Mixed Emotions...

elizxu

I meant to post this in February, not 1st Trimester, so it's a double post - sorry!

 My DH and I went for the NT screening today and things look good. It was the first time we've seen the baby or heard the heartbeat (168). The baby is measuring a few days smaller (11w, 5d) but they aren't going to change the due date. The screening went well and the doc got the measurements needed. In her opinion, things look good and normal. The blood work will come back next Wednesday. We had to do the u/s 3 different times, b/c the baby was sleeping and wouldn't cooperate. Finally, after a sprite and walking around the baby woke up and decided to play along. My DH saw "something" between the legs & the tech agreed that there was something there besides the cord. He immediately started patting himself of the back for making a boy, but I'm sad. I have always wanted a little girl and thought in my heart that this baby was a girl. So, Highs of having a healthy pregnancy & amazing life growing inside of me. Low because I feel a little sad it might not be a girl like I want/thought. Not that I don't want a boy, I just kinda wanted to have a little girl first.  

mkjones4

Don't get too upset just yet! Boy/Girl genitals really look the same at 12 weeks. Meaning, regardless of what you are having, there is going to be something in between the legs besides the cord! Check out this website, it shows it all in more detail...

https://www.baby2see.com/gender/external_genitals.html

kimmie321

Sorry, but you should just be happy that the baby is healthy. Fairly certain you knew it was a 50/50 chance of each gender going into this pregnancy.

soralette

mkjones4:

Don't get too upset just yet! Boy/Girl genitals really look the same at 12 weeks. Meaning, regardless of what you are having, there is going to be something in between the legs besides the cord! Check out this website, it shows it all in more detail...

https://www.baby2see.com/gender/external_genitals.html

Definitely this!!! Don't worry.

I'm glad the rest of the screen went well, though!

missy168

i totally understand your feelings.  i worry i will feel the same.  obviously we all want healthy babies but for some reason, we sometimes have an affinity towards one or another.  i think the moment you see your baby, girl or boy, you forget those initial feelings every existed.

MollySm

I think it's normal to feel a little let down if you had your heart set on one or the other . I'm sure it will take a little time (researching cute baby boy clothes, toys, etc.), and the excitement will come right back.  I wouldn't worry about it!  

KALP83

If it is a boy, don't be sad.  With my first, I wanted a girl desperately, but I got confirmation around 15 or 16 weeks that is was definitely a boy.  I will admit I was a little sad but got over it very quickly.  Boys are lots of fun and very loving.  My handsome DS is in my sig and I wouldn't change him for anything in the world!

blondiemama09

Let me just tell you ... I saw the EXACT same thing during the NT scan w/ my DD! I remember thinking - that is NOT an umbilical cord either, b/c it "ended", whereas an umb. cord wouldn't (if you know what I mean?). I swore it was a boy. Went to the 18 week u/s, and it was a girl!

I just want to give you reassurance that it could still be a girl, however, I think you should still prepare for a boy ... b/c you have a 50/50 chance of getting one, you know? 

ladybuggirls99

It's okay to feel that way.  I've always wanted a boy, but it doesn't change how much I adore my daughters.  I can't even imagine having a boy at this point.  I'm not religious, but I believe that it's more than just luck either way.  We get what is best for us at the time.