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Our big decision

Tanya+DaTanya+Da
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Good Morning Friends,

Well, after some soul searching and alot of discussion, we have decided to end our quest for children. OOP IUIs that have little chance of working, IVF we are not willing to do OOP (maybe even at all) have lead us to our decision. We are happy with our decision, as we always said we'd be happy with just the 2 of us. I did need some time to grieve (and am sure that will continue), but I am very comfortable with this decision, and feel a huge weight has been lifted. The failures, what-ifs, pressure are gone. For us, personally, the need for a child did not outweigh the struggle and the need to get our lives back.

I hope you don't mind if I check in on you periodically, as I have grown to cherish each one of you. I wish all of you the best and hope each of your dreams come true.

Much Love,

Tanya

Mommies to 5 fur babies!
TTC#1 since 2004
LGBT
4 cycles @ home with known donor - BFN
RE un-medicated IUI cycles # 1-7= BFN
NEW RE Clomid 50mg/ Ovidrel/ IUI #8 BFN
Took long break
Nov 2009 - Clomid 50mg/ Ovidrel/IUI #9 = BFP
Beta 12/4 - 10...Beta #2 12/7- 28 Beta #3 12/9 - 80!
1st sonogram 12/28 - slow hb and growth
m/c 1/1/2010 Courtland 8w0d
Nov 2010 cycle cancelled - polyp removal/hysteroscopy
April 4 2011 - IUI #10 BFFN
July 5, 2011 - #11 BFFN AMH .62 Boo
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  • MoFreeMoFree member
    Im sorry it has come to this but glad you and your DW are comfortable with your decision.  Wishing you peace and serenity and hope you'll remain part of the board for as long as you are comfortable.
    TTC since 3-08 IVF # 1 Dec 2011 BFP DD born at 31 weeks 6-24-12

    FET #1 Dec 2013 BFN

    FET # 2 Feb 2014 BFN

    No more frosties

    IVF #2. September 2014

    PGD yielded 2 perfect 5d blasts

    SET November 9, 2014
    Nov 23, 2014. Another BFN

    Not sure where to go from here.

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  • MBfromBMCMBfromBMC

    I'm so sorry that it has come down to this, but I hope you and DW are happier and more peaceful without all of this stress. 

    I would love to see you hang around and chime in as long as you can, but you will certainly be missed if you cannot.

    (((huge hugs)))

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    TTC since March 2009 // Me and DH - 28
    Testing Summer/Fall 2010 - Unexplained IF
    IUIs #1-4 ~ Clomid/Ovidrel/TI/IUI ~ all BFNs
    IUI #5 ~ Femara/Ovidrel/TI/IUI ~ BFN
    IUIs #6-9 ~ Research Study Meds/Pregnyl/TI/IUI ~ all BFNs
    IVF Consultation, More Testing
    Diagnostic Cycle ~ Mucinex/Progesterone/TI ~ BFN
    IVF #1 ~ Menopur/Bravelle/Ganirelix/Novarel/Progesterone/Lupron
    7R, 6F // 2 transferred // 3 frosties ~ BFN
    FET #1 ~ Estrace/PIO/Lupron
    3 thawed // 2 transferred // 1 lost // no more frosties ~ BFP!!
    Beta #1 - 456 // Beta #2 - 1176 // Beta #3 - 2933 // Beta #4 - 6753
    EDD: May 16, 2013
    Threatened MC at 6w2d
    Bedrest for SCH // 6w2d through 10w1d
    Elevated TSH and Lazy Thyroid DX @ 10w - Started Synthroid
    Finally released from RE at 13w
    Charles Everett ~ Born 5/20/2013

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    ~~ My IF Blog ~~ 

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  • Ginger71Ginger71 member

    (((hugs))) IF is IF whether you are going to pursue a life with kids or without. Of course you are welcome here as long as you are comfortable. Wink

    I'm glad you are at peace with the decision and wish you the best!

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  • thewormstheworms member
    imageGinger71:

    (((hugs))) IF VETS is here for you whether you are going to pursue a life with kids or without. Of course you are welcome here as long as you are comfortable. Wink

    I'm glad you are at peace with the decision and wish you the best!

    i paraphrased ginger's comment.  thank you for all your support and encouragement and i hope you stick around.

    wishing you much peace and ((HUGS))

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    Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles, It empties today of its strength. ~Corrie ten Boom
    Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow. ~Mary Anne Radmacher (thank you beadinglady)

    It's been a long journey. TTC since 9/06. multiple IUI's and IVF's and 4 m/c's. IVF#3 = BFP, twins, induced at 34w6d due to baby b passing away (no explanation). Delivered on 35w1d, Baby A - baby girl, and Baby B - baby boy, our little angel.
    MTHFR A1298C & C677T, Immune Issues and Factor II
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  • jessican08jessican08 member

    I'm so sorry that you've had to be here but we will certainly miss you. Please don't be a stranger!

    Wishing you and your DW lots of love and peace <3 

    TTC 12/2009
    Me: 32 - Stage II Endo / DH: 36 - Low count and morphology (1%)
    IUIs 1-3 BFN, lap Dec. 2010, IUIs 4-6 BFN
    IVF w/ICSI #1 - ER 2/8: 24R 19M 9F ET 2/13 2-5 day blasts (no frosties) = BFP - b/g twins!
    E & C Born 10/19/2012
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  • DeputiesWifeDeputiesWife

    I wish you and your DW nothing but the best.

    Definitely do check in! 

    TTC #2 since June '08

    ~*DD 10.21.07*~

    dx unexplained

    IUI #1-4 BFN

    IVF#1 June 2011 BFN

    IVF#2 Dec 2011

    Beta#1 12/21 : 812 Beta#2 12/23 : 1634

    EDD 8/25

    *PAIFW/SAIFW*

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  • Temp590840000005378Temp590840000005378
    Oh hun, I'm sad to hear this!!  I always enjoy your posts and you're such a great supporter on this board.  I hope you can stick around to chat on non IF posts.  I'm glad you feel at peace with your decision and I wish you and DW the very best!!!
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  • abvernonabvernon
    I am sorry you had to come to this decision however I wish you the best of luck in your life. hugs to you and enjoy your life with the two of you!
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  • SweetDahliaSweetDahlia
    I am really sorry it has to end for you guys, but I am glad it sounds like you have found some peace. It's good to get back to normal. Huge hugs.
    PAIF and SAIF Always Welcome!
    TTC since 2007
    6 IUIs, 3 IVFs, and 2 m/c :< PCOS, Blood Clotting Disorder & MFI
    IVF #2 Aug 2011 is a BFN:<
    IVF #3 March 2012 is a BFN
    Not sure what to do now. Sad and lost.
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  • Delta04Delta04 member
    I am sorry that it has come to this but the most important thing is that you feel comfortable and have peace with your decision - which it sounds like you have.  I wish you nothing but the best. 
    TTC since 3/07. IVF#1 = canceled. IVF#2 = 0% fertilization. IVF#3 = BFN. IVF#4 = c/p.  
    Moving forward with Adoption 2017!
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  • Mrs.VozMrs.Voz
    Tanya, I am so sorry that you even had to come to this decision but I admire your strength.  I wish you so much happiness with you and DW and nothing but the very best for you both!!
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  • Tanya+DaTanya+Da

    Reading your posts made me tear up...I am so lucky to have found you all.

    I may be around more than I thought Big Smile just can't enough of you girls!

    Mommies to 5 fur babies!
    TTC#1 since 2004
    LGBT
    4 cycles @ home with known donor - BFN
    RE un-medicated IUI cycles # 1-7= BFN
    NEW RE Clomid 50mg/ Ovidrel/ IUI #8 BFN
    Took long break
    Nov 2009 - Clomid 50mg/ Ovidrel/IUI #9 = BFP
    Beta 12/4 - 10...Beta #2 12/7- 28 Beta #3 12/9 - 80!
    1st sonogram 12/28 - slow hb and growth
    m/c 1/1/2010 Courtland 8w0d
    Nov 2010 cycle cancelled - polyp removal/hysteroscopy
    April 4 2011 - IUI #10 BFFN
    July 5, 2011 - #11 BFFN AMH .62 Boo
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  • labbylover03labbylover03 member

    What a difficult decision to make, but I wish you nothing but peace and happiness as you and your DW move forward with your life!  ((huge hugs))  Thanks for all of your support for myself and all these other awesome ladies! 

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  • emcaemca member

    I wish you the best.  It is so unfair that you had to make this decision, but it sounds like you are at peace with your decision.  Good Luck and definitely check in on everyone here!

    After 1 IUI, 3 IVF's with CGH/CCS testing, 10 early miscarriages, and lots of tears and frustration, we are moving on to Domestic Infant Adoption!  We are so excited to see what the future holds.

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  • Rachael07.07.07Rachael07.07.07 member
    I am so sorry that you have had to make this decision Tanya. I wish your quest ended with a different result. I wish you and your DW nothing but happiness and contentment in the future. As others have said, IF is IF and I know I would love to still see you around here. Good luck with everything hun! (((hugs)))
    DX PCOS w/IR 01/08.
    Currently pg with our 1st after 6.5 yrs of IF (thank you IVF)
     
    My IF/Everything Blog
    There's No Crying in Baseball
    ***My posts are always SAIFW**
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  • BeeBee08BeeBee08 member
    What a huge decision you have had to make.  I'm so sorry it is not ending the way you hoped for.  I hope you and DW have a very loving future and I hope to see you around sometimes still.  Your witty support is always smile inducing.  Good Luck and huge ((hugs)).

     
    me 33/DH 36
    ttc since 10/2008; d/x: mild MFI, stageII endo
    ~~PAIF/SAIF Welcome~~
    11 IUI’s = 1 m/c (7w4d)
    IVF#1 January 2012 BFN, FET #1 April 2012 BFN
    Surprise BFP October 2012 m/c (7w), Surprise BFP April 2013 m/c (6w4d)
    IVF #2: July 2013, ET 1 embryo 7/18, beta 1 @ 14dp3dt - 757, beta 2 @ 16dp3dt - 1762
    U/S 1 @ 6w4d = 1 little frogger with HB of 118, U/S 2 @ 7w3d measuring right on track with HB of 160
    Stick Frogger Stick! Please!!!!!!!!!!!!!   It's a Girl, EDD April 7, 2014

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  • inlove731inlove731

    That is a huge decision and good for you two for making it together and doing what is best for you.  I wish you all the best with lots of love and adventure!

    Thank you for always being so supportive!

    Stopped BCPs December 2008 TTC since June 2009 6 unsuccessful Clomid cycles Dx Annovulatory due to PCOS January 2010 DH-perfect 4 unsuccessful IUIs Began Lupron July 7 for first IVF IVF cancelled; overstimulation and coasting lead to huge drop in E2 New testing with an Endocrinologist...perhaps a new diagnosis... So, not PCOS but Hashimoto's Thyroiditis November 2010 After a looong break, started seeing a new RE. Gearing up for IVF 1.2. Beta 1=197!! BabyFruit Ticker image
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