Do they um.. keep you covered up?

Erin2007

I'm very modest as well and I was told over and over I wouldn't care (long before I was due to have my first LO) and I kept reassuring people, I would definitely care and I did.  I was as covered as they would let me be and refused people in the room.  The worst for me was being stitched up afterwards as I felt I was even more exposed (and much more uncomfortable).  I asked repeatedly for them to be mindful of this and they did as best they could.  It's really humiliating and no matter how many times I hear people say "they do this all day, they don't care" it wasn't about them, it was about me.  I don't do this all day and they needed to respect that.

 Speak your mind (kindly). 

Good luck!

Erin

forensicmama

Trust me. You really don't care who sees your vagina when you're in labor. I suppose if you're especially modest, you could request that you be covered up a little bit, but in the end they will need to be able to see your vagina clearly enough to help the baby out, do an episiotomy or stitches, use a vacuum or anything else, see the baby's head and its position, etc., so they'll probably push the cover back because I'm sure that'll just get in the way! If you're concerned, just ask your mom and DH to stay near your head!

Ariana2O11

I think if you're really concerned about modesty, put it in your birth plan that they need to put a sheet or whatever over your legs and talk with any loved ones who will be with you beforehand that they need to stand over you and not look down there.

MrsHK

TanyaKM:

christiney06:

trust me, you'll want YH there! i can't believe that you are even thinking about not having him in the room b/c your vag. will be exposed!  has he never seen it?? he can stay up by your head if he is squeamish. 

That was my first thought too...  

I read it as though she was second guessing adding her mom to the room, DH was just a given on the list. 

corrieg

etoyama:

Yeah expect to be fully exposed from the waist down. This is why I find it mind boggling when people want their fathers/brothers/FILs present for the birth. I think I'd rather die, thanks.

 

omg! me too!!! NO BOYS ALLOWED, YUCK! It's an intimate thing and I def. dont want FIL's Brothers or even my own dad in the room at that point... except my hubby and he needs to stay above my waist! lol... if that is possible! My mother, sister and Hunny! That is it!

CalinsBride

cszlachta:

I would say you are pretty much dangling in the wind from the waist down, but honestly...labor tosses your modesty out the window.

 I think I'm the odd woman out, because L&D did nothing to decrease my modesty. I was fine with my female nurse and doctor being in the room, but the male intern made me extremely uncomfortable and I'm glad only my midwives will be there this time around. I actually remember being embarassed and wishing the intern would leave and give me some frickin privacy. I'm also still too modest to get a bikini wax, and I still feel embarassed at gyno exams. I definitely care who is in the room, and would never have a family member, friend, or anyone besides my DH and medical professionals in the room while giving birth.

alt0925

My last DD was almost 12 years ago, so things may be different now but I didn't lost any modesty and I was so embarrassed about being so exposed. (my mother and grandmother were there) I asked if they could cover me and they draped a sheet over my legs so that my mom and gram couldn't see but the docs could. My family stayed up by my head so it blocked their view. I plan to make the same exact request this time even though it will be me and h in the room, I still don't feel comfortable with it all hanging out.

p.s. I am actually not new, my old account somehow got messed up so I made a new one.  

FabulousMrs.P

Nope. You're pretty much just out there for the room to see. Although my mom tells me that you really don't care by that point!