When does it get better?

KarliB84

I had twin girls three weeks ago and at times I feel like what did we do?? We have two older kids 11 and 9 so its been a LONG time since we have had a baby in the house let alone two! I feel absolutely horrible saying that because I love them so much and we fought long and hard for them but I feel so incredibly overwhelmed. When does it get bearable? I have heard over and over that the first 6 weeks are the hardest so if that is true I am halfway there!! Please tell me that it gets "easier" or at least that I am not alone in feeling this way!

natb22

The girls are my first babies, so I dont know what it is like to have other children at home and 2 newborns. BUT i can tell you it DOES get better SOON. For us, it was when the girls turned 5 weeks. They started sleeping more then 2 hours at time at night. Only about 3-4 hours at a time around 5 weeks but still made it MUCH easier to function all day and night. I'd say between 6-8 weeks was our real turn around.

The first 5 weeks I just felt like a zombie all the time. It was HARD. At 3mo they started STTN which is a miracle to us lol. I thank babywise and miracle blankets for that. GL and hang in there

 

tmbuchmann

The first 6 weeks are really, really hard. You are just on auto pilot and going throught he motions. It got better around 5ish weeks for me, when they started to smile at me, that helped. Then when they were able to be a little more idependent, sitting up, holding head better, stuff like it gets better!

The thing that really helped me was that on my maternity leave people would come over in the afternoon and I would just sleep (for like 3-4 hours) And at night I was lucky to average 3 hours at night.

I will tell you, that the twins will be one next week, and we are all sleeping through the night now, I'm much happier, and so are they. When I was three weeks in it felt like it would never end, and now here we are, at almost a year and I will have to say, I'm loving every minute of it!

Hang in there, it WILL get better!

KarliB84

It makes me feel SO much better to hear that it does get better! The girls love to be swaddled but we don't have any specific swaddle blankets, just the regular receiving ones. So you would recommend getting those? Thank you so much!

kafunder

You are definitely not alone in feeling this way. I felt like that for the first few weeks, and then around 6 weeks, things got easier, and the feeling went away for the most part. Around 4-6 months were pure hell b/c of the 4-month sleep regression, colds, growth spurts, etc. and the feeling came back, and I think I was dealing with some PPD. But, at 7 months when they started sleeping better, everything finally got easier and things fell into place, I stopped feeling that way, and started really enjoying the babies. They are just so wonderful now. What you're going through is normal. It's a huge life change, no matter how long you tried for it. 

Good luck! 

kafunder

Get Miracle Blankets. Those things saved our lives. They were the only ones that the LOs didn't bust out of. Seriously. I sent DH to BRU at 9:15pm one night to get them b/c we were desperate for anything they wouldn't Houdini their way from b/c they loved to be swaddled but also like to fight it for the first few minutes.

KarliB84

Thank you all so much! Once my mom gets here I am going to head over to BRU and get some Miracle Blankets! My husband is a firefighter so that makes things so much harder with his schedule, he took off a week and a half and it was so wonderful! Luckily my mom comes and helps the nights he works otherwise I have no idea what I would do!

KarliB84

Off topic question, how do you add a pictures to your signature? I have tried getting a code from Shutterfly and adding it and it just gives me an error code, what am I doing wrong?

natb22

KarliB84:

Thank you all so much! Once my mom gets here I am going to head over to BRU and get some Miracle Blankets! My husband is a firefighter so that makes things so much harder with his schedule, he took off a week and a half and it was so wonderful! Luckily my mom comes and helps the nights he works otherwise I have no idea what I would do!

definately get miracle blankets, they were an enormous help for us. The receiving blankets were crap compared to them LOL.

I see you got your siggy pic added too, ADORABLEE!

MontyMrs

Hang in there!  

   I know how hard it is in the beginning but it does get easier, I promise.  I found things getting much better after 3 or 4 months and now I'm outright LOVING having multiples after feeling exactly as you do in the early days.  

  Those days feel like a huge blur now. 

blondek8

I shudder to remember the first couple of months when the twins were born. It was cold and miserable here and they screamed. A lot.

It gets better. Promise. It didn't get better for me for a long time and I still have plenty of days where I would rather curl up in the fetal position and sleep but c'est la vie. When they started STTN a consistent 10-12 hours and napping regularly throughout the day it made a HUGE difference. That didn't happen for us until 6 months though.

My guys are 10 months and hilarious. My husband and I were laughing at them and their antics so hard yesterday that I couldn't catch my breath and had tears streaming down my face.

jdancer5

I felt the same way... For a long time, unfortunately. Our boys were 6wks early, so everything seemed to take longer from smiling to sleeping. By 4 months it started to get better because they were going to bed earlier, so I had evenings to rest, take care of the house or whatever. By 5mo BF sessions were also getting much shorter & I stopped pumping, which freed up a lot of my day between those two. At 6mo they started STTN so I'm finally feeling more like myself again. So... Even if theyre slow to sleep there's still hope! Congrats on your beauties & good luck.

babybash

Don't worry you won't remember the first six weeks a year later - it all becomes a blur!!  Good times are upon you 

violaplayer

So far, it has seemed to improve a lot at the 6 week, 3 month and 6 month marks. At least, it becomes different challenges.

CinemaGoddess

blondek8:

I shudder to remember the first couple of months when the twins were born. It was cold and miserable here and they screamed. A lot.

It gets better. Promise. It didn't get better for me for a long time and I still have plenty of days where I would rather curl up in the fetal position and sleep but c'est la vie. When they started STTN a consistent 10-12 hours and napping regularly throughout the day it made a HUGE difference. That didn't happen for us until 6 months though.

My guys are 10 months and hilarious. My husband and I were laughing at them and their antics so hard yesterday that I couldn't catch my breath and had tears streaming down my face.

This.  Except we have girls and they're 9 months old. 

amanda31H

I always say that the first 6 weeks were the hardest.  Once the girls started sleeping 7 hour stretches around Week 9 it got so much easier.  The hardest part for me was not getting any sleep.

By 3 months we were very settled with our new lives and felt like it was our new normal.

I swear by the  Miracle Blanket.  They totally live up to their name!!!

You're in the really difficult stage right now- just hang in there! 

 

MrsLnt

CinemaGoddess:

blondek8:

I shudder to remember the first couple of months when the twins were born. It was cold and miserable here and they screamed. A lot.

It gets better. Promise. It didn't get better for me for a long time and I still have plenty of days where I would rather curl up in the fetal position and sleep but c'est la vie. When they started STTN a consistent 10-12 hours and napping regularly throughout the day it made a HUGE difference. That didn't happen for us until 6 months though.

My guys are 10 months and hilarious. My husband and I were laughing at them and their antics so hard yesterday that I couldn't catch my breath and had tears streaming down my face.

This.  Except we have girls and they're 9 months old. 

Double this except mine are B/G and 9 months.

The first milestone back to "normalcy" for me was when they dropped the nighttime feeding at 11 weeks.  Not having to feed babies at 2:30 am was one of the happiest days of my life.   It feels like forever but you get through those first few months.