Maybe we can add a bedrest list too??

Crystal318

In additional to the "what should I do for someone with a baby in the NICU" maybe we can compile a "what should I do for my someone on bedrest"......Seeing that my friend will be on best rest in the hospital for the next ten weeks (hopefully, if her baby stays in there and there is no sign of infection, etc). She is 25 weeks pregnant and her water broke last week.

I watched her other two kids for her this weekend while her husband worked but other than that I just dont really know what to do for her!

So to start the list I have:

- offer to help out with other kids if they have any

- Bring favorite foods

kck329

Maybe crafts that can be done laying in bed? Crochet, etc.

We can def make a list for this but you may have better luck on the high-risk board. I think they have a weekly bed rest check in and those ladies may have better ideas. My preemie was a surprise so no bed rest experience (though it is almost a certainty if we have another)

nasmith882

Your very sweet and your right! so, lets see....

offer to help the hubby with cleaning/meals/laundry at home so when she gets back home with her healthy FT baby that the house is all together

Denesdia

This is a nice idea.  I was on bedrest for 14 weeks with my DS and I was on the High Risk board even more than the Preemie Board for a while.  We had regular check ins, and just general support from other problematic pregnancy mamas.  I think the one thing that I wanted from everyone was to help me to remember that I had an identity and I had interests before I was just feeling like an incubator.  I could think of nothing else but the baby and every somatic sensation, so it was good to distract myself with visits or phone calls.  I was so glad for help with my DD, who was a thriving toddler during my bedrest time. 

sunshine610

Definitely send your friend to the High Risk board, I looked forward to the Daily Check Ins every day!

I would say, let your friend guide how you can best be a support. I know some people like lots of visitors, phone calls, emails, etc. I was so l was so terrified for about the first 10 of the 11 weeks I was on bed rest that I didn't want to see anybody. I saw some family when I had to, and that was it except for DH. If I was having a good day, I would send a few emails, but I never wanted to talk to anybody. Everyone has different ways of coping, and although a lot of people didn't understand it, that was mine.