Bad Timing

veenuslal

My husband and I have been TTC for over a year. Earlier this year we starting seeing a fertility doctor and I was finally put on Clomid (Which I was SO excited about). Right after I started the medication our financial situation hit rock bottom. My husband had some unsecured debt from his college days that was unpaid and now it has come back to bite us in the bottom! I was blindsided. Turns out we can no longer afford to have a baby now. I can't seem to get over it, we were so excited to start this new chapter in our lives and now I have to give up a dream I have been dreaming about for SO long. It has been hard enough for me to try to get pregnant at this age, what's going to happen when we finally are ready 2-3 years later? I don't want to be mad at my husband but I can't help but be disappointed. Depression is starting to set in...

LnA5909

That is a really tough situation.   Were you not aware of this debt?   Was he not? Debt is debt, it doesn't go away. I think if you were unaware and he was, then there definitely need to be some conversations between the two of you.  Regardless, I think speaking to a counselor would be helpful.

veenuslal

I was totally blindsided, I had no idea about his college debts. He stopped paying the bill years ago, moved around a lot while in college, stopped receiving the bills and just let it slip his mind. I had some serious questions about his finances, but I handle most of the billing in our household so I know there are no other "surprises" coming.The bad news is the debt is rather substantial. I felt really duped at first, but he honestly just forgot about it. And now more than ever I find I need his support to get through the mental loss of not being able to continue TTC. I know he was also really excited about starting our family and I imagine he feels a bigger burden on his shoulders. Thank you for the advice, it helps to talk this out with someone other than him too