Sleep issues

FrickandFrack

DS has always been a wonderful sleeper and I used to be able to give him his paci and blanket and just leave.  Ever since we took the paci away (quite a few months ago) he needs to be rocked to sleep and will scream bloody murder if we try to put him down if he's not that tired.  How can I get him to go back to falling asleep on his own so we aren't in there for half an hour getting him to bed.  It makes me nervous for when he transitions to a toddler bed also.

KathrynMD

unless something's wrong, you need to stick to your guns, tell him its time to go to sleep - hugs, kisses, goodnight and leave.  If he cries, he cries.  Give it a night or two and he'll go back to sleeping on his own.

FrickandFrack

KathrynMD:

unless something's wrong, you need to stick to your guns, tell him its time to go to sleep - hugs, kisses, goodnight and leave.  If he cries, he cries.  Give it a night or two and he'll go back to sleeping on his own.

The only problem with this is he will cry for hours.  He is a stubborn little man.

KathrynMD

Let him cry - it'll only last a day or two and then he'll get the message.

 

FrickandFrack

KathrynMD:

Let him cry - it'll only last a day or two and then he'll get the message.

 

Sounds like a plan. Thanks for your help!

lexigrl

I have been having the same issues since we took DS1's paci away about 4 months ago...now he refuses to go to bed at night unless one of us stays in his room with him until he falls asleep or he passes out on the couch in the living room. We have tried everything, but unless we lock him in his room at night (which I would never do) he won't stay in there without one of us. Instead of fighting him to go to sleep at night we usually just let him lay on the couch untill he falls asleep as I can't spend my whole night in his room until he is asleep. I am hoping one of these days he will get back to being to fall asleep on his own...we are also potty training which I think may be causing some sleep issues. 

KathrynMD

lexigrl:

I have been having the same issues since we took DS1's paci away about 4 months ago...now he refuses to go to bed at night unless one of us stays in his room with him until he falls asleep or he passes out on the couch in the living room. We have tried everything, but unless we lock him in his room at night (which I would never do) he won't stay in there without one of us. Instead of fighting him to go to sleep at night we usually just let him lay on the couch untill he falls asleep as I can't spend my whole night in his room until he is asleep. I am hoping one of these days he will get back to being to fall asleep on his own...we are also potty training which I think may be causing some sleep issues. 

not being snarky, but what's wrong w/ locking a toddler in their room?

Becky0513

You are not alone.  We took away the pacifier two months ago and sleeping has gone downhill ever since.  DD was a great sleeper and now its a struggle.  She doesn't fight the nap so much as nighttime.  It can take me as long as an hour to get to her to sleep.  We don't believe in crying it out, its just our personal belief.  I know it works for a ton of people but its not for us.  I just hope she gets through the phase.  Good luck.

mielkede

We are having the same issue and we did not even have a paci to take away. DD used to put herself to sleep and now I find myself telling her I have to go do something and I will be back to check on her in a minute to get her from screaming bloody murder when I leave her room. I do go back, but I wait until I know she is asleep. I feel like I am deceiving her into falling asleep as she would scream so hard she would throw up if I just walk out. My only other option is to sit in there with her until she falls asleep. She is now waking in the middle of the night too and that is a whole different set of problems.

Dreamsicle23

KathrynMD:

lexigrl:

I have been having the same issues since we took DS1's paci away about 4 months ago...now he refuses to go to bed at night unless one of us stays in his room with him until he falls asleep or he passes out on the couch in the living room. We have tried everything, but unless we lock him in his room at night (which I would never do) he won't stay in there without one of us. Instead of fighting him to go to sleep at night we usually just let him lay on the couch untill he falls asleep as I can't spend my whole night in his room until he is asleep. I am hoping one of these days he will get back to being to fall asleep on his own...we are also potty training which I think may be causing some sleep issues. 

not being snarky, but what's wrong w/ locking a toddler in their room?

Seriously.  Put him in the room and say night-night.  He's not going to sleep on his own because you don't make him.

Wally3

DS just had major sleep regression. I tried sleep lady shufffle - slowly moving out of his room. Putting him back to bed no talking when he came out -super nanny style - went on for 45 mintues.  Holding the door of his room and telling him to go to bed - this worked the best - but still lots of tears but usually settled after 5 - 10 mintues.  Now I do modified ferber.  I do regular bed routine and tell him of have chores to do and I will check on him in 5 min.  Then I go back and check on him - if he was still up I would sing  song and leave again (he is usally still up), telling him I would check on him in 10 min.  If still awake 1 song then leave.  I leave quickly and confondienltly a kiss love you and I'll be back. (I read on from my DC provider if you seemed nervous or unsure they pickup on that and have more difficulty so I take that approach to bedtime). This has worked very well the last week.  He stays in bed,  he hasn't cried - less then a mintue of whining and he never stayed awake after the 10 mintue check.

Also, I was strict about nothing in bed but him and blanky but know I let him have a toy or small flash light.  I thought that would keep him up but it doesn't seem to it just keeps him in bed.

 I hope you find something that works for you.  I know how stressfull it is to have your perfectly sleeper meltdown over night.  Good luck.