Introducing myself

XMrsV2005

I am now joining the ranks of single parenthood. I finally left H after months of dealing with his anger issues, mainly due to me deciding the change careers.

We tried counseling but during the sessions, he said he wouldn't be changing anything about his behavior regardless of me being willing to try to make it work.

We have two kids, a 3 yo daughter and a 1 yo son. He does want to be involved in their lives, which is good. However, he is refusing the pay for childcare or really anything despite the fact that he has a good paycheck and I only work PT.

We have both hired attorneys and have a court date set for Sept 14th. 

Not sure what else I should put out there, but I wanted to say hi and introduce myself. 

achase123

Hello and welcome (if that is the right word for this board).  I'm sorry you are going through this but this board is a great support.

 As far as him refusing to pay for things, that isn't up to him to decide, it will be based upon his salary and expenses.  You can get an idea of how much he might have to pay by Googling your state's CS calculator.  What does your attorney have to say about custody and CS?

XMrsV2005

My attorney hasn't said much actually. I am planning on meeting with her this week to discuss the CS in more detail.

The kids are living with me and he sees them a couple evenings a week and on the weekends I work. 

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cemacmil

achase123:

Hello and welcome (if that is the right word for this board).  I'm sorry you are going through this but this board is a great support.

 

I was thinking the same thing as I clicked on your post. I hope you can find some support here, know that you are not alone (even though it may feel that way sometimes even with a great support system).

Like OP, let your attorney and the state handle all CS issues - it sucks in the grey/inbetween time but there will come a time when he is held responsible and the state will handle that.