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CPA04

I just filed a report for domestic assault.

WhatDidIDoWrong

Oh, that's terrible :-( I hope you and LO are safe now and not hurt. ((Hugs))

hollinor

Stick to your guns and stay strong....no matter what lollipop dreams or veiled threats the other party may issue.  It's all fine and good until we get other people involved and they start looking like the "bad guy".  I know from experience how difficult it is, but it is such a HUGE step when you finally get the courage to do something about it.  Just know you have to walk in the darkness for a while to get to the light on the other side.  You can do it.  ((((HUGS))))

LJF1218

I'm so sorry to hear this.  I don't know what else to say other than I hope things look up soon.

jmepurple

  I am so sorry to hear that! Good luck, stay strong!  Hopefully you have a strong support system to help you through this.  Thoughts and prayers coming your way.

lilhotcandie69

Oh sweetie I'm sorry. I hope everything works out in your favor. Stay strong.

andrew's_bride

I hope you and LO are ok. Stay strong. Thinking about you tonight.

CPA04

Thanks everyone.  I feel a little silly as I don't have any physical marks from the incident, but the officer assured me I'm doing the right thing.  I need to get a no contact order this week.  Does anyone have experience with those?  How did you include/exclude your LO?  I am anxiously waiting to speak with my lawyer tomorrow morning.

I was hoping the divorce finalization was the end of the drama.  Boy was I wrong.

hollinor

I included my daughter ( I was pregnant with the second one at the time) in the protection order.  He was only interested in her as a means to get at me.

kmartinez80

CPA04:

Thanks everyone.  I feel a little silly as I don't have any physical marks from the incident, but the officer assured me I'm doing the right thing.  I need to get a no contact order this week.  Does anyone have experience with those?  How did you include/exclude your LO?  I am anxiously waiting to speak with my lawyer tomorrow morning.

I was hoping the divorce finalization was the end of the drama.  Boy was I wrong.

It can be very difficult to get a LO included on a protection order.  XH was beginning to abuse DD, threatened to kill her, and made like he was going to throw her across the room.  I had to testify to all that in court twice (XH tried to get the protection order quashed), but because of a previous conviction for DV the judge upheld the order, but modified it so that it allowed for XH to have supervised visitation of DD.  The second protection order was much more cut and dry because the reports and testimony of the supervisors during our divorce hearings stated that XH had told them he was going to kill me and they also testified that he was a danger to DD (in AZ you can only get them for 1 year and then you have to get another one and prove they were a danger to you in the past year).

I can also say that I've seen numerous women granted protection orders for themselves, but they were denied for the children because there wasn't enough evidence to show the person was a danger to the LO and it was also pretty obvious in those situations that the women were just trying to get back at their exes.  Judges don't look kindly on women who manipulate the system to get back at their exes (I don't think this is what you're doing, just explaining why it can be so difficult to include LOs on OOP).

 I don't know what happened or what instances of abuse/violence/threats/etc. you have, but my best advice is to go in prepared.  Have the dates and times of all instances that occurred in the past year (not just the most recent).  Be specific and include exactly how your LO was in danger.  Your lawyer will probably have some good advice as well.  If you want your LO included, have you considered having the order of protection allow for supervised visitation?  My original order stated the supervision had to be by a third party that I approved of.

 Good luck and stay safe!  I'm so sorry you're having to deal with all of this.