freaking out vent

sometimesalwayschaotic

I don't know why I'm freaking out right now.  We got pregnant rather unexpectedly.  We chart so we knew darn well that I could get KU but with how long it took to get pregnant the first time I figured our chances were low.  Basically all the stars aligned and with the perfect timing it happened.  My LO#1 will be 15 months when the new baby comes.  I'm nervous about being able to handle two babies at once.  How we'll make ends meet and all that.  I know everyone who has two under 2 comes to enjoy it eventually and I'm sure I'll be the same.  Somehow we'll make ends meet and figure out this new life but it's just a bit of a shock.  Mainly I just had to get my feelings out, I think my pregnant hormones are surging and making me freak a bit.  It is rather scary to be having two in such close age although I'm sure they'll love having someone to play with who is so close to their age.  Thanks for listening!

LilCMom

My 2 are 15 months apart. It is hard; I can't lie. And yes it is expensive - daycare goes up, more diapers and buying formula again (I EBF for 3 months). I think my youngest was about 6 months before I felt like we were in a good groove and not just surviving. But the 2nd one is easier since you know what you need to do, when so much of the first one is guessing and learning. I am also very blessed that my youngest is a very easy baby and is generally happy. We also have a lot of family around to help which is a God send.

sometimesalwayschaotic

I sure hope my second one is an easier baby!  We unfortunately have no family close but luckily our expenses are low since we cloth diaper, EBF and I stay home.  Hopefully all those things will work out because then a baby does not have much added expense.  One day at a time..

jennnn32

Im in same boat as you, im due in 5 weeks with our first girl and have a 15 month old boy who is a handful.. im very nervous about it all at the same time, will she wake him up, visa versa, will he go back to wantin bottles, will she get colic, will i be able to pay attention to all 3 of my kids( have an 8 yr old also) without losing my patience... I just remind myself when i get the anxeity that people do it everyday and they seem to manage, things will fall into place as they should and we will get thru it. The babies will not be babies forever and so now is the time to enjoy it. That is the only thing that make me feel better. And double baby gear is expensive!! Good luck!

winterOT

I've also had my freak out moments, I think it must be normal (hoping for that at least!)

sometimesalwayschaotic

katherley:

Hi! I am in the exact same situation as you!. My DS will be 15 months when this one is born. It looks like we may even have the same due date.

I have a feeling it is going to be crazy but worth it!

ETA: It looks like our outside DCs are really close too! My DS was born Jan 8th, when was yours born?

 

Wow that is nuts!  My girl was born Jan. 4

MamatoJackson

Mine are 12 months apart.  Of course it's hard - It's twice the work.  I wouldn't want it any other way, though.

AmandaP678

I had freak out moments often too. Mine are 21 months apart. Like someone else said I had A LOT of trouble getting pregnant this first time and figured since I still hadn't started AF again because I was BF I was safe.... apparently not lol.

I was scared to death I'd get another difficult baby or that DS1 was my "easy' baby. But so far DS2 seems to be an easier baby.

Like others said it is challenging, stressful and crazy at times especially in the beginning, but once you get into the swing of things most of the time it's not too bad, And I love that they'll be super close in age. And I'm glad that it happened the way it did because I didn't want to go through the stress and pain of TTC again. This spared me from going through all that again. I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason.

Stardust54

I'm in the same boat as you...DS will be 15 months on Tuesday and I am due on Friday...Although I don't quite have 2U2 yet, I freaked out a lot in the first trimester too. But, you will get used to the idea and become excited about it! I cannot wait for them to meet and move on to our next "challenge" in life. I especially get excited when I see DS playing by himself and I know that I've done the best thing for him by giving him a sibling close in age. You'll do great! Congratulations!

stacey86

I have days when freaking out isnt even the word to use. But we will handle it one day at a time. My two could possibly be 2u1 if I have pre-eclampsia with this pregnancy ( i did with the last one). Im sure there is days when my husband wants to run away from me. I blame the pregnancy hormones for the horrible freak outs

Ruby_Soho

I'm not quite in the same boat but close. DS will be about 17 months when DS#2 is born. We CD and I EBF DS until I was about 14 weeks pregnant and then it was just too hard for me. He was almost 1 though so we just went straight to WCM from a sippy.

We planned 2u2 but I still had a few panic moments at the start. Then I sat down and thought it all through and made some lists. I feel heaps better now. All we need before DS#2 arrives is:
- A toddler bed, mattress & bedding for DS#1
- A second car seat

That's it. I'll wear DS#2 for the first few months so we're not going to worry about a double stroller for a while. Everything else (clothes, toys, etc.) we have from DS#1. I'm hoping to PT DS#1 before DS#2 arrives so we shouldn't even need to buy extra nappies. Even if he's not fully PT, we have 24 CD so we can just wash daily. It'll be summertime so that's easy to do.

I definitely recommend making a list or 5. Make a list of stuff you need to buy so you can buy it gradually throughout your pregnancy when sales are on. That way you're not forking out a heap of cash in one go later on. Also make a list of your worries then sit down with your DH and talk it through. Some things you're worrying about will have an easy fix.

And as for money, don't worry, you'll make it work. So far this year DH was out of work for 2 months after crashing his mountain bike and putting his handle bars through his thigh, he switched to his super low paying winter job where he worked for a month before he started a roofing apprenticeship. Now he's doing that where he gets paid at the end of a job as he's contracting so we're surviving on fumes for 10 weeks. But we make it work, we always do.

You can also look at sewing for your DC. I sew for DS, I often get old adult tshirts and jackets etc from the thrift store and make new t-shirts or pants for DS. It's incredibly easy, there's a thousand tutorials online and it's a great way to make play clothes that you don't mind getting ruined by crawling or playing in the garden etc.

mjcleve

It was pretty hard but you'll make it work!  Things are fantastic now that the youngest is 1.  And now I have the baby bug.  I tell everyone that it's 3 times the work, not 2 times the work.  It's a constant juggling act but once you adjust and get into a groove, it's quite enjoyable watching your two little ones playing together.

Congrats - you have plenty of time to warm up to the idea.