Toddler and wedding

jannv11

DH has a cousin getting married in a month and 1/2 about 4 hours away.  He doesn't see his family often except for wedding and wants to go and take DS who turned 2 in June.  Of course children weren't invited or at least not cousins children which I totally understand but DH sees no problem in taking DS b/c his mom talked to her sister and said kids are allowed.  Well of course she said that even thought his name wasn't on the invitiation.  I feel DH needs to get ahold of his cousin and talk to him.  I am fine going along and just going to the church and hanging out with DS in the hotel.  If the groom says it's ok maybe take DS after dinner to visit with family.  Am I being crazy and out of line????  How do I get DH to understand he needs to talk to the couple about this and not just show up with DS???

Thanks!

FrickandFrack

If the invitation did not mention kids, I would absolutely get in touch with the cousin.  He very well may not want them there.

CMDR513

Agree with the PP. I would definitely talk to the cousin (the aunt may be sugar-coating it) especially since he was not on the invitation. I would try to get a sitter to watch DS in the hotel room if DH would prefer you being there.

anna7602

smsalat:

Sorry, but I was just to a wedding that had only DH and My name on it.  It was a NO CHILDREN wedding.  We respected their wishes and did not bring DD.  I wouldn't even push the subject and just go by who is on the invitation.  You are setting up for possible hurt feelings and people wondering why you brought your child, and no one esle was able to bring theirs. 

IMHO, I wouldn't even inquire about it, and respect the wishes of the invitation.  I may be in the minority here, but that is how I feel.

This. I think it's obnoxious to assume it's okay to ask when a child's name is not on the invitation. I am part of the wedding party in my cousin's upcoming nuptials and all I said about DD was "it's a no kid wedding, right?" "Yes," she said and that was the end of the conversation. She knows very well who DD is and would have put her name on the invitation if she wanted children there. She loves DD to pieces and hangs out with us all the time, but it's her wedding and she doesn't want any children there. I respect that.

kmjbjg

smsalat:

Sorry, but I was just to a wedding that had only DH and My name on it.  It was a NO CHILDREN wedding.  We respected their wishes and did not bring DD.  I wouldn't even push the subject and just go by who is on the invitation.  You are setting up for possible hurt feelings and people wondering why you brought your child, and no one esle was able to bring theirs. 

IMHO, I wouldn't even inquire about it, and respect the wishes of the invitation.  I may be in the minority here, but that is how I feel.

This.

first-time-mama

I totally agree with PP and I dont like when ppl just show up with children.  DH and I have a wedding to attend an hour away and we will have a sitter.

jannv11

Thanks and I agree with everyone.  DH seems to think differently.  We got married 5 years ago and we didn't have children b/c it adds up to a lot of kids!  Think we'll tag along to the church for visiting time and hang out at the hotel.  Hope it has a pool! 

CNAMamaof2

We just went through this with my husband's cousin. They specifically wrote no children on the invitation to a family and friends only reception. I still called to check and was told that children are not welcome at any part of the reception. As much as it irks me, I'm just accepting that it is their decision.

LenMont

CNAMamaof2:

We just went through this with my husband's cousin. They specifically wrote no children on the invitation to a family and friends only reception. I still called to check and was told that children are not welcome at any part of the reception. As much as it irks me, I'm just accepting that it is their decision.

I've gotta ask.  If it specifically said "no children" on the invitation, why in the world did you still call to check?? 

 

jannv11

Our invitation didn't say anything about children but after hearing it from others i don't think I even want DH to ask.  Guess we'll see how much he argues with me about it. 

RoxBride

I'd call the bride directly.

And probably bring LO along, but not to the festivities unless the bride is 100 percent clear it is expected, and I'd bring a sitter from home.