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Reassurance Needed

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XH is attempting to hold me in contempt of court if I don't release LO to whomever he sends to pick him up for visitation.  Our decree states "respondent (XH) picking the child up at the beginning of each visit and the Petitioner picking the child up at the end of each visit."  Meaning - the parent must be present for the exchange of the child.  He says if I wanted him to be present for the pickup, I should have stated it in the decree.  How much more clear can that wording be?!

He claims he has to work (but coincidentally, he told me a different story).  Last I knew he was unemployed (to avoid having his CS calculation raised).  Even if he has a so called job, I'm sure it's a cash under the table job, therefore, working on a Saturday would be a choice, not a contractual obligation.  If he chooses to work instead of exercising his visitation, that's his perogative right?

Has anyone been through something similar?  What recourse does he have?  Why have an agreed upon CO if you aren't going to follow it?  I thought the drama was over. Crying

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    I believe if the CO states he has to be present for pick up, he has to be present. Stand your ground. You are not in contempt of court of following the CO. He is trying to bully you by threatening you. My EX does the exact same thing. 
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    I believe if the CO states he has to be present for pick up, he has to be present. Stand your ground. You are not in contempt of court of following the CO. He is trying to bully you by threatening you. My EX does the exact same thing. 

    Isn't it funny how their minds work?  Talk about distorted thinking!  I received a voicemail that said "won't be there tomorrow. Bye."  I'm sure this will be held against me in some fashion for a while....

    Becca - he doesn't have a driver's license, so he has to rely on other people to transport him.  Maybe he doesn't have a driver after "work?"  The best part is that he claims he is unemployed and can't pay CS, but yet he can't exercise visitation because he's working?  Huh?

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    Who is going to be doing the pick up? Jake's father always picks him up, but there are a few people (mostly other family members) that I wouldn't object to. There's no way I would drop Jake off with someone I didn't know or trust.

    Based on the wording in the CO, he can give it a shot, but there's no way a contempt charge is going to hold. You are not denying him access.

     

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    Who is going to be doing the pick up? Jake's father always picks him up, but there are a few people (mostly other family members) that I wouldn't object to. There's no way I would drop Jake off with someone I didn't know or trust.

    Based on the wording in the CO, he can give it a shot, but there's no way a contempt charge is going to hold. You are not denying him access.


     

    Nope, I even sent him an email earlier in the week to tell him he needed to rearrange things so he could be here and have his visitation. 

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