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ERae9

Hi, I am a FTM to be, and I will be raising my daughter alone. My ex and I weren't together long before I got pregnant, in the beginning things were rocky because he has a 3 year old and wasn't ready for another. When I turned 2 months things began to change for better, or at least I thought. At 4 1/2months I found out he was cheating with the mother of his first child, I immediately broke it off. Since then we have had no contact whatsoever. So now here I am 6months pregnant and single, we had plans of getting our own place and now since the past events I'm staying with my mother. I just need to talk, and advice on how I am going to do this alone.

jmepurple

Sorry to hear you are going through this.  It isn't easy.  I have a similar situation.  My DS father was cheating and I broke it off.  He hasn't had any contact with me or his son, with exception of the courts for CS. 

My only question to you is if you knew you guys weren't good then why weren't you using protection to prevent this?  Doesn't make sense to not be safe if things aren't good to begin with. 

 Anywho, the only advice I can give you is do the best you can with raising your child.  Provide a structured and safe environment for him/her.  Good luck. 

achase123

Welcome, this board is a great support. 

Advice on doing it alone?  Build up your support system.  Do you have someone (friend and/or family) who can be in the room when you give birth?  Try to set up some sort of weekly meal plan for at least the first few weeks where others can bring you dinners.  Try to also keep a list once LO is born of things that you need help with (laundry, dishes, watering plants, whatever) and put it on the fridge.  When someone comes over they will see it and pitch in, that way you don't have to ask for help.

Do you have someone who can stay with you at least initially after LO arrives?

As far as legalities, make sure that you get everything with CS organized.  Even if your X doesn't want to be involved, he's still legally obligated to pay CS.

ERae9

First and foremost things were good. Protection was used..F.y.i condoms don't always work.....Anyway I live with my mom and she is pretty much my support system along with the rest of my family.