how long did it take for CIO?

jenzimmer

I was just wondering how long did it take when letting you baby CIO?  A week?  A day?  Kayden's Dr. is the one who told us that we just need to let him CIO.  We took him in for our 6 mo. check up and he asked about sleep.  I said that he WAS a good sleeper until he got sick in September and now he's getting up every hour to 2 hours even though he's better.  So the Dr. checked him over, said he was healthy and that he just need to let him CIO.  I have read many books on not letting him cry.  We were putting him to bed awake, setting a bedtime routine, I started a log.  I have used white noise(still do), music, rocked him and read to him.  NOTHING IS WORKING!!!  So...we started CIO last week, first night was hell.  He cried for an hour.  But then the next couple of night he only woke up 1 time to nurse and then back to sleep!  But last night was hell!  We woke up and cried for 2 hours!  With no end in sight.  I nursed, but no luck.  After 2 hours of CIO on and off, we brought him in our room so that we could get some sleep.  At that point I was beat and needed to get up for work soon.  Anyways, just wondering how long do you let them cry?  How long did it take? 

SuperCuteBenz

You should probably ask this on the 6+ board. I would guess the majority of the ladies on this board have not done CIO, because their DCs are under 6 months.

NewlywednOhio

The longest I ever let DS CIO was 10 minutes. After 10 minutes, I go in and rock him to sleep. Now, if he is wide awake and babbling and smiley while I am rocking him, it means he's not tired. So, I take him back in the living room with me, and play with him until he gets sleepy. Sometimes, they just aren't tired right at bedtime.

I started the CIO method at 5 months, but rarely have to use it. If he does CIO, it only last about 45 seconds, and he is knocked out asleep.

IckyThump

We aren't doing CIO, but I really don't think you're supposed to let your baby CIO for an hour or more...

thomas&lynn

When you write you let him cry for an hour or more, do you mean for 60 consecutive minutes or overall????

I don't employ the use of CIO but I have read up on it and I believe there is a "progressive waiting" approach whereby you check on them in certain increments that increase but never get to be even more than 15 mins at a time w/o a check. I think.

 

Agrippa

If you're going to use CIO, I highly recommend reading Ferber's  Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems.  Here is a link that generally goes over the process:

https://www.babycenter.com/0_the-ferber-method-demystified_7755.bc

But, most people on here don't like the CIO method, so you're likely to get flamed.  Just warning you.

Erin Mary Ackerman

Hey, wow! It only took you two hours to realize that you should respond to your baby's cries.  You must have one steep learning curve.

All the CIO books I have read advocate a progressive approach and 2 hours is wayyyyyyyy too much.

 

jd0614

My babies are only 4 months old, but I'll share my experience with my 3 yo.  He had a heart condition, so we were unable to CIO until much later - BUT, we did it around 10 months - he was a TERRIBLE sleeper.  Wasn't sleeping through the night, would NOT go to sleep, etc.  It took 3 days - and only ONE was grueling.  The first night he screamed and screamed for about 45 minutes to an hour.  Slept all night.  The 2nd night he screamed for about 10 minutes.  Slept all night.  The third night he screamed for about a minute.  Slept all night.  CIO was a GODSEND for us.  Good luck!

Amrice78

Not that I'm doing CIO, but if you are letting him cry for more than 15 minutes at a time, you are doing it WRONG!  If you want to do CIO, read Ferber, it's a gradual method, it's not letting your baby scream until he falls asleep

weemodin

I seriously don't get how everyone on here gets their panties in a wad about other people letting their children CIO... Yeah, you don't have to do it, but most pedis I know recommend it if your kid can't sleep through the night by 6 mos. or so.  Not everyone is into attachment parenting (or, for that matter, can attachment parent -- it's virtually logistically impossible with twins, or triplets, especially if you work FT...)

 And, I've read the literature on AP and why letting your child CIO is bad, and honestly?  I don't think there's anything conclusive on either side of the issue.  I think this is just an issue that people are going to disagree on.  Good thing we all have our own kids.

Will I do it?  Well, my 2 already sleep through the night most of the time, so hopefully I won't have to.  But I would probably consider it after 6 months.

Good luck with your kid's sleep problems

Erin Mary Ackerman

Wee,

surely you agree two hours is excessive.  Ferber agrees with that point, as do all but Ezzo on CIO.

weemodin

Yeah, Brahim, I'll agree that 2 hours is probably too much.  My *** about it was more generally a response to all the lambasting those who CIO get on this board.

jacksonmom

We did the sleep sense solution and it says that for the first few days they may cry up to 2 hours, but the average is 45 minutes.  That being said, the way we do it is that we STAY IN THE ROOM with him and try to be as comforting as we can with small touches, singing or talking to him every few minutes, etc.  If he starts getting really upset, we pick him up and rock him to calm him back down.  Even if he's crying, he should not feel abandoned and he should not be throwing a fit.  If everything works like the book says it should, your dc should not be crying after ten days.  (Not b/c of tiredness anyway, obviously there are other reasons your child would cry).  We have been doing this for about 6 days now and he doesn't cry for more than 10 minutes at this point, but it's different for everyone.

jenzimmer

Ok, my comment on the 2 hours, was not 2 hours of STRAIGHT crying.  He started at 12, I went in at 12:50 and nursed him till 1.  Then he went back down till 1:05 and cried (on and off) till almost 2.  At that point we gave in and brought him into bed.