Daycare: Am I over reacting?

Rocklandholly

Today was my son's third day at daycare.  They called me at work because he had 2 diahrea diapers (they didn't know this is how it always like for him), but they send you home after 3 (1 a day is his norm and he had one at home). When I spoke to the director of the center she said he was fussy and "Luckly the other babies were sleeping, so the person watching him had time to spend holding him"...This broke my heart..so they have 4 children per adult, but if a child is upset...it could be too bad, there are ohters to be taken care of..this is a large regional daycare and its summer, couldn't they pull someone from another room?

 Am I over reacting by being upset by this?  Is this what daycare is?

I am questioning our decision for daycare vs. nanny.  I felt daycare was better b/c even if one person in the room is bad (there are 3 in his room) they can't all be and w/a nanny we may not know what is going on and he's too young to tell us if something is wrong....plus we felt he would definately be stimulated in daycare.

CMDR513

From my experience working in daycares/preschools, If it gets too overwhelming in one room, they do pull other teachers in. The daycare didn't need to since the other babies were sleeping. How old is DS? It does take a few weeks to adjust to day care no matter what age. 

FWIW, I don't think you're overreacting, you are just a nervous, first-time parent (from what I read). You are second guessing yourself. Personally, I would see how the rest of the month goes. It does get easier.  

hepcats

CMDR513:

From my experience working in daycares/preschools, If it gets too overwhelming in one room, they do pull other teachers in. The daycare didn't need to since the other babies were sleeping. How old is DS? It does take a few weeks to adjust to day care no matter what age. 

FWIW, I don't think you're overreacting, you are just a nervous, first-time parent (from what I read). You are second guessing yourself. Personally, I would see how the rest of the month goes. It does get easier.  

I agree with all of this.

ASmallWonder

I think it's normal that you're upset that he's upset.  But it's not realistic to think that they can pull someone from another room to comfort him.  There are ratios that need to be maintained and there are kids in that other room that likely need care and comforting too.  The first few days/weeks at daycare can be rough but do know that he's fine and a little fussing won't hurt him.  It definitely hurts you more.

Maybride2

The 3 loose stools policy is pretty common.  It *might* be a sign of a virus, that's why they'd send the child home.

And a pp had it right - it's not always as easy as just "pulling someone" from another room...they have ratios to maintain.  They can't pull someone from another room and leave them over ratio.

I'm sure that if your child was super upset, they wouldn't have let him sit and cry regardless of what the other children were doing.  But since the other kids were having easy days, there was someone available to coddle your fussy baby.  I don't see why you're upset by this news....surely you realized that by going with a daycare vs a nanny, your child would have to share attention with other kids.

snoopy5512

Give it time.  My first week of DC I was so ready to switch... now DD loves her daycare and they do hold her and care so much for her and its not even been a month.  Sometimes though there are things I would have done slightly differently or better, but that is the control freak in me and I am MOMMY!  No one will do it as well as me.  If you still feel uncomfortable after a little bit, switch.