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Favoring one twin over the other??
Is there anyone that is in your family, that seems to favor one of your twin over the other one.
I notice it with my Grandma, she will only spend time with one, only have a nickname for one. I really don't like that at all.
One thing is I know I love them both the same and will never favor one over the other 
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Re: Favoring one twin over the other??
I'm sorry to hear that! I don't have good advice, but I wanted to say your girls are gorgeous and I would have a hard time choosing which one to shower with love first!!
I have experienced this with my DD and my niece but they are 2 years apart and I think some of it has to do with the age difference. It was more pronounced when DD was an infant as my mom enjoys toddlers/kids more since they can interact. But with twins I'm at a loss. I'd be tempted just to point blank ask.
My guys have such definite and different personalities, there are definitely family members who click better with one or the other. I don't really get too fussed about it as long as they are treated well.
No, I don't mean equally - different kids need different things. But they should both be shown love and respect.
Is it because one is more fussy than the other and harder to handle? I can totally see someone not wanting to deal with the one that is crying all the time. But over time that will of course change and I'm sure they will stop favoring one over the other. Maybe you could gently suggest they hold the other one more and try to bond with it a little more?
"I have four children. Two are adopted. I forget which two. -Bob Constantine
"All for Love,' a Saviour prayed 'Abba Father have Your way. Though they know not what they do...Let the Cross draw men to You...."
dementia. I did ask her if she preferred Harrison over Delaney when they were really little and she point blank said yes. She said that she felt she 'knew' him and that had their own little 'secret'. Amazingly Harrison has always seemed to have an affection towards her. He will sit with her much longer than anyone else. Perhaps they simply have a connection.
She is fair with gifts etc..with both. I don't worry too much cuz Delaney certainly doesn't go without and has enough "fans"
If it were a younger person I would likely point it out or if one felt slighted as they get older I would say something but so far no harm done!
This. My IL's definitely have their "favorites" between the twins. I used to be upset about it, but I believe they're both loved equally and they're both treated equally. FIL "prefers" Jacob, but Jacob prefers FIL. MIL "prefers" (very slightly I believe) William but William also prefers MIL. They've never shooed either away or anything, but they both have a stronger connection to one twin over the other. I don't think there's anything wrong with it as long as they're both loved. William (and JR for that matter when he was younger) has an amazing connection to MIL, I don't know what it is.
Try not to get too worked up about it right now. Heck there have been times when I've preferred one baby over the other (William was always so crabby and Jacob was always so happy), but with time things even out, I never loved one more than the other, and they have no clue now that there was a time when I wanted to spend more time with one over the other. Try not to confuse preference with love, there's a huge difference.
Thank you for all the advice, I wouldn't think about it much again.
Yes their cheeks are chubby I love it
