind of ehh about it. I don't want people to feel obligated to buy us stuff, just because we got pregnant with triplets.

No one, family-wise, has mentioned a shower and honestly that's ok....it would be nice, but I'm not going to push it.