I've never been so frustrated.

mimi1017

Why can't my child go to bed at a normal time like everyone else's LO? Seriously. I'm so freaking worn out. I pretty much want to cry every night because I get so irritated. People have told me before that I need to cut his 3rd nap out and just put him to bed. Can't do that. He will sleep for an hour and wake up and be up. It's 11:30 right now and he won't go to sleep. He got a bottle at 7:30 and then a little after 9 he started getting real fussy and he fell asleep. I put him in his crib and 2 min later he woke up..went and put his paci back in..and he then he was wide awake. My mom says 'oh just go put him in his crib and have him cry' ok yea because he NEVER cries himself to sleep. Even in the car. And then she says well it's not going to take just one night..yea I know this-but considering if I want to try to get something started she won't follow it. I come home every night and she is sitting on the chair with him asleep on her. I don't know what to do anymore. Between my child not sleeping/going to sleep SUPER late-crappy things going on at work-and 2 babysitters backing out on me days before I need someone..I'm at my breaking point.

hjohn

I'm sorry things are so stressful right now!!  I do recommend Ferber- it worked for us over 1 night pretty much (although it definitely wasn't fun).  But I did do it some for naps before that, so if your mom won't help it probably won't help you that first night much.  Have you read his book?  I seem to remember a chapter on kids when different hour days (23 or 25 hr days) that screws with their bedtime, morning awake time.  Possibly look into that and see what recommendations there are?  Other than that-hang in there!  *hugs*

mimi1017

hjohn:

I'm sorry things are so stressful right now!!  I do recommend Ferber- it worked for us over 1 night pretty much (although it definitely wasn't fun).  But I did do it some for naps before that, so if your mom won't help it probably won't help you that first night much.  Have you read his book?  I seem to remember a chapter on kids when different hour days (23 or 25 hr days) that screws with their bedtime, morning awake time.  Possibly look into that and see what recommendations there are?  Other than that-hang in there!  *hugs*

I have not read the book..but lately I have been considering trying to look into something that will help.

theprincessPAT

So I tried to post a reply and the bump ate it.  Basically I was saying that Ferber helped us, too.  Read the book it helps a lot and explains things well.

Anniee1963

Hang in there! I know it's hard because I'm there too. DS is a pretty high-needs baby. He is fussy if he isn't being held and takes short naps, usually less than an hour and often stays up until midnight and wakes to nurse many times through the night. For many babies like this crying it out just doesn't work. We tried letting him cry for short periods of time but it just escalated into a full-blown melt down and it took an hour just to calm him from that.

I recommend reading The Fussy Baby Book by Dr. Sears. I wish I had read it much sooner than I did, but just to forewarn you it's pretty much the opposite of the cry it out method. There are chapters on learning your babies cries, ways to soothe babies to sleep and tons of tips to prevent "mother burnout."

Keep in mind that all babies are different and that there is no solution that works for everyone!