Random question?

crazynervous

If your child has to go the hospital do you let the father know and vice versa?

achase123

No, I do not.  But my circumstances are a little different.  It sounds like you may have a joint custody type of situation, no?  I would let him know in that situation and would expect the same in return.

hollinor

I do not either, but like achase said, different circumstances.

r9stedt

Yes, I do.  He is involved in his life.

Did you guys finally split?

kirbear

When dd has been to the ER or hospital I let him know. He's not the first person I call but I do let him know what happened and where we are going. We have joint legal custody and he lives local.

crazynervous

Just curious, I saw ljf's post and was just wondering what people did. DH and I are still together.

julia0402

It's in our paperwork that I have to let him know within 72 hours, and I would let him know regardless.  If I could reach him, that is, which is unlikely.  But I'd leave a voicemail or something.

LJF1218

I actually do have to let him know, even though he is not involved.  It's in our temporary order so I texted him when we went to the ER last week and when we went to Urgent Care last night.

I shockingly got no response.  But I did what I was supposed to.  I'm hoping this is not going to be a permanent requirement, though.

Expecting0207

Yes I would.  I have full legal custody but it's in our agreement that he is kept up to date and made aware of any medical issues - as he is a medical doctor and would have valuable input.

htomeo

Even though we split, husband is still 100% involved with everything. We communicate on a daily basis regarding DS. So, in my case yes, I would let him know.

katie_cj

Yes. Absolutely.

I also keep him involved in all aspects of Jake's health, including well visits, ear infections and other pedi visits.

christine_marie

I had to take DS to the ER while I was on vaction a few weeks ago. I waited until we saw the dr before I called DS's dad. If I wasn't on vaction I probably would've called him when we went. So, yes, I do/will tell him.

UnderAtree

I don't. If he didn't care about DS when he had surgery at one month old why would he care now.

nanabanana06

Nope. Though with DB and I we don't really talk anyways. I think he has contacted me like 4 times, 1 of which was a letter, since march? I have full legal custody, he lives 3000 miles away, he just now started paying CS, and he has no visitation rights. So needless to say I don't notify him of anything until he bothers to ask.

PrettyInPearls23

We haven't had to cross this bridge yet, but yes, I would let him know. It's not written into our orders that I have to, but I would assume going to the ER would involve some kind of medical decision, and we do have joint legal custody.

dimake

Yes.  If he is able to go to regularly scheduled doctor's appointments he does.  If the kids were sick on his watch usually he lets me know and we take care of it together.

ShanJosh777

When I took DS to the ER, I texted X to let him know on the way. It wasn't a life or death emergency so I had plenty of time. If God forbid something life threatening happened, my first priority would obviously be tending to DS and getting him seen asap, and I would contact his dad as soon as reasonably possible. I would expect the same from him, although he has yet to have DS alone.