Would you let your DH...

hall_ky

go to a strip club? And if you would, is there a condition about not getting lap dances? Or any other conditions such as a time limit there or curfew etc.?

Mouseygail

yep!!  and no lap dances would be implicit...he can look but no touching! 

that being said, he hasn't gone in when the last few bachelor parties have gone to them...he tends to split off to another bar with a few other guys that don't care to go.  

LVBlvd

No.  I feel very strongly against them.  I would come unglued if he got a lap dance.  

schmoodle

Yes, I would let him, but he doesn't have any interest. At my brother's wedding, the night before, all the guys headed out to one (spearheaded by my uncle - just lovely!) and my husband and one of my brother's best friends were the only guys to decline without giving it a thought. He thinks strip clubs are gross. (And no, I'm not the naive girl who thinks my husband doesn't have a sexual thought, I acknowledge that he likes porn as all men do - just doesn't like strip clubs). 

I don't know about a time limit, but yeah, if he went, I'd be irritated if he got a lap dance. Not marriage in jeopardy irritated, but irritated. 

ladychicago

Yes.   He's gone to a few since we've been married - mostly for friends' bachelor parties.    No lap dances (though, he finds them to be pretty gross and would never buy himself one anyways).    and since he usually only goes for a bach party/special occassion with a guy friend, the issue of time limits or curfews never comes up.    Maybe he's just feeding me lines, but he doesn't enjoy them all that much - so he's not the type that would want to stay there all night anyways.   He's even left to go back to the blackjack tables while the other guys were still there.   so yeah, I trust him completely and have no issue if he goes. 

Now, if it were a random Tuesday night at home and he wanted to go by himself?   that would be a problem.

dana316

LVBlvd:

No.  I feel very strongly against them.  I would come unglued if he got a lap dance.  

This.

 

Mrs.Babbsy

of course, i know he is coming home to me. I wouldn't mind lap dances as long as her va-jay-jay stayed in her underwear and she better keeper her panties on:)

now saying this he wouldn't let the stripper come near him at the bacholer party 2 weeks ago, where I was dancing with the guy stippers at the bachlorette party:)

 

Carrie25

I would let him, but I don't think I'd feel comfortable with it.  He wouldn't go anyways, he was never much into them.  

I think they are kind of gross though. 

TheSkimmy

DH has gone and has gotten lap dances bought by other people. It doesn't bother me. 

I've been to strip clubs and had lap dances. It's kinda fun! 

krissyh21

I have no issues with strip clubs. He has no desire in them and only goes when there is a bach. party. No restrictions - I doubt he would shell out the cash for some strange woman to give him a lap dance since he knows she is just in it for the money.

amberleeb

LVBlvd:

No.  I feel very strongly against them.  I would come unglued if he got a lap dance.  

This exactly!  If he wants to see a naked woman I will dance for him

 

Ali212

No.  I don't have any other conditions since I feel so strongly that he not go to begin with.  That said, it's really not up to me to 'let him' -- he's a grown man, if he wanted to go, he could but I would just really prefer he not.  

PrincessShay80

yes, I have no issues with this. DH isn't into that, but I know that he has gone a few times with the guys- they always get a table with bottle service and just hang out. It doesnt bother me in the slightest, I don't even care about the lap dances. A curfew- no way- he's an adult.

Maybe its living in Vegas because they are on every corner, but I am just not sensative to that stuff.

wiscgirl95

Sure, I'd let him go.  But I don't think I'd have to say anything about lap dances.  I can't see him doing that.

kittylove

When I was thinner I used to LOVE to go. DH has never been but I would be willing to take him or let him go. Now if he wanted to go by himself, I would think that odd and have issue with it. Also now that I am fat I think my self esteem would plumit if he wanted to go. Just knowing I will never look anything like that agian makes me want to cry. I just have to many body issues at this point.

PhillySue

Mrs.Babbsy:

of course, i know he is coming home to me. I wouldn't mind lap dances as long as her va-jay-jay stayed in her underwear and she better keeper her panties on:)

This! Strip club don't really bother me and I trust DH. 

naflmj

Sure, I know he has no desire to be with them...it's understood that he doesn't get lap dances and I trust he holds that end of the deal.

epphd

DH has gone for bachelor parties and I am sure will go again. I don't sweat it.  And no, no curfews- he's a grown up. 

MyShellyBelly

My DH went to one for his bachelor party...and while it was happening I didn't mind (I trust him completely to look, but not touch), but I made him take off his clothes at the door and hop in the shower right when he got home. He said I was being goofy, but I didn't want any "stripper cooties" in my home

laura&dan05

Yes, he's a grown man and can do as he pleases. He certainly doesn't need to ask my permission to go to a strip club or any where else. Every year around Christmas he goes to one with his best friend. I have zero issues with it. I've actually been to several strip clubs (both male and female clubs) and have never found it to be a big deal.

periwnkl10

There would never be a discussion of me "letting" him go because he is a grown man and would definitely make that decision for himself...but he does seem to act like he thinks they are gross. He could go, but I certainly wouldn't be happy about it. I'd rather he just play with my bewbies. Lap dance would really bother me, but again I don't think he'd ever want one. Ew.

emmyloustu

Dh has been PLENTY of times, but not recently. His own bachelor party had 2 strippers and according to all his boys, it was legendary. I don't even want to know. What I do know is that one of our beach blankets had to be thrown away - ewwww!!!

He has also had his share of lap dances, but not since we have been married, I don't think. All nude strip clubs are the deal in canada (which is like 10min from our house) and that kinda freaks me out because all I can think of is the germs. LOL! 

I have been with him a few times, though not since I got fat and frumpy. It would probably do a number on my self-esteem these days. 

I wouldn't be thrilled if he announced he was going with some friends or to one with a bachelor party, but that is because of my own current insecurities, but I wouldn't prohibit him at all. 

gabbeyh

Yes.  He has.  Not worried about lap dances etc.  I would be more worried about an emotional affair than something happening with a stripper.

GypsyEsq

Shoot, I've gone with him...

But look he's from New Orleans, land of boobs everywhere all the time so he's been going to strip clubs since puberty and far be it from me to put restrictions on something he did for 20 years before we met.  All that aside, he says he hates them because he doesn't like to buy watered down drinks to see inside what he can see outside for free (a reference to the nakedness of Bourbon Street).  Since living in Dallas he's been twice, once as the desig. driver for a bachelor party our neighbor threw (and he made $200 bucks that night ahh ya) and once with our pool guy because one near us has free all you can eat crawfish boil in the Spring for the cover charge.  Anyway, for us it's not a matter of "let" - I went to strip clubs before on my own, and with him, and he's done the same.  If he wanted to go every night then I might be concerned, but if he was that kind of guy in the first place I doubt I'd still be with him.

Sharra711

DH can go, go all you want... but if you're throwing your money at a naked woman... it had better be ME!

Only time he has/does/did go was a bach-party, and it never bothered me, but the $$ issue... THAT would cause a huge fight in our house right now.

howleyshell

Sure!

No touch?  No problem.

It's really not his thing though.

However... I'm gonna force him to go with me when we take our Vegas trip.

I do think that if he wanted to do it alone and frequently I'd be kinda WTF? about it though.

Easy to say it's not a big deal when it isn't one, KWIM?

 

BoilerSuz

He's welcome to go and do what he wants.  I know who he comes home to and what he does to me when he comes home  That being said he hasn't been since his bachelor party 11yrs ago!

browneyedgrl4282

I could careless if he goes, he can pretty much do what he wants. Lapdances freak him out, he went to his friends bachelor party a few years ago and he was grossed out by the ladies. 

JillRock96

Yes, and no restrictions.  When we were in college, a local strip club had a $10 cover and free drinks all night.  It was really a college scene.  He went with football buddies all the time, and I even went a few times with him when I was visiting him.  He has gone to several bachelor parties, in fact his own was in Vegas.  I wouldn't call it his "thing" (and he hasn't been to one since his cousin's bachelor party 5 years ago), but if he wants to go, he is a grown man and can make that decision himself.  For me it is about trust.  I trust him, and I know he loves me and wouldn't break that trust, so I don't have to let or not let him do anything. 

On a side note, my own bachelorette party included male strippers.  Not really my thing (I was mostly just uncomfortable), but I had fun with my girls.

kbeach82

I wouldn't necessarily use the word "let," but yes. He hasn't been to one since his bachelor party in Vegas (side note - we got married in Vegas and I had my bachelorette party there as well..which included going to a strip club w/male dancers upstairs, and female dancers downstairs), but he knows I wouldn't care if he went to one. As Jill said, it comes down to trust for me too and I trust my husband 110%.

RoxBride

He has no desire to go, so it is a moot point.

 

ALY1981

Yes, no big deal!

Happycouple

I have no problems with him going to a strip club...doesnt really bother me.  He has only ever gone for bachelor party type occasions.  I just think it is a terrible waste of money. 

nolachick11

GypsyEsq:

Shoot, I've gone with him...

But look he's from New Orleans, land of boobs everywhere all the time so he's been going to strip clubs since puberty and far be it from me to put restrictions on something he did for 20 years before we met.  All that aside, he says he hates them because he doesn't like to buy watered down drinks to see inside what he can see outside for free (a reference to the nakedness of Bourbon Street).  Since living in Dallas he's been twice, once as the desig. driver for a bachelor party our neighbor threw (and he made $200 bucks that night ahh ya) and once with our pool guy because one near us has free all you can eat crawfish boil in the Spring for the cover charge.  Anyway, for us it's not a matter of "let" - I went to strip clubs before on my own, and with him, and he's done the same.  If he wanted to go every night then I might be concerned, but if he was that kind of guy in the first place I doubt I'd still be with him.

I have to lol since I'm fr New Orleans!  I've definitely stumbled into one in da quarter w/ dh!   But seriously, I often laugh when I see professional wedding pics of a wedding doing the second line down bourbon and they always somehow get the Rick's sign in the background!