FFFC -- Enter at your own risk:)

JenniferAnnes

double post

lily87

BarefootAndSinging:

Ok, my FFC, and this is not to offend or judge.... I do not believe in colic as it's generally used - aka sustained periods of regular crying in an otherwise healthy baby. If the term is referring to an actual issue of some kind of gastrointestinal symptom/pain, then I can understand it a little more. But still to just diagnose a baby as colicky, settle with the fact that it will eventually end, and move on with no solution, makes my heart break. I feel like sometimes if parents or drs can't figure out what is making Baby cry, they just give up and say the baby is colicky. (This was happening with us with DS2 for a little while, but I was never comfortable just settling with the diagnosis of this general, catch-all term.) I very firmly, 100% believe that baby's do not cry for hours on end for no "real" reason. If a baby is crying that much, there is a reason. And a solution. Obviously they cannot tell you why they are upset or what's wrong or what hurts, so they cry. There is a reason. You just have to find it. Just my opinion.

Did you end up finding a reason with your son? Just curious?

JenniferAnnes

I've officially decided that people are effing morons.  Throughout this entire pregnancy I've constantly been told by people that I'm "huge", even though I didn't actually feel huge until this past week.  Of course, yesterday I have 1 lady ask me if I'm sure I'm gaining enough weight b/c I look really skinny, and another lady ask me whether I am pregnant.   Seriously?!  So a month and a half from my due date I'm suddenly skinny and the giant baby bump can be confused for a beer gut? 

(I realize this is more of a vent than a FFFC, but whatever...I like Natkay's philosophy that I can do whatever I want now that I'm (rounding up) 8 months pregnant haha)

PurplePanda83

@amandapaige - that is awesome! That guy totally had it coming. I get just as mad when I see people take advantage of handicap spots. They are reserved for specific people for a reason!

@Veronicafvr - LOL! I hope that lady found that particular bottle of water to be the best she's ever had!

@alynjohn - Thank you! I'm glad I'm not the only one tired of people prodding around for misery. I'm happy dammit!

ktshafra

elynds:

Since I know I won't be pregnant for much longer, I have a mental list of people who I need to *** at before I deliver while I still have the pregnant/bitchy excuse.  So far, I've made it through most of my list, but now I feel like I'm down to a time crunch.

I wish I had done this! I don't think the main people I want to ***** at would let me use pregnancy as an excuse though. Basically because they really are that b****y. 

ac5008

Im the worlds least friendly neighbor. We bought a house on a private road, and everyone knows everyone - which is great. But our neighbors are ALWAYS together (the women all day, and the men as soon as they get home from work). I feel like a sh!t because we dont say much more than hellos and how are yous.

I just cant take that much ?together? with anyone. So now Im the biznatch of the block. Whats worse is that Im okay with that because at least I get to eat my Doritos and watch Dr Phil in peace.  

eortman

I have been having contractions on and off all week, which is not unusual for me. It happened with DS, too and he came 10 days late.  However, I used the contractions as an excuse to not drive to my class this weekend.  Thankfully, my teacher let me get away with it and I am now just doing a video presentation.  I'm sure I would have survived the trip, but it would have been very uncomfortable, so I don't feel too guilty.

chrissy&j

AmandaPaige6410:

1) MIL can not get here fast enough today. DS in in an "I'm going to test Mommy about everyeffingthing" phase and I'm on the verge of a nervous breakdown. I feel bad, but I am really looking forward to some alone time.

2) I usually don't use the reserved pregnancy parking spots, but last weekend it was a 110 heat index here and as I was driving to the grocery store I fully intended on using one of the spots. I pull in and there are none available, ok so I pull farther back and park out in bfe. As I am walking to the store, I am passing a spot and a man, about 35-40 is alone and loading his 2 bags into the car. I couldn't hold myself back. "so when are you expecticting you selfish sonofabiitch?" He started to apologize but I cut him off with, "no no. I won't keep you any longer. I know you must be miserable in this heat."

I 99% of the time would have said nothing, but it was hot as balls and I was crabby about being there in the first place.

You are my hero today! You're a total rockstar!!!

BarefootAndSinging

ETA: This is in response to Lily87. Evidently I didn't quote it.)

(Wow, this got long. Sorry.) Yes. It was related to eating/gas and it took a couple weeks to really figure it out. I bf and he was great at it right from the beginning. I believe what happened was after he had a growth spurt early on, my supply just never caught up. I'm sure this was my fault because I also had a 22-mo old which made it very difficult for me to just sit and let DS2 feed off and on all day - which is what he needed. I'd let him eat (and he did, well), but when he stopped sucking, I would have to get up and do other things. So basically I think he just gradually stopped getting enough. He'd latch, suck, and then just start crying = swallowing air. I think it was because nothing was coming out fast enough by then. I'd feel my milk let down and knew I was producing, but he was just so frustrated and hungry that he would quit trying and just cry. So I tried pumped bottles then. He'd suck so hard, bc he was so hungry, that he'd choke and swallow more air. Then refuse to try again and just cry. Enter: gas. But then we thought maybe he wasn't really hungry and that wasn't the problem since he wouldn't drink the bottle. But nothing else made him any happier. It was unbelievably frustrating and heart breaking not knowing what the problem was. And seeing my baby so upset. (We used the gas drops and I even changed my diet in case it was something I was eating. We found out he was sensitive to dairy, but it didn't help enough.) So we didn't stop tying. We eventually settled on a lactose sensitive formula and after a few days of using the bottle, he began to be not so starving hungry all the time and figure out how to use it, slowly.  He has genuinely been one of the easiest, most content, best sleeping (I've been spoiled for sure) and chubbiest babies I've ever known since then. And the whole experience just made me think about how many parents may have just given up and gone with the dr's diagnosis. And how long their baby would have had to hurt before they finally tried harder to find a solution.

I'm not saying that tummy problems do not exist and do not get aptly diagnosed as colic. I just think that merely having that diagnosis (for which there is no general, cure-all solution) should not stop someone from still trying to discover the actual reason behind all the pain/tears. 

laurelnikki

My doctor drives me bonkers. last appt. I had gained about 3lbs (in 2weeks) and he literally began reaming me on what I have been eating. I think it might be swelling or something but he told me no and to not drink juice or eat peas (wtf?) My blood pressure and sugar are fine! so the past two weeks I have been calorie counting EVERYTHING even measuring my hummus and carrots so that I can bring in all this data to the next appt and be like look I don't eat doughnuts all day and twinkies if that's what your thinking so tell me whats up DOC!

Leahanna21

I always freaked out about the idea of having stretch marks on my stomach, Well god listened ....

He put them on my A** & Boobs instead. Fantastic.

BarefootAndSinging

Azrayla:

BarefootAndSinging:

I always associated colic with a gas issue.. My cousins ffirst child would cry all day every day.. shed only stop in her bouncer if wed bounce her.. I was main baby sitter and totally taken advatage of (we were roommates at the timeme).. shed go to work 9am and come.home like 10pm (I worked overnights) and spend maybee 15-20 minutes with her screaming child before she had enough and llet her cio in the room.. she never took her to the dr to find out if something was wrong.. it was awful but she didnt care since she was hardly home..

 

ETA: also DD never had colic but she had a mmoth long period where shed cry from 6pm-midnight for no reason aat all... the "witching hour" I think its called.. I was told thats nnormal though

 This story of your cousin's baby is exactly the kind of story I'm talking about. It honestly makes my heart hurt for that baby.  (Sidenote: I loathe the term CIO. And generally infants who are of the age to be diagnosed as "colicky" are not old enough that they should be forced to CIO yet. Also just my opinion.) And you should have never been left to deal with this.  The whole thing makes me sad.

msmarsh

MaryHCagle:

2)  I still LOVE sexytime.  I LOVE it so much, that I may have assumed the male role in my relationship in that I do not want sensual, soft, sweet blah blah blah.  I want a good ol' fashioned, well you know the rest.  My husband is scared to participate and therefore avoids these occurences with me.  Who is the pregnant wife again?  Now give me what I want.

This made me laugh. I think YH and mine must be on the same wave length. I'm not allowed to have sex per my Dr but that doesn't mean I don't want to play around... but MH is too scared. I just want to yell "Come on you pu$$y and do something about it!" Totally not normal for me 

@Katywren- WHile reading these FFFC I was drinking a cup of coffee and now feel the urge. I'm so excited, except for the fact that I'm at work.

@Amanda Paige and Veronica- You all are inspiring me to pull some pg BSC out this weekend and do something off the wall 

My FFFC- A coworker asked me the other day if I was feeling fat and miserable (such a sweet thing to say, right?) and I just smiled and said I've never felt more beautiful. It was a total lie, but she is not exactly gorg herself and I got the feeling she was asking just to try and make me feel bad. Biitch.

Every time I go to the bathroom I have to fart. It's got to the point where I will not go in a public restroom unless I can be assured that no one else will come in while I'm going. I just can't control the urge or the volume....

chrissy&j

veronicafvr:

An annoying lady in my office brings in bottled water from home that she fills using one of those osmosis things that charges the water too. She goes on and on about how gross the water fountain water is and even asked me if I am sure it is safe to drink while pregnant. IT'S FILTERED, LADY! So yesterday I snuck into the fridge, grabbed one of her fancy refilled waters, dumped it out, and filled it with water fountain water lol. How evil is that?! I'm sure her fancy tastebuds won't even notice.

This is fantastic!!!

mishele

@AmandaPaige6410 - that might be the most fantastic thing I've heard all week.  Good for you!

@veronicafvr - I nearly peed myself when I read yours.  You'll have to post an update to see if she noticed or not

@PurplePanda83 - 100% with you.  Yes, I'm achy, slow, and uncomfortable most of the time but I'm not miserable and I wouldn't give this up for the world.

Mine is that I'm starting to take a kind of sick pleasure in thinking about my two peers struggling while I'm out on mat leave.  I'm one of 3 managers in my department.  The other two guys seem to have forgotten the "manage" part of their title.  Example - this weekend is a working weekend, not for my group but for both of their groups.  If our facilities department doesn't know people will be in the building, they don't pump up the AC.  Meaning it will be almost 90 degrees in here.  On a whim, I asked them if they notified anyone and of course, they did not.  So, basically, if I wasn't here, their staff members would be walking into a sauna.  Nice management. 

italnprncss78

Pina:

I finally did it, I peed in my own shower.  I was grossed out by doing it, but I was covered in paint and couldn't touch anything to go on the toilet.  It's exceptionally gross because I sit down in the shower every day to relax and I have only cleaned my shower once since being pregnant.  (In my defense, I've only peed once, okay maybe twice in there)  So now it's like I am sitting in old pee.

I am SO proud of you!!

 

alcammor

I am working from home today for the exact same reason (had them with my dd and went 2 weeks late). i am sure i could have handled the office, but it is way nicer here in my house:)

MaryHCagle

msmarsh:

MaryHCagle:

2)  I still LOVE sexytime.  I LOVE it so much, that I may have assumed the male role in my relationship in that I do not want sensual, soft, sweet blah blah blah.  I want a good ol' fashioned, well you know the rest.  My husband is scared to participate and therefore avoids these occurences with me.  Who is the pregnant wife again?  Now give me what I want.

This made me laugh. I think YH and mine must be on the same wave length. I'm not allowed to have sex per my Dr but that doesn't mean I don't want to play around... but MH is too scared. I just want to yell "Come on you pu$$y and do something about it!" Totally not normal for me 

@Katywren- WHile reading these FFFC I was drinking a cup of coffee and now feel the urge. I'm so excited, except for the fact that I'm at work.

@Amanda Paige and Veronica- You all are inspiring me to pull some pg BSC out this weekend and do something off the wall 

My FFFC- A coworker asked me the other day if I was feeling fat and miserable (such a sweet thing to say, right?) and I just smiled and said I've never felt more beautiful. It was a total lie, but she is not exactly gorg herself and I got the feeling she was asking just to try and make me feel bad. Biitch.

Every time I go to the bathroom I have to fart. It's got to the point where I will not go in a public restroom unless I can be assured that no one else will come in while I'm going. I just can't control the urge or the volume....

I don't understand why they are so upset about doing it, well maybe your H bc you aren't supposed to partake in sexytime.   What don't they get, the uterus is a strong muscle and the cervix is sealed shut?  My Dr. even has a speech he supposedly gives at the part of the pregnancy where he tells the wives to just let their H's go at it.  No sweet stuff.  The other night I threatened that if my H wants to continue to be stingy I am going to purchase a toy, and not to let him watch.

 

dianamcu

Pina:

I finally did it, I peed in my own shower.  I was grossed out by doing it, but I was covered in paint and couldn't touch anything to go on the toilet.  It's exceptionally gross because I sit down in the shower every day to relax and I have only cleaned my shower once since being pregnant.  (In my defense, I've only peed once, okay maybe twice in there)  So now it's like I am sitting in old pee.

I pee almost daily in my shower, and I still sit in my shower and am not disgusted.  The water washes it down!

Though I typically clean my shower weekly.

dianamcu

AmandaPaige6410:

1) MIL can not get here fast enough today. DS in in an "I'm going to test Mommy about everyeffingthing" phase and I'm on the verge of a nervous breakdown. I feel bad, but I am really looking forward to some alone time.

2) I usually don't use the reserved pregnancy parking spots, but last weekend it was a 110 heat index here and as I was driving to the grocery store I fully intended on using one of the spots. I pull in and there are none available, ok so I pull farther back and park out in bfe. As I am walking to the store, I am passing a spot and a man, about 35-40 is alone and loading his 2 bags into the car. I couldn't hold myself back. "so when are you expecticting you selfish sonofabiitch?" He started to apologize but I cut him off with, "no no. I won't keep you any longer. I know you must be miserable in this heat."

I 99% of the time would have said nothing, but it was hot as balls and I was crabby about being there in the first place.

Kudos to you. 

Amanda&EricB

I had my normal once a week NST this morning. The nurse kept coming in and saying she wanted to see this or that and that the baby wasn't cooperating. I mean, his heartbeat was strong and steady but he wasn't doing what she wanted him to do (but I have no idea what that was). Anyhow, she said she'd give me/him 10 more minutes and if he still hadn't cooperated I would be getting an u/s.

I selfishly wished he would be a bugger just a little bit longer so I could see him on the u/s today. I obviously didn't want him to be having trouble but if it was just something that he was being ornery about, I would have loved to see him again.

Amanda&EricB

Sorry, double post for some reason.

brit072206

Veronica and AmandaPaige take the cake for me today! Nice job ladies!